Comments on: Are Black women more likely to be single? http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/ The community that fuses fun and romance Thu, 09 Feb 2012 23:28:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: MzBrOwNSuGaR http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31555 MzBrOwNSuGaR Sun, 25 Jul 2010 06:17:55 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31555 @ 23ebony: Yes indeed you made sense. ^5 @ 23ebony:

Yes indeed you made sense. ^5

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]]> By: MzBrOwNSuGaR http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31554 MzBrOwNSuGaR Sun, 25 Jul 2010 06:16:19 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31554 @ Sexulous : Very very good post. @ Sexulous :

Very very good post.

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]]> By: tatted2death http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31553 tatted2death Fri, 16 Jul 2010 07:21:17 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31553 VERY well said, 23 Ebony.... So True and So Real...good work, sis....you made MUCH sense. Peace and Blessings tatted2death VERY well said, 23 Ebony….

So True and So Real…good work, sis….you made MUCH sense.

Peace and Blessings
tatted2death

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]]> By: 23ebony http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31552 23ebony Thu, 08 Jul 2010 23:37:14 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31552 This issue so complex I don’t think any of us can completely wrap our head around it. But I will say this. The very thing that makes black women stand out, strength, is at times the same thing that works against us. As black women we are taught to be strong, independent and preserver through everything that thrown our way. Due to this we have had to take on masculine and feminine characteristics. We have had to adopt to being single (im speaking in general to make things easier) and be both the mother and the father since slavery days. Its because of this mentality some of us have a heard time allowing men to be men (through performing masculine traits) by relying on them and performing more feminine traits. I am not saying this is right. I am saying subconsciously we associate certain traits to masculinity and others to femininity which acts as part of our identity. Women from other cultures are not portrayed to be as masculine as us in the media. I blame society and the fact that we live in a patriarchal society that oppresses all women, but especially black women because we are placed at the bottom of the social hierarchy. Stereotypes of gender and race needs to be eliminated all together (as a side not, asian men are portrayed as passive which is a “feminine” trait in the media. They are put at the bottom just like black women. They too like black women are least likely to get married.) Then there is the issue that some black woman will only date black men and the percentages of coupling do not work in their favour. The female population far outnumbers the man population as a whole so obviously not everyone is going to end up married. Then you have to take into account education, family upbringing and cultural ideals of what beauty, masculinity and femininity is. This issue is a product of all these invisible forces that affect on a daily basis. As far as I am concerned its just another thing that makes us beautiful. Black is beautiful! There are lots of guys out there who see it to. We just have to make some MINOR changes WITHOUT compromising like: approaching guys, setting REALISTIC standards (if you don’t work out don’t expect to catch a guy with a 6 pack), looking at possibilities outside our race, etc. I hope I made sense. This issue so complex I don’t think any of us can completely wrap our head around it. But I will say this. The very thing that makes black women stand out, strength, is at times the same thing that works against us. As black women we are taught to be strong, independent and preserver through everything that thrown our way. Due to this we have had to take on masculine and feminine characteristics. We have had to adopt to being single (im speaking in general to make things easier) and be both the mother and the father since slavery days. Its because of this mentality some of us have a heard time allowing men to be men (through performing masculine traits) by relying on them and performing more feminine traits. I am not saying this is right. I am saying subconsciously we associate certain traits to masculinity and others to femininity which acts as part of our identity. Women from other cultures are not portrayed to be as masculine as us in the media. I blame society and the fact that we live in a patriarchal society that oppresses all women, but especially black women because we are placed at the bottom of the social hierarchy. Stereotypes of gender and race needs to be eliminated all together (as a side not, asian men are portrayed as passive which is a “feminine” trait in the media. They are put at the bottom just like black women. They too like black women are least likely to get married.)

Then there is the issue that some black woman will only date black men and the percentages of coupling do not work in their favour. The female population far outnumbers the man population as a whole so obviously not everyone is going to end up married.

Then you have to take into account education, family upbringing and cultural ideals of what beauty, masculinity and femininity is. This issue is a product of all these invisible forces that affect on a daily basis. As far as I am concerned its just another thing that makes us beautiful. Black is beautiful! There are lots of guys out there who see it to. We just have to make some MINOR changes WITHOUT compromising like: approaching guys, setting REALISTIC standards (if you don’t work out don’t expect to catch a guy with a 6 pack), looking at possibilities outside our race, etc.

I hope I made sense.

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]]> By: Sexulous http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31551 Sexulous Mon, 21 Jun 2010 07:29:28 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31551 Honestly I know that in every Race of Men & Women there are Good & Bad People, just like God & Satan, Angels & Devils. Good Sex & Bad Sex etc. The main problem with this World We live in is that Critics & Hypocrites use what they see to make a General Judgement on all Men, Women & Races, when they should take in consideration of things of Life & relationships they have never or will never witness. As Human beings I think We should all be Ambitious when it comes to Love for each other & go for Who We are drawn to no matter the RACE. I truly believe that in all Races of Women they are all the SAME when We as Men know how to Respect & treat them, Mentally, emotionally, physically & Sexually. It's not hard at all. As a FACT, the whole World knows historically Blacks live through the tuffest & roughest ways of living & even if many white People don't know how that life feels ? In the end ALL RACES OF WOMEN WANT TRUE LOVE RESPECT & HONOR FROM ANY MAN THEY END UP WITH NO MATTER HIS COLOR. ALL RACE OF WOMEN WANT US AS MEN TO BE "MEN" AS GOD MADE US TO BE THERE FOR OUR WOMEN. On behalf of all Black Women I know & see for myself that all Black Women want in Life is to know She is being truly Loved, cherished, respected & supported after going through such hard experiences in Life. To BIGEYES31 & MsZ17 I'm loving Ur straight forward comments, I see Ur inner Beauties. Also thumbs up to all the Men on here who show their honest support for all our Women who need it. Honestly I know that in every Race of Men & Women there are Good & Bad People, just like God & Satan, Angels & Devils. Good Sex & Bad Sex etc. The main problem with this World We live in is that Critics & Hypocrites use what they see to make a General Judgement on all Men, Women & Races, when they should take in consideration of things of Life & relationships they have never or will never witness. As Human beings I think We should all be Ambitious when it comes to Love for each other & go for Who We are drawn to no matter the RACE. I truly believe that in all Races of Women they are all the SAME when We as Men know how to Respect & treat them, Mentally, emotionally, physically & Sexually. It’s not hard at all. As a FACT, the whole World knows historically Blacks live through the tuffest & roughest ways of living & even if many white People don’t know how that life feels ? In the end ALL RACES OF WOMEN WANT TRUE LOVE RESPECT & HONOR FROM ANY MAN THEY END UP WITH NO MATTER HIS COLOR. ALL RACE OF WOMEN WANT US AS MEN TO BE “MEN” AS GOD MADE US TO BE THERE FOR OUR WOMEN.
On behalf of all Black Women I know & see for myself that all Black Women want in Life is to know She is being truly Loved, cherished, respected & supported after going through such hard experiences in Life.

To BIGEYES31 & MsZ17 I’m loving Ur straight forward comments, I see Ur inner Beauties. Also thumbs up to all the Men on here who show their honest support for all our Women who need it.

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]]> By: MzBrOwNSuGaR http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31550 MzBrOwNSuGaR Sat, 12 Jun 2010 04:19:22 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31550 Comment by chrisn on 27 March 2010: "My girlfriend was black and I’m white. There were some differences in what she expected of me. Sometimes I felt like she was too dependent. Despite being smart and accomplished she had no money growing up and a strained relationship with her family. It was like once I we got close she just expected me to carry all that baggage. I sympathized with a lot more black men after that, all the struggling and sometimes she expected me to be part of the furniture." It sounds like you are saying this was s problem all black women have, instead of the particular woman you were involved with. Comment by chrisn on 27 March 2010:

“My girlfriend was black and I’m white. There were some differences in what she expected of me. Sometimes I felt like she was too dependent. Despite being smart and accomplished she had no money growing up and a strained relationship with her family.

It was like once I we got close she just expected me to carry all that baggage. I sympathized with a lot more black men after that, all the struggling and sometimes she expected me to be part of the furniture.”

It sounds like you are saying this was s problem all black women have, instead of the particular woman you were involved with.

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]]> By: pricess spice http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31549 pricess spice Mon, 07 Jun 2010 12:39:10 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31549 @rick hayes lol ur funny@chrison that was bad SINGLE:IF YOUR SINGLE LIKE MYSELF....DON'T ALLOW LONELY,HORNEY ECT..... TO MAKE OU SETTLE,OR GO TO WHAT WAS NEVER GOOD FOR YOU,DNT SETTLE FOR LESS LADYS U GOT TO KNOW WHAT UR WORTH,I REALIZED SOME WOMAN R LUKING 4 MAN THEY CAN LIVE WITH AM LOOKING FOR A MAN I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT GOD BLESS EVERYONE ON THIS FORUM I LUV LUV LUV IT...... @rick hayes lol ur funny@chrison that was bad SINGLE:IF YOUR SINGLE LIKE MYSELF….DON’T ALLOW LONELY,HORNEY ECT….. TO MAKE OU SETTLE,OR GO TO WHAT WAS NEVER GOOD FOR YOU,DNT SETTLE FOR LESS LADYS U GOT TO KNOW WHAT UR WORTH,I REALIZED SOME WOMAN R LUKING 4 MAN THEY CAN LIVE WITH AM LOOKING FOR A MAN I CAN’T LIVE WITHOUT GOD BLESS EVERYONE ON THIS FORUM I LUV LUV LUV IT……

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]]> By: chrisn http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31548 chrisn Sun, 28 Mar 2010 02:35:07 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31548 My girlfriend was black and I'm white. There were some differences in what she expected of me. Sometimes I felt like she was too dependent. Despite being smart and accomplished she had no money growing up and a strained relationship with her family. It was like once I we got close she just expected me to carry all that baggage. I sympathized with a lot more black men after that, all the struggling and sometimes she expected me to be part of the furniture. My girlfriend was black and I’m white. There were some differences in what she expected of me. Sometimes I felt like she was too dependent. Despite being smart and accomplished she had no money growing up and a strained relationship with her family.

It was like once I we got close she just expected me to carry all that baggage. I sympathized with a lot more black men after that, all the struggling and sometimes she expected me to be part of the furniture.

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]]> By: Menelik Charles http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31547 Menelik Charles Sun, 14 Feb 2010 01:45:12 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31547 @ Love & NeuroticMoor, keep speaking the truth guys. It's about time some folks here told it like it is/should be! Menelik Charles London uk @ Love & NeuroticMoor,

keep speaking the truth guys. It’s about time some folks here told it like it is/should be!

Menelik Charles
London uk

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]]> By: NeuroticMoor http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single/comment-page-6/#comment-31546 NeuroticMoor Sat, 13 Feb 2010 18:21:33 +0000 /fyooz/are-black-women-more-likely-to-be-single.htm#comment-31546 Correction: Your dating pool *ISN'T* too poor... Also, there ARE places all over the internet where non-black men and women bash each other just as viciously as here (and every other AA site it seems... sigh.) But since there's not such an intense intrinsic and extrinsic social pressure for non-black races to date/marry within their own race, they don't tend to use the racial tags in their discussions... they are just known as misogynists and feminazi's... Correction: Your dating pool *ISN’T* too poor…

Also, there ARE places all over the internet where non-black men and women bash each other just as viciously as here (and every other AA site it seems… sigh.)

But since there’s not such an intense intrinsic and extrinsic social pressure for non-black races to date/marry within their own race, they don’t tend to use the racial tags in their discussions… they are just known as misogynists and feminazi’s…

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