Another black-white dating assumption: Freedom Riders!

Posted by James, 10 Oct 12

Assumptions about why people date interracially never cease to leave me dumbfounded.

On Fox and Friends, author Ann Coulter expressed her thoughts on her fellow political commentators, Lawrence O’Donnell and Bill Maher saying they think they are "Freedom Riders" because they are White men who date Black women. Whether she said it on a light note or otherwise, it makes me wonder why someone like her would actually make a statement to imply that white people dating blacks are attempting to make some civil rights statement about equality? So since I have dated black women I am now some sort of civil rights icon?

The other day someone said interracial couples get emotional about people accepting them and I quote: "Many of them will kick, scream, cry, throw temper tantrums, take their toys and move to another sandbox to play over what people think... As a whole they are more obsessed with people then people are obsessed with them." Really? We piss some people off this badly? We are being equated to toddlers now?

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The thing is, we are in 2012. And to think that some people still see interracial couples, black and white to be precise, to be so strange that they feel the need to come up with some weird explanations (He's a sugar daddy, she is a whore, he is after her money, he has a fetish and now, he is a freedom rider!) for their existence other than the obvious… mutual love and attraction is saddening. So who is obsessed?

Such people forget that these assumptions they come up with say much more about them than the interracial couple they are busy psychoanalyzing. And the thing is, such misconceptions come from every corner of every race - not just from Ann Coulter. It never occurred to her that maybe O’Donnell and Maher just love black women? All this analysis aint necessary.

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  1.   Mahigan says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 12

    Excuse me for being crass, but it seems a bit incestuous to restrict oneself to their own genotype. I have difficulty even using the term 'race', as it has no apparent scientific grounding that I am aware of. I find people who are stuck in race hate divisional thinking to be crude and ignorant of the facts of life and human genetic history. The only thing these people deserve is enlightenment and education.

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  2.   jod212 says:
    Posted: 05 Nov 12

    Just a little story for all of you. I am a 55 year old woman who happen's to be mixed...yes folk's of different races (old social construct) and ethnicity's got together back in the day. Anyway, this very cute young couple were walking hand in hand in my neighborhood and the young woman who was white said to me in a loud voice, "please stop staring at us and giving us that hate look." My response to her was as follow's; My dear girl, please forgive me if I've made you feel uncomfortible but you two remind me of what my grandparent's on on both sides must have looked like together when they first met...you two make a sweet couple. Also, take a good look at me because if your children get together with someone who is mixed "I" am what your grandchildren will look like in their fifty's". Needless to say, we all burst out laughing and she relaxed. By the way we have become friendly as well. But make no mistake, even in a city like New York people will ostracize mixed couples even in 2012. You just need to remember, its their problem and not your's unless you make it yours. Be well!

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  3.   sarahlee05 says:
    Posted: 03 Nov 12

    If u can wear different colours with your clothes, why is it an issue to marry or date someone with a different colour, after all we are all huma beings. People must use their common sense.

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  4.   donjack says:
    Posted: 02 Nov 12

    is a nice one, let them keep on trespassing in another's people business, any one who have problem with any man or woman should setle it he/her self. No long thing.

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  5.   roggiex says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 12

    everybody has a right to do what pleases them. i for one since childhood i've only been attracted to white women, I've dated a couple of black girls but still find myself attracted to white women. whoever has a problem should deal with it.

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  6.   oldschool56 says:
    Posted: 19 Oct 12

    Interesting point Valesther...I like that. I for one would like people to get over themselves...I date white men and thats just that. of course I did see this fine black gentleman with a very handsome face and I was looking him up and when I went down, saggy jeans (I mean underwear showing jeans), tacky t-shirt scruffy shoes made me sad, his partner who was white had on the same type clothing, I guess clothes do make the man but,( I got sidetracked) interacial dating, marriage has been going on for years and people need to get a grip!

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  7.   valesther says:
    Posted: 16 Oct 12

    Well, in the bible Moses married a black woman. And what's their point on God's blessing to Moses.

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  8.   canadiangc says:
    Posted: 14 Oct 12

    People are always sticking their noses and opinions in other peoples business. They need to get a life.

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  9.   honeybee324 says:
    Posted: 13 Oct 12

    On another note, I'd like to see more posts highlighting relationships that are black/asian and any specific challenges or stereotypes those relationships present, posts that discuss dating/marrying someone whose religion or dietary preferences are different, and so on.

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  10.   honeybee324 says:
    Posted: 13 Oct 12

    As long as the white/black dichotomy is oppressor/oppressed, light/dark, good/evil, normal/exotic and so on, black/white relationships will never simply be about mutual love and attraction. We're all playing out some plantation master/slave fantasy, right? -__-

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  11.   Swtkaramel says:
    Posted: 13 Oct 12

    Perhaps it's a jealously thing on their behalf. In other words, they long to fulfill that same goal, but don't have the guts to go for it because they are insecure in themselves to a certain extent that it concerns them more what people will think rather than go with their hearts and not worry about others opinion when it comes to matters of the heart. Interracial dating is an awesome thing and I would date outside my race in a heartbeat. There is no color when you're happy and in love.

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