Archive for February, 2009

Do we over-blow the ‘discrimination’ whistle?

Friday, February 27th, 2009

When Charlie Strong didn’t get a head-coaching job (See post: Can interracial marriage hurt ones chances of getting a job?), he claimed his interracial marriage was used against him. Today, I bumped into this: I recently turned down an interracial couple who applied for an apartment here. They were referred to our community by a [...]

Have we become closeted racists?

Wednesday, February 25th, 2009

Are Americans cowards when it comes to discussing racial issues? Attorney General Eric Holder seems to believe so. Truth is, this doesn’t mean we don’t talk about race enough. Even when our comments comfortably hide behind practiced euphemisms, that counts as talk about race. Americans talk about race all the time. We live in two [...]

Taking control of a one-night-stand

Tuesday, February 24th, 2009

The thrill of a one-night-stand … Don’t think any other sexual escapade beats its allure. The final delivery of the prize after chasing the unknown must be very satisfying – for the chaser of course. One-night-stands are the firecracker of sexuality: short, explosive and memorable – if you didn’t have one-too-many drinks. Much as some [...]

Asian women, stereotypes and hate crimes

Friday, February 20th, 2009

Does rape motivated by some racial ‘infatuation’ or ‘fetish’ qualify as a ‘hate crime’? When such a belief is used to sexually violate members of a particular race, isn’t it a ‘hate crime’? Below is a sad excerpt from a Huffington Post entry “Asian Woman: Rape and Hate Crimes” by Jaemin Kim. I couldn’t have [...]

Can sex with a stranger be intimate?

Thursday, February 19th, 2009

The guru Dr. Ruth Westheimer writes about improving intimacy, which is a key ingredient for sexual satisfaction. Two strangers can’t really be intimate, no matter what they do together sexually, because while their bodies may be joined, they’re emotionally and mentally disconnected… Sex with someone you barely know is more like masturbation than intimate sex. [...]

Why do they just look and not write?

Tuesday, February 17th, 2009

The other day, a friend of mine asked me: “Why is it that men look at my profile so much but don’t write or send me a wink or something? Is it my face? Do I look like a freak?” Most of us run to online dating when finding a date offline fails. We get [...]

Beatings for those celebrating Valentine’s Day in India

Friday, February 13th, 2009

Hindu extremists aren’t so eager to embrace Valentine’s Day. They have threatened to attack Indian couples who attempt to celebrate this holiday claiming it encourages sexual misdemeanors. Siri Ram Sena militants, who claim to be custodians of Indian culture, said the day is un-Indian. This threat comes after these activists stormed into the Amnesia Pub [...]

Attitudes towards Valentine’s day

Wednesday, February 11th, 2009

Valentine’s day is here again… a day that can make or break your relationship. Most men have been found guilty of either forgetting or even ignoring this day while some have sent Valentines to women who had no idea the men had crushes on them. So, how should you start this day? 2 in 5 [...]

Black men, marrying black, marrying white

Monday, February 9th, 2009

“Barack Obama is one of the few men that we have seen who is a black man who has a very, very dark-skinned wife. She’s very dark skinned for normally what you see. And I wondered to myself, would he be electable if he had a white wife?” – Whoopi Goldberg confessed to having been [...]

Do we ever learn?

Wednesday, February 4th, 2009

A woman grows up witnessing an abusive marriage between her parents which leaves the whole family miserable. She finally leaves home and meets this guy. As their relationship builds up, she sees flashes of violence in him, maybe even been struck once or twice. She knows she should run, but for some reason she just [...]