When she comes across your online dating ad
Most people nowadays have online dating ads or profiles. With many people turning to the internet to find love, this isn’t so surprising. So what do you do when you bump into your boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s online dating ad?
There was this guy that met his woman. Initially, he had an online dating ad that he was using previously… but not when he was with this lady. The other day, the woman came across his ad on his computer browser and went ballistic. This guy tried to apologize to this lady but it seems that this incident made her interest levels in this guy go down. Eventually, this lady dumped this guy.
Was she being realistic by getting annoyed and even dumping this guy just because he had some online dating ad before they met? I think most people see having an online dating ad as cheating especially when you are in a committed relationship with someone. It’s kind of like someone is covering their bases just in case something goes wrong with your current relationship.
But most people don’t remember to delete or remove their online dating profiles and ads once they find love. They just become dormant. So, is it bad to maintain an online dating profile when you finally find love? Is this some form of cheating?
Should you remove your online dating ad when you finally meet a woman or man you love?
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October 28th, 2007 at 9:11 am
If you think you’ve found someone that you want to make a go of it with, take the ad down. Otherwise, you’ll be perceived as still looking.
If she’s made you stop looking, why continue to have it up? That’s like you’re enjoying the relationship that you have now, but you keep it open, just in case someone better comes along.
March 6th, 2008 at 11:31 pm
I think the solution is to update the profile and state you’ve found someone. This solution comprehends that a substantial part of our lifes and our presence is in fact online nowadays, and by displaying you’ve been taken, you keep the realm, display your success and remain honest at the same time. That is a fair solution for everyone.
Then one might argue, it’s still mischievious to even have the profile! I think it is a matter of maturity and ability to embrace the online culture. Today the profile is so much more than “I’m male - i want a woman” or visa versa. It’s more like an online CV - an online identity card with interests, network, links and pictures.
I admit, that having an add on a “sex-seeking site” is downright a bad idea. But should you also ditch Myspace? HI5? FanBox? Facebook? etc. Do you ditch your best suit in the warderobe, just because you’re going steady?