Ever reached the OMG-we-haven’t-had-sex-in-a-month point of your relationship. Well, if you have ever gotten here or have just gotten here, I am sure you must have considered scheduling sex into your agenda. And this is when it really hits you – your relationship isn’t going so well.
Sometimes, especially when those little brats we really love are in the picture, most couples take up scheduling sex as a means of getting some nights of peace and quiet. Your partner wants some every night, you don’t feel like having any coz the kids have sucked the little energy left in you, then it calls for some scheduling. And after some thought and some serious sex negotiations, you manage a “Dude, you’ll get it twice a week tops”.
Well, twice a week is a little too long to wait if you ask me. And then suddenly, those two days become moments of “damn, today is my next appointment” and of course “do it and get over with it” great sex sessions of ‘two willing’ participants. And before you notice, you dread the two days and your partner suddenly doesn’t want any.
Is scheduling sex the ultimate kiss of death? Do marriages last once the scheduling begins? I am a bit cynical about all this coz I believe in sexual spontaneity. Make me believe it works and why.
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Comment by miaD on 26 April 2008:
Unfortunately, reality dictates that even
spontaneity in sexual relationship today is ideal and not realistic because of the life style or situation of an individual personal Work agenda eg. some people who work two or three jobs or even one with a lot of long time hours or overtime, for such persons, it seems that scheduling sex then is almost UNAVOIDABLE if the couple is to have any sex at ALL under such circumstances. Ofcourse, those individuals whose lifestyle is void of “Busyness” (too busy) should ofcourse be creative and employ spontaneity in their love life as sex is one of every humans physiological needs. Without it, after long periods of time one may become frustrated or depressed after a while and who knows what other physical ailment can come about as a result of Not having sex on time or even say 2 or 3 times a month even if it is Scheduled. For more than three years now I have been totally celibate now not by choice but due to circumstances - I need to find the right one for me and that’s why I am on this site searching!
Heaven knows my sex scheduled at this point is Wayyy!!! overdew lol.