Having been to various online dating sites, I think there are a few things I have learned by scanning through hundreds of profiles of eligible spinsters … and bachelors (not that am into guys but you know, some things are usually so off that you cant help browsing through the profile just to understand why those things are that off. Tell me again why I am explaining myself?)
Guys, if you’re planning on plunging into the online dating pool, here are some tips to keep in mind when constructing your profile. Trust me.
Now why would one have pictures that are virtually some slide show of past lovers? Much as there is nothing wrong with having pictures you have taken with members of the opposite sex, it kinda strikes me the wrong way as I scroll through the pics of a prospective beau. Could be just me but I think its one major turn off.
And while on that topic, please don’t upload dozens of pics of you with all your friends or you in groups of people. Who are we selling here? You or your gang? I mean, who the heck am I looking for?
So you love your beer or vodka or whatever alcoholic beverage that makes you tick. Do all of your photos have to be of the bar scene? If you must, do not put up more than one photo of you holding an alcoholic beverage. Yes, there might be that one picture that your friend took of you last year at that party holding a Bud Light bottle in it … which is not bad. But then when I click “next” and I see a photo of you tapping a keg, followed by one of you and your friends drowning shot glasses in a toast. Will I be wrong to assume that drinking is your profession? Or the only way you know how to have fun?
Oh! One more thing … don’t put up pictures of you posing with some celeb .. or those of far-off places you’ve traveled – especially if you not in those photos themselves. I mean why would you put up photos of the pyramids of Egypt? That ain’t gonna woo nobody. I know I am stepping on some toes but honestly, these travel pics almost look like a desperate move to me.
Am I being overly picky … going through profiles like I would look over resumes … scanning quickly for a few things: proper grammar, sarcasm and intelligent humor? Well thousands of other people are doing the same. This may sound b**chy but it’s the truth.
… And you are welcome. Glad I could help. 
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Comment by snehaseeli on 21 April 2008:
Amen to the pictures with the ex’s.
What’s up with that? Is it suppose to make me want them more because someone already has/had them?
Comment by lenora on 22 April 2008:
When pictures with one’s ex is posted, I will naturally assume that person still have unresolved issues with the ex that he/she needs to work through. It raises the question as to whether or not you are over the ex and if you’re ready to move on to someone new in your life.
Comment by sexyXsmart on 26 April 2008:
Amen to EVERYTHING You suggested. If they listened to your advice they wouldn’t be single still …
Comment by sortaann on 28 April 2008:
I agree with you totally.
Comment by SoFlaDiva on 29 April 2008:
I agree wholeheartedly with everything you’ve stated. May I add a few other things?
Please, please, please - no more:
1. Photos taken with webcams/blurry, unclear photos
2. 20 year old photos
and to re-emphasize, PLEASE take 2 minutes to proofread that email before sending it!
For me, nothing is more of a turn off than a bad photo accompanied by a poorly written email.
Comment by 1sweetblonde on 16 June 2008:
Please, no photos of you with your ex cut out or erased, and please - when you upload a photo, make it bigger than the one on your driver’s license (I actually saw one of those today). If the enlargement is no larger than the thumbnail, I gotta guess you’re hiding something.
Comment by 1sweetblonde on 16 June 2008:
Please, no photos of you with your ex cut out or erased, and please - when you upload a photo, make it bigger than the one on your driver’s license, and not your actual license photo! (I actually saw one of those today). If the enlargement is no larger than the thumbnail, I gotta guess you’re hiding something.
Comment by sandijm on 18 June 2008:
Another thing with the photo’s. Don’t upload those model type photo’s if you really looked like that in real life you would have so many women throwing themselves at you, you would not need to be on a dating site.
Just post some real photo’s that give us an idea of who you really are.
Comment by sandijm on 18 June 2008:
Another thing guys, don’t bother with the model type photo’s, if you really looked like that in real life then you would not need to be on a dating site, you would have women throwing themselves at your feet daily.
Just post real photo’s that shows who you really are.
Comment by mr.geno on 6 July 2008:
Thanks for the tips. I already knew most of them but I haven’t learned yet how to upload a picture from a digital camera so I use my webcam for now (and doesn’t look too bad).