If there’s a topic that has stirred so many emotions and discussions, then its interracial dating. This is video talks about the views of a white woman on black men. I found this video quite interesting especially the part about white men being unemotional.
Well, I think we white dudes can be emotional too… we cry too. 
I think white men are sensitive especially to the needs of a woman. I don’t know about you but I think this video and the views on it are something to stir one heated debate.
Do other white women feel the same about black men? Do women in general feel this way?
Tags: multiethnic dating, black white dating, white women
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Comment by hiimsteph on 29 July 2007:
well this was very stimulating and engaging. For the most part I think the lady was right. Maybe im speaking from experience as well, but I fell the same was she does about black men.okay.
Comment by Jeanette on 30 July 2007:
Well I think it is relative. I have dated both white and black men and i have seen all characteristics in both white or black. There are white guys who can get out of a situation so fast a black guy would give them a medal. (or they have been hanging around the brothers?). Anyway, it is not a matter of black guys being emotional or knowing how to love more than the white guys. You get all those in both races. I personally would go for the white guy. Nothing against the brother but from my experience, i prefer the white guys. And I can also say, they know how to love, and show emotion that i have not seen in the black brothers i have dated. Interesting though.
Comment by DeJuan on 18 August 2007:
hello…this is the guy that made this video. i was checking the links on it and decided to click. i’m glad this video is getting around, because it needs to be discussed. when i was talking to that lady that had these views on black men…in the back of my mind i’m thinking “why is she making this about black men”. how come these idiosyncrasies couldn’t just have been in some stupid men.
it’s very funny that every story she told me in this conversation was about a black man. i don’t know if she’s ever dated a white guy or any other race but she made it seem like only black men do these kinds of things. now i was intrigued by her argument because she made a lot of valid points that i could relate to. i am guilty of a few of the points she was stating, but in the end she said “i’ll never date another black guy”. i felt offended that she said that because i’m not like that. i’m married but i don’t act as the guys she was describing. but hey…this sort of thinking still exists so i guess some black men have to shape up and some white women can’t base their relationships on a few bad apples and make everyone else suffer. yes this video is a big discussion on youtube.
if you want to read some of the comments…here is the link. thanks
dejuanp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=25lzfDYMvxs#GU5U2spHI_4
Comment by xxnjxy on 27 August 2007:
I must add (we are entitled to our opinion) i find black men to be way less emotionally intact ,I never find a black guy crying and yes absolutely they are cunning —as you stated –smooth (they think and act faster.
I think the whole thing with black men dating a white woman is not solely based on “its what they prefer” its more of the attention it brings…just a statement from a a few guys i am close to that do date white women. they admit to the immediate attention and feeling a better snese of self worth.(so my thought was your’e worthless next to your own race. Is this what our value is based on —race=societal value. Sometimes it seems its harder for a black woman to date a white guy , a matter of fact it is not as common to see a black woman/white man couple as the reverse (she has to be educated professional etc) and the only requirement for a white woman is to be sexy….my best friend (happens to be a guy and black) said he’d date a low life white chick over her equivalent black, in his comment she’d (black) better come right or not at all..i do notice he will go all out (whether broke or not) to impress a white female and put out minimal effort to treat a black female like a queen…..is there imbalance anyone.
While dating a white male i noticed his friends and family’s major concerns were (what does she do, what does she drive etc…i have it all so i had no worries) but with his former mates (white) all they asked was…..is she hot! amazing. Anyhow i enjoyed the video, the lady brought up some great points and i do think black men are cunning /suave than white guys are, but emotionally in check the white guy takes the cake.(care more and show it , rub my feet, make me dinner, split everything 50/50 if not pay for it all and hapilly do it, thinks to give you a call to see how your day is going for no apparent reason)…..i’m not here to upset anyone just comment honestly……..enjoy!
Comment by Pamana on 1 September 2007:
If you really know people - black women are saying the same thing white women are saying about men of their races - essentially we are all the same - the sterotypes are attached because we put them there. All white men don’t have good credit and all white women are not superficial - and all black men can’t jump or play basketball - it was just an area that gave them an opportunity to escape proverty and if he could jump he did it. There are intelligent black men and white men and sensitive and caring white and black women. The Preference usally stems from early experiences - if you first date was older and it was an wonderful date, you might seek out older people. If your first date was English - and maddening you might stay away from that type. Hopefully in another 1000 years we will all have gotten over this crap. I love seeing white women with black men and white men with white women - and I once saw an Asian man married to a black women with the cutest kids. These types of couples are generally happier and fulfilled in a way that escape those that are racist - and they will never understand.
Comment by Dee on 10 September 2007:
I really agree with Pamana. I really think that humankind decides whom to assign certain qualities to based on personal experiences. When you think about it, all of the negative stereotypes that are assigned to black men can also be found true for white men; for that reason, it is very difficult and almost impossible put those stereotypes to the test and prove them true or not. Therefore, it is very unfair to label a whole race based on your past experiences with just a few men of that race. I am a black woman who has dated both black and white men. For me to label white men as such and such would only be a cause of our society. We might be in the 21 century but our society seems to always find ways to make us think that one race is superior than the other and that they should not merge when it comes to dating, marriage and having children.
Comment by Dee on 10 September 2007:
I really agree with Pamana. I think that humankind decides whom to assign certain qualities to based on personal experiences. When you think about it, all of the negative stereotypes that are assigned to black men can also be found true for white men; for that reason, it is very difficult and almost impossible put those stereotypes to the test and prove them true or not. Therefore, it is very unfair to label a whole race based on your past experiences with just a few men of that race. I am a black woman who has dated both black and white men. For me to label white men as such and such would only be a cause of our society. We might be in the 21 century but our society seems to always find ways to make us think that one race is superior than the other and that they should not merge when it comes to dating, marriage and having children.
Comment by Techmdman on 10 September 2007:
I whole heartedly agree with Dee’s assessment of the whole interacial experience, in how it relates to white and black stereotypes. I am a black man, and can assure you there are a great deal of brothers (including myself), who have emotion for life, their families and have shed a tear or two of matters of the heart, life, world issues as well as family (and the list goes on and on).
I’ve dated both black and white women, and I’ve had great experiences in both arenas. Women are women, and although we all come from different back ground and have different experiences about life and relationships, I think it’s a pity to hear some black women “bash” black men and give one-sided and ill-fated insights because of the unfortunate way that they were treated by a particular person in past relationships.
People are people, and regardless of what race they are, are proned to make mistakes and to disappoint. To sum it all up, that’s just life. But to learn from these past experiences and to not harbor any ill-feelings toward whoever treated you wrong is the key; Ultimately, no one wants to take on someone else’s baggage. Let’s spend our lives enjoying it as oppose to carrying feelings of hatred for black, white, asian and all men as well as women.
Comment by CaribPrinces on 23 November 2007:
I agree with xxnjxy. It seems that the requirements for a white woman to date a black man is a LOT LESS LOWER than a black woman to date a white guy. O.k I do know of some poor lower class Cubans or African women for example that white men choose because they may be refugees to their countries and the white men fall in love with them and get them visas…(that’s another story) However, for the most part I feel that black men have lower criterias for what a white woman brings to the table…it’s like she only has to be white! I have never seen a black man with a beautiful AND educated, intellectual, well-rounded cultured white woman. They all seem to be low class, badly spoken, uneducated white women. I wonder if it means that it’s all that black men can get OR just that the educated and intellectual white women will not go out with black men?? I really don’t know.
On the other hand, white men seem to require/select balck women who are very attractive (even better than white women and yes, skinny and fit), educated to a similar level as themselves, intellectual so can relate to their high profile corporate friends, and well-rounded so as to be able to have interesting conversations on politics, life etc…
In summary, I am not bashing black men with white women I just don’t understand why they always pick the scaggly, trashy ones that maybe even the white men wouldn’t want.
Maybe it is a class thing…
Comment by LePenser on 3 December 2007:
I am not sure that anything he stated was more than just this females own personal perspective. There are millions of black men out there, this in no way encapsulates there interracial dating characteristics. It amazes that people who have no training/education or have not conducted any “true” research on interracial dating speak as though they are experts. This particularly happens when speaking of blk male/wht female relationships. There comments are based on fear, conjecture, and false stereotypes. It is ashame that even in a choice as personal as dating, intimacy, and marriage that a black male has to be scrutinized and judged by any fool with an issue. I say power to those individuals who have the courage to follow their hearts and damn the haters. I say damn them because as they are feigning concern for the people, I beleive they are just trying to control people to suit and serve their needs.
Comment by LePenser on 3 December 2007:
Oops! “believe” and “their interracial dating characteristics.”
Comment by Brian on 11 January 2008:
A good man will compromise over time and should be judged by his more than just how well he manipulates a situation. I consider myself the quiet analytical type but I care deeply for my girl and I show it in time. TRUE LOVE is about patience and understanding because men and women think differently and no one is perfect. You can search a different race or culture, but I hope you all end up at this same conclusion and find happiness with someone who loves and cares for you despite your imperfections.
Comment by brandi45 on 16 March 2008:
it doesnt matter what race you are its whats inside yr heart and how you choose to love, we are all created by god and i believe us all to be equal but there is good and bad in every race, it comes down to what path we choose and i personally am very attracted to black men more so than white but have never had an oportunity to meet any in my life time.
Comment by LApete on 25 March 2008:
your vedio was interresting,the woman you spoke about works in a field of young guys just getting a taste of a life style they have only heard of more money new cars big jewls the house so the temptataion is there with woman of all colors,with the money they make women chase them down,some women are more giveing than others and if you start out giving you cant stop just stop also its our nature to get out of trouble black men love completly no matter the skin color and we take pride in our women and want to show them off black women know this every man wants to think his girl is the hottest thats us or at least that me.and dam proud of it.
Comment by HeartBroKeUK on 12 May 2008:
I’ve just ended a long term relationship with a black man. I ended it with
“I can’t be sloppy seconds to a white woman (Whether she’s the mother of your children or not - you should have been more careful where you cast your seed). His heart was never with me, even though she’s the low class type of white woman a white man wou;d have second thoughts about bringing home to his mother.
My point is, there are no more available black men anymore, and as a black woman were meant to feel racst for having a preference for OUR men. In short, I’M DONE. no more black men for me. Having supported him through the ups and downs of fatherhood etc. He told me he doesn’t love me, he loves.
Despite being ugler than a robbers dog, not understanding the concept of oiling a black childs hair, putting on a pot of soul food, and being culturally enlightened. He prefers her.
I’m educated, clean, humble, not bad looking, no baggage and disease free. Here in the UK, its the story of most black women - the black population is fallng, by 2030 there will be more bi-racial people than blacks, because black men prefer white women.
Black women in my coutry fall barren to white women who have our children and do not know how to take care of them. There is a massive difference betewenn a bi-racial child raised by a white women as opposed to a black woman.
What are we to do - who will help us. In light of us helping ourselves. I have no naswers, I have given up - and by this I mean, not dating men other than lack. but dating period.
respectfully,
Broken Heart UK
Comment by amacdoo on 9 June 2008:
I have dated several white women, mostly in college. I have dated more white women than any other women including black. I am now married to a very nice woman from Brasil. If the truth be known they all can and will drive you crazy. I think its a woman thing period. My wife will get in her moods and I just leave the house. Several of the black women did the same thing. Most white women seem to have a higher level of respect for her man or she believe that he will kick her butt if she get to far gone. Black women don’t seem to have that same fear neither does my wife. She’s 5′3 and about 125 lbs, but she gets right in my face dareing me to knock her out. I don’t hit women so I just leave. I probably should have married a white woman but…
Comment by JoeCracker on 9 June 2008:
I feel sorry for black women like Broken Heart UK, but how can you say with a straight face that white women are “taking care of your children”? No mother on this planet should be denied something that came from her body. Don’t let racial pride distort what you know to be the right thing among all people. That guy sounds like a real ass, but you shouldn’t blame white women for his stupidity.
Comment by virgo09 on 9 June 2008:
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Comment by Flirty1 on 10 June 2008:
HeartBroKeUK
Somehow I thought things were the other way around in the UK. All the interracial couples and biracial people I’ve known from there have been black women with white men.
Your story sounds so depressing. I wouldn’t worry though. Things have a way of turning around when you least expect it.
Good luck!
Comment by bill on 16 June 2008:
I have watch my wife with many BM OVER 9 YRS SHE LOVES SEX WITH bm has brought several WF to the pleasure only a BM can give a white femail while she loves me she now has what she refers to as a black adonis and is 8 mo pregant with a black mans baby she was not allowed to kwow the father so Larry brought in 2 freinds and the took turns on her for 3 week a differt one each nite all three on the week end HER belly is very very big.
Comment by Relative Dating on 13 July 2008:
Hello, I fell lucky that I located this post while browsing for relative dating. I am with you on the topic of Interracial Dating - White woman’s perspective. Ironically, I was just putting a lot of thought into this last Sunday.
Comment by seancarter03 on 15 July 2008:
WHERE ARE THE WHITE WOMEN??????
Comment by Wylde Chyld 69 on 30 July 2008:
CaribePrinces echoes many of my sentiments so well that I don’t HAVE to comment!
Comment by mimisue22 on 2 August 2008:
I am currently dating a black man, my first black boyfriend, and what is claimed about loving vs. hating a black man at the same time is very true for my situation. That boy can hurt me like none other without even trying, yet he can put it down AND hold me/make me feel loved like no white man ever has. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had some wonderful white boyfriends as well, but no one has ever loved me like my boy does.
With the comment about formulating a story at the drop of a hat–also true. That can be a good thing, but it’s also very trying to me because I never really know when he’s telling the truth. I trust him like none other, which may be my naivety, but he’s my man and I’m gonna stand by him.
White boys, on the other hand, I’ve noticed are terrible liars. For real, the “uh um ah I uh um…” is a total giveaway. Get on your shit if you’re gonna try to lie to your girl! “What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her” CAN be true, especially if you’re on your game and she doesn’t find out. BUT if she does, let’s hope she has the balls to call you out!
That’s another thing with white women and black men–the women often don’t call the men out BECAUSE the men are such smooth talkers! I know if I try to call my man out I gotta get my shit all straight in a row or else he can poke holes in ANYTHING!
All I can truly say is, be with who you love, but watch yourself no matter who it you’re with.
Comment by mimisue22 on 2 August 2008:
Oh, and in response to CaribPrinces, I am about to enter graduate school, I have no kids/baby daddy’s, and I wouldn’t consider myself “low class” or “badly spoken,” so here’s proof to break that logic
Comment by gongzuo on 4 August 2008:
What a bunch of meaningless garbage this blog is. People use this blog to convince themselves (over the internet) that people really give a damn about their interracial fling. Unfortunantly, the truth is that the public probably couldn’t care less and just thinks you ugly.
Why do you advertise for or against a race when anyone with half a brain can see there are good and bad apples in each race. Who cares if you are going to graduate school or if you had X amount of white or black BF’s. It doesn’t cover up your desperate want for attention and fantasy.