“The 7 Best Places to Smooch” was one of the stories on the 10th April cover of GO! magazine and to go along with it was this photo of an interracial couple kissing. Well, that photo ended up generating a lot of queasiness in many – evidenced by reader comments of the online version - simply because a Black man was kissing a White woman. 
Check out some of the comments:
“Haven’t read the story but dont like to see blacks and whites kissing;” – reader 1buschstadiumplz
“This doesn’t surprise me at all. Libs take every opportunity they can to shove miscegenation in our faces. Now that TV has to show blacks in every commercial, notice that they are always posed beside a blonde woman. Not a brunette, a blonde. Its done for shock value. Sickening that a once proud newspaper would resort ot this. Joe Pulitzer is turning over in his grave in shame.” – reader taxpayer
“I’m not judging the concept of biracial couples at all, but in a city as racially polarized as St. Louis, I’m shocked that the PD would go so out of its way to be so gratuitously provocative. This completely undercut the message of the article.” – reader greggh
PS: And these are just the subtle ones. Most of the comments had inappropriate offensive language.
To tell you the truth, the above is pretty disturbing if you ask me. The thing is, the couple on the cover wasn’t just models posing … it’s a real couple. I don’t want to imagine what they must have felt.
I gotta ask: In this day, age and era, how can a mere photo of interracial couple kissing arouse such racist comments?
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Comment by LilSnowWhite on 27 April 2009:
It is a growing process. They don’t call it growing pains for nothing. We’ve come a long way, baby. But, not everyone is going to come on board quietly and be color blind. I love seeing people in love and I think that picture was provocative… in a nice way.
I went dancing the other night and met a pleasant tall, dark, and handsome man and danced a bit with him. A perfect stranger came up to us and said, “Are you two married? You make such a nice couple..” It was an unsolicited inquiry and comment and I thought it was lovely. It came from an older gentleman who was there with his wife. They were both white and obviously color blind! On the flipside…. I know my parents would not be as comfortable, but I am my own person and have to live by my own ideals. I don’t require acceptance or agreement other than my own. If others cannot perceive the color of character, then I will let them own that problem, it isn’t mine.
Comment by NEECE1 on 27 April 2009:
This site is interracial dating correct. It is out there deal with it. I am a swf and i only date black men. That is what i am looking for always. We are all human . There is good and bad in every race. Get over it. I think the people out there that are upset are either jealous or lonely. Who knows or who really cares. I live my life for me and no one else. I make myself happy before i worry about what society thinks if i kiss a black man in public. Honestly i enjoy the people lookin.
Comment by ichibod on 27 April 2009:
This is pretty sad. I feel bad for that taxpayer person. One, because of his/her ignorance. And two, because of how different forms of culture shock can affect a person. I do somewhat agree with his statement about the blondes. It does seem that if a black man and a white woman are portrayed together, it is typically a blonde. Personally, I prefer (but am not limited to) brunette or red-heads when it comes to white women. And for some reason, black and white seem to be the epitome of interracial couples. Notice the couple on the home page of this site are a black and white couple rather than asian and black or white and latino. I in no way feel the way this guy/gal does, but it does not surprise me that a person would have such an opinion. It is kinda funny he should mention blondes when the woman on the cover is a brunette.
Comment by MyTurn2look on 27 April 2009:
Coming from a different country, I am saddened to witness the racial division… When I first posted a personal ad, looking to date a black man, I did get some hate mail, shrugged it off, but had the same thought: how disturbing in this day and age… Personally, I think the couple on the cover looks hot, I am jealous!
And kissing in the library out of all places, dressed up to the nines… Gotta try it some day… 
And hey, the more of us find our happy match and walk around kissing in public, the more they’ll realize they have to deal with it.
Comment by Syringa on 27 April 2009:
Unbelievable –
It seems that people are still prejudice no matter what. You would think that we had come a long ways. I was married to a black man for 13 years — I can remember going into a large pc company party. Everyone went silent–then the manager and his wife came over an apologized. This was here in Idaho but that was years ago.
I cannot believe that people have not changed! It grieves my heart! Love is of the heart, not the color! May the good Lord change our hearts so that we can love all the flowers of the field–each has their unique fragrance. — Syringa
Comment by raytorayto on 27 April 2009:
Actually, I wonder if the reaction would be the same if the couple were a WM and a BF. Would it be accepted by these same people, toned down or are they across the board narrow minded.
I agree with ichibod that the mention of interracial seems to go to black/white relationships and actual seems to ignore other interacial combinations.
Comment by acebenice on 28 April 2009:
when we realize that this country was founded on racial hatred, we can better identify the root and weed that out. it will never go away through education. we’ve done that and it has not worked. study our real history with the native americans, our forefathers and their belief system(white male sufferage), you will find the root. as far as the article is concern, if you want to stir up a people who are laced with tremendous fear, keep putting it out there and we will see interracial couples attacked in public. they already are, but that is not reported. i will never forget being out with a friend who was a white male, 6′4″ tall and quite sizey(strong build). people ran their mouth until he turned around and gave them a look of death. that will not work all the time. i have read in archives of couples being brutally beaten in cities that are modern today and more tolerate. but it took that kind of action for the laws to change. so love is strong or is strengthen when two people can stand the test of time or their love fails. that is important.
Comment by precious on 28 April 2009:
It’s sad that it still exists. I lived in St. Louis for almost 10 yrs dating only black men. I’d see ‘looks’ some times, those always made me laugh. That was the most I experienced there. Then I moved across the river to IL. I met a black gentleman for dinner at a restaurant and was shocked by what happened.. the waitress was snooty and we watched everyone that came in after us get served their dinner. By the time ours was served it was cold. I let the corporate office know about what happened and received an apology but you can bet I’ve not been back to that place. Family & friends do not go there either. We continually let ppl know of the attitude and bad service.
Comment by Eyecandy22 on 28 April 2009:
For me Racisim always cuts deep! I’mfrom a racially diverse family and i’ve never really experienced racisim as a child/ young adult ( I think being raised in nyc has a lot to do with that) we love / hate eachother equally. When I Experience it leaves like a lump in my throat and a pain in my heart. It does suck that in this day and age people are getting that ticked off about something as simple as skin color? Those people are monsters in my eyes. I dont see the big deal because ethnicity shouldnt be the ever dividing factor of something so vast as the human race! If you think about we are the only living species that discriminate against color. All of the other species seem to get along fine they dont judge eachother by skin color. Beauty is only skin deep, but ugliness can be from all over. We have to find a way to put and end to this never ending racist cycle. It comes from bad parenting because kids are not born prejudiced.
Comment by caramel022 on 28 April 2009:
i agree with raytorayto. what if it was a bw with a wm? i’m pretty sure most black men would be upset. i only prefer white men and i don’t care what anyone thinks about my preference.
Comment by V1ktor on 28 April 2009:
Absolute BS…even with black president they still have issues with black/white couples or any interracial couples. Hmmmm wish Obama had a white wife, would be interesting to see.
Comment by bluescene on 28 April 2009:
Racism is inner-self hatred.It has nothing to do with others.There are a few exceptions, possibly.But it comes down to fear and scarcity mentality.We have evolved but we have a journey ahead.I have witnessed the up and coming generations as a teacher and counselor and the good news is that many are much more evolved than mine and my predecessors.Thank…Higher power and humanity for that!I don’t want to bash us because that doesn’t heal our wounds and it doesn’t transform.We are all reacting to our childhood (or adult) wounds is all.The problem is that if that we will always attract what we put outward.In other words, it all comes down to fear.We fear the unknown.The only ONLY way to conquer a fear-prejudice is to embrace the fear, move towards it and seek to understand vs. to BE understood.I came from a racist upbringing-grandparents.I loved them becuase they were my grandparents and did the best with what they had been taught-given, but I was uncomfortable about their views.It is so obvious that it is all about fear.Notice the words used and you will hear “fear”.Even th elooks and gestures when the fears are expressed or when the “others” (aka “them”) are near the fearful ones.Watch the movie,”Powder”. I know, the director or producer was convicted or suspected pedophile Bu-u-u-u-t the content and message of the movie is exactly about prejudice and ignorance. IGNORE…ance. We try to ignore what we fear hoping maybe if we don’t notice it, it will go away.Some choose trying to destroy the element of fear by gay bashing, lynching…etc.None work.I think that we are doing great with these dialogues that were never allowed to happen in the past.Of course I wish we never had to even deal with this and that we all always embraced instead of killing, ignoring, hating. again, I truly believe that it is the hatred of something in ourselves, fear of the unknown-the part of ourselves that needs to control but knows deep down that we cant.Why not be curious and interested instead? How about not “seeing no color” but actually seeing all colors, cultures, genders, races, religions and loving and celebrating the uniqueness as well as the sameness of individuals and groups. I don’t think that the ices cream flavours have issue sharing the freezer.They all have a lot in common; sweet, pretty, satisfying, fun, yummy, fattening, colorful…etc, yet they all have very different looks, textures and tastes. On any given day, a human will pick either the same flavour consistently or change constantly. Everybody can choose the one(s) they want whenever they wish. None of us own others And…most of us love love LOVE ice cream. I love humans! I know it seems corny but why not look at it this way? Just for fun. Just for a bit. We deserve free choice and to celebrate that we have the choices now! It’s that simple.The anger is from pain that people have experienced. It has NOTHING to do with reality-nothing to do with others who are enjoying their lives with whom they choose. Let it go-o-o-o-o.You’re right Ichibod.I think they do the blonde-blk guy thing for shock and selling the most noticeable.after all, most blondes are not REEEEaaaly blondes and you don’t see only those couples out there.I’m seeing a lot of Blk and Wht. males with Asian these days.Hey, if you find something sexy or attractive why change it? It’s a miracle if people can connect on a level so enjoy!
Comment by muse4u on 28 April 2009:
First off, let me say I think the couple on the front of that magazine are cute. They look genuinely happy together. I’m 52 years old and was with a date (48) in Pasadena a few weeks back. We were waiting for a pizza at CPK and this young, white waitress walked by and said “you two look so cute together!” and I said to him, “WOW, how evolved! A 25 year old saying that to us! A bi-racial couple!” Because I remember the days when something unkind would have been said…you know what I’m talking about.
Anyway, for anyone to write such rude comments is shameful. God loves everybody the same and we are supposed to do that, too. I tell my students, “everybody bleeds red blood and everybody’s money is green, so knock off the racism BS.”
Comment by Kisses on 29 April 2009:
lol! uuuhhh maybe these guys are offended that two people are kissing in a library????..maybe library’s are considered “sacred” in St Louis!…lol!…unbelieveable….I mean we don’t want two humans touching there faces against one another and especially not in the great sacred St Louis Library!
Comment by Beth 13 on 29 April 2009:
I think it is inappropriate for people to heavily kiss in public, no matter what color they are, but how sad that people were disgusted by the site of love between two people. There is so much hate and fear in the world, (we humans really do seem to be a bad species) so you would think that an obvious sign of peace and love would be welcomed! It’s shameful and depressing to see that people are still polarizing themselves and their emotions over something as trivial as skin color. For me personally, the mind and personality trump skin color every time…I wish everyone felt that way. The world should would be happier!
Comment by Beth 13 on 29 April 2009:
Oops, that was “sure would be happier”. Sorry….
Comment by Ecirtap on 29 April 2009:
As the product of an “interracial” couple, I was very hurt by what I just read above. And my heart breaks for that young, lovey couple on the cover of the magazine for what they must have endured after it came out (They were probably so excited for people to see it!). What the insensitive jerks who hated on the cover failed to realize is that the aticle is about the best places to kiss; and it is NOT just single race partnerships that do so! Whatever, I like it. It made me smile : ) But I guess I am a little progressive, because I just like the cover of a happy young couple, it didn’t make me any happier to see it because they are a mixed pair; just a cute one!
Comment by rogerh_888 on 29 April 2009:
i find that the hate and dicontentment of many comes from the past. One would think that since years have past that the people of the world would realize that racial hate is not uncommon but it sure is unwarrented. I find the people who perform this act are normally not happy with themselves and also try to control others with words of hate and discontentment trying to sway others to an obsolite way of thought just to covince themselves they are superior. when in reality they are not and the actions they do prove this fact that they are inferior to others.
Comment by worksux on 29 April 2009:
I,too, was raised in that kind of environment. But as time went on and the world was changing, I had to look within myself and change with it, otherwise I was going to miss out. I have been on dates and received those same mean looks from people, but it didn’t scare me one bit. Let them say what they want and do what they want, but last time I checked, we were ALL of one race and were put here to get along with one another because those haters out there are going to have to answer to the same God as everyone else. Don’t mean to preach, but it is what it is. I have learned to embrace other races and cultures and accept them for who they are and the ones that are in fear should too. No one knows who will be placed in their lives or who they will fall in love with, so you might as well get with the program because hate does absolutely NO GOOD.
Comment by romancefor2 on 30 April 2009:
I come from a mostly white community. It is a shock to see a WF with a BM or vise versa. How ever just acrross the water it is not so much a shock. I dont see what is so wrong about skin color you fall in love with who you do. God made us all the same. Do we not feel and bleed the same. Good greif Martin Luther King would flip in his grave with this lack of progress.
Comment by axeman3 on 30 April 2009:
I agree with much of the commenting. I say that because I haven’t seen all of the comments but from what I have seen, I think most are pretty sensible. Yeah, one commentor said he wished Obama was married to a white woman. That certainly would settle the issue of whether he was truly for all races or not. Not to say he is not now, but it may well tell much truth about him. But I would take issue with caramel022 about how she only dates white men. Not that I’m against her dating white men, that’s okay. Is it because of looks or maybe a secret fascination or something? I hope it’s not because black men or anyone else is not “good” enough. I would’t matter to me who the woman was racially, as long as we could get along and we were compatible enough, that would be qualification enough for me. It was a long time ago that I, through the urgings of my mother, that I threw away a potentially awesome relationship with a girl a year my junior. I always wondered what our lives would have been like up to now. Oh, we would have definitely remained together, I have no doubt about that whatsoever. I would encourage anybody who’s contemplating marriage to another. If that person is the one for you and you know through experience with them without a shadow of doubt, then go for it. Be prepared, of course, for the idiots in the wake because they will be there to hurt you. I would pray much in your behalf cause marriage is hard enough with same raced couples. It gets that much more difficult with interracial couples but I think the reward can be sweet. I feel this way whenever I think of that girl I gave up. God bless her wherever she is and I hope nothing but the best for her. You all keep up the word about the love we share between the peeps and may God bless and keep all of ya!!!! BTW, caramel022, I’m not angry with you. I think you are beautiful and hope you much success in all of your relationships no matter who they are with!!! Same to you, muse4u!
Comment by bellaone on 30 April 2009:
WOW I am so sad that people think this way. I thought we came farther than that. Who cares if it is a white woman black man or white man black woman. A relationship is about love not color. Why are people so dumb and scared of something diffrent?
My brother is half black and is with a white woman they are very happy. I am a BLonde as they say with a black man I get looks all the time. Mostly from Black women who like to claim I’m taking their man.
The man I am with dosen’t date black women because he says they are too bossy. My best friend is a black women people look at us like” What do they have in common?” Well we have alot in common. I grew up to believe we all have a right to be happy and be with who makes us happy no matter the color of skin.
I had two interracial couples growing up one was a black woman (my friend) and her boyfriend a white guy. Then a mexican woman with a black guy. I never even really thought about the diffrence in race I just knew they were my friends no mater what.
That article makes me sad that people are still so DUMB. GOD made us in all colors we should be proud and celebrate our diffrences.
Comment by bellaone on 30 April 2009:
My boyfriend and I went to a Lobster resturant to get dinner we walked in everyone had to turn and see the black guy with the blonde girl. We walked to the bar had to wait 10mins to ge a drink then when our table was ready I walked up with the beeper I said my boyfriend is paying he will be right here. She smiled and said ok then as he walked toward us her face changed into a dirty look. We both kinda looked at her and shrugged it off.
We ate and he paid the bill (Another thing that makes me mad is people think black men take advantage of white women . My black man has always paid and opened doors for me.)
We were walking out and the hostess turned to us to say thank you she smiled sweetly till she saw my hand was holding a black mans hand then she turned her back on us both till we left . Made me pissed off sick and so sad that people have not opened their eyes.
He sometimes will drop my hand if he see’s black women so they don’t start yelling at me and him about how he needs to be with his own kind.
Why are people so hateful? I will love who I choose to. I think black and white and mexican and asian people are all beautiful and should be able to see and love who they wish to LOVE. LOVE has no color!!!! Wake up people!!
Comment by witchywmn55 on 30 April 2009:
As a nation we should be so far past racism of any sort. I am a white female that prefers black men. I am not a blonde. How can something so loving and sweet turn anyone’s stomach is beyond me. I am so tired of the so called self righteous who think they way they live their life is how everyone should. Aren’t we all in the same classification humans!
Comment by malarki5 on 30 April 2009:
Caramel said:
‘what if it was a bw with a wm? i’m pretty sure most black men would be upset. i only prefer white men and i don’t care what anyone thinks about my preference’.
Menelik says:
do try not to project your racial issues with Black men and white women onto Black men, sweety! date out, marry out and stay out…please!
We really don’t petty nonsense who you prefer. This is an inter-racial dating site, yes? Then date inter-racially instead of hating inter-racially.
Put another way: Speak not of Black men just live your life!
Menelik Charles
London
Comment by Beth 13 on 30 April 2009:
It shouldn’t matter WHAT skin color you or your partner have! I hope our society can move beyond such trivial divisions and learn to see people for who they really are, not what they look like. I will date anyone that I personally like, admire and am attracted to…I don’t give a sweet damn what color he is!!
Comment by Zahara77 on 30 April 2009:
I notice black and white relationships really get the raw end of the deal. I mean I bet you if it was an asian woman and white guy, there wouldn’t be as many hateful responses towards this couple. Am I right, or am I right? What is it about black/white relationships that rile people up?
Comment by Mocha Cravens on 30 April 2009:
Zahara makes a good point !
Comment by Cibal09 on 30 April 2009:
Ditto, Beth.
Hey, has anyone ever seen Sean Patrick Thomas with a Black woman on screen? I was watching “Lie to Me” — ONE OF THE BEST SHOWS ON TV — and he is now having an affair with the Latina on the show. Since I first remember seeing him in that dance movie (uhm?), I don’t recall ever seeing him with a Black woman. What’s up wit’ dat?
Comment by malarki5 on 1 May 2009:
Zahara77 said:
“What is it about black/white relationships that rile people up?”
Menelik replies:
what it is amounts to a ‘perfect storm’. That is, Black men are seen by white men as being inherently more masculine than themselves while some Black women percieve white women as being inherently more beautiful and feminine than themselves.
Of course, what I’ve said will be denied by both Black women and white men but one would hardly expect them to admit any of this, would you?
Also keep in mind that traditionally (but for different reasons) Black women and white men have sought to keep Black men and white women apart. So when they get together…boooom!
Menelik Charles
London England
Ps I do not date inter-racially and, yes, my partner IS Black…but I hope that won’t stop Mocha visiting these shores for a date lol
Comment by Beth 13 on 1 May 2009:
I honestly think that, with white Americans, part of it could be a sort of racial guilt….in early American history, white people terribly mistreated blacks, the native peoples, Asians, basically everyone. What was done to the blacks tops it all, though….slavery has a long remembrance. I was the first one of my family entering this county in 1966 (I was born in the air over LaGuardia Airport), so I can happily say that my people had nothing to do with any of it. I do think, however, that we, as a people, need to put ancient hatreds aside and, all over the world, we need to unite and solve the mess we have made of our beautiful planet. That is the task that faces ALL humans, now, and the differences between us must fall if we are going to survive as a species.
Comment by muse4u on 1 May 2009:
Zahara
I’ll bet you’re right…..I see tons of white guys with Asian girls in the area where we live and it’s like a status thing or some such BS (they think Asian women are submission, and it’s not true at all). No one hassles the latins and whites for mixing either.
Thanks for bringing that up.
Comment by Beth 13 on 1 May 2009:
It’s funny: here in Albany, NY, you see black and white mixing frequently (I contribute to this LOL) but rarely do you see Asian people with any other races, although my neighbor Cheryl would put a lie to that statement: She’s Taiwanese and her lover is a Mexican guy. I never paid attention to it before, I guess, but you’re absolutely right: no one thinks anything about white & Hispanic or Asian but you get crap for mixing white and black. Personally, over the years, I’ve experienced abuse when I was with a black man but never with an Hispanic. I’ve never dated an Asian man, and I’m currently single, so if any of you Asian guys like Irish girls, here I am. LOL
Comment by brujita on 1 May 2009:
Coming from a VERY diverse family and being born and raised in CA, I don’t often experience racism, or if I do, I don’t really realize it. I’ve learned not to care, not to listen to narrow minded or senile people (I’ve had one woman tell me that if I were to have children with my White boyfriend my kids would be *literally* split in half … half White and half Black. That kept me laughing for hours and it still amuses me) and to keep on doing what I’m doing.
No matter what, someone is always going to hate something that someone else is doing so I can’t let it bother me that this one thing that I do is hated by some people.
Comment by tigertreats on 1 May 2009:
I thought the picture was awesome. Not of big fan of heavy kissing in public. Its a bit tacky to me. The picture was fine….
Anyone who was offended I can only feel compassion for. They are having conflict within themselves.
I think she was cute… wonder if she’s available?
(joke)
take care all
Comment by Fire321 on 2 May 2009:
To raytorayto
Have you ever noticed that on any interracial dating site that shows a photo in their ad will be of a white man with a black woman?
It’s easier for the masses to accept a white man/black woman couple verses a black man/white woman couple. Why that is, I don’t know.
I find it pointless to let interracial dating get under your skin. Everyone is entitled to their viewpoint about the subject but it’s a new day and times change. When will people learn that without change, there can be no growth.
Comment by Beth 13 on 2 May 2009:
Yeah…what’s up with that?? None of it should matter, in a perfect world, but I’ve wondered that myself. I think the them-and-us instinct is humanity’s most destructive trait in today’s society. It may have kept us alive millenia ago, but now, it will kill us if we can’t bond as a species and fight together to save our beautiful planet. Until we learn to embrace our differences, there can be no peace. I have never felt hate for anyone, even those who have hurt me, and for this I thank God every day. Hatred is a terrible emotion that hurts everyone, giver and receiver.
Comment by marjani on 2 May 2009:
It has nothing to do with them being interracial, they just look funky together.
She got “grandma arms” and looks like a pillow cushion (overweight) and he just isn’t a nice-looking gentleman at all.
Put a cute interracial couple on mag covers, even if they don’t all look like that in real life.
Comment by stillahippie on 2 May 2009:
It’s pretty sad the hostility that still exists with interracial dating and marriage, DESPITE the fact that our beloved President Obama is from an interracial couple. I have read extremely hateful blogs that despise white women for dating black men. Making bizarre claims that we are doing it “to put the black woman down” and etc. And I have also had a man SPIT near me while I walked down the street with my black boyfriend. Thankfully I have friends of all races (including black women) who don’t have a problem with who I love. Also, I’m so grateful for this site, as it validates interracial dating for us all!
Comment by godiva61 on 2 May 2009:
bellaone,
I really don’t want to get too far off the subject, because I know we are talking about the photo that has certain people riled up. Thanks for sharing your story, it’s so sad that we still have a few misguided souls in the world, especially here in the USA.
I want to comment on something that you shared with us about your boyfriend that I’m having a little trouble with, and that is, and I’m quoting here, “that he doesn’t date black women because they are too bossy”. From where I’m sitting that comment is a very insulting stereotype. Has he dated ALL black women? Or is he referring to the black women that he has dated? Stereotyping has always been the catalyst that was most effective to the “RACISM” cause. Black people are this, black people are that. Black men are this black men are that. Constant stereotyping. Being that your boyfriend is black, I’m more than sure that he has at one time or another had to deal with, try to excel in coorporate america while dealing with stereotypes.
I find it interesting that he feels as though that stereotyping black women is okay. Also this type of remark is one of the main reasons that the majority of black women that I have spoke with(NOT ME) has a problem with black men with white women. It’s the tone, the put downs, the stereotyping, the bashing of black women by black men to white women that most black women have with the bm/ww issue.
I have a friend and I love her dearly but sometimes she is a little dramatic and very sensitive but she is a good person. When she first talked with me about this very thing, I thought that maybe she was being a little too sensitive as always. So I decided to find out for myself so I conducted a little experience. I who is rarely shocked about anything was shocked, but mostly saddened by what I saw and what I heard coming from black men with white women!!! Even though I seen and heard some things that made me sick to my stomach, I still have no right or desire to stereotype all black men, never have and never will!! I think black men should give black women the benefit of the doubt by ending the stereotyping and bashing of black women!
After all they of all people should understand the consequences of stereotyping! If he is only with you because of your skin color and your blonde hair?
Doesn’t this sound familiar? All white people are not the same, nor is all blondes, or all rich people, or poor people.
Enough with the stereotyping!
Comment by nigellaspice on 3 May 2009:
Fire321
I agree with you.
Times are changing, I smile every time I see the cute little black kid acting all goofy walking home after school with the little white girl. their holding hands and she has the brightest smile on her little face. Thats were we start, our children.
Peace
Comment by bellaone on 3 May 2009:
I agree with you totally!! My best friend is black and I love her for her inside her heart and brain and sense of humor. My NOW EX boyfriend is stereotyping black women and I think it is wrong as well.
He also dropped my hand when he saw any black women or black men walking down the street. Which hurt my feelings and made me sad another reason we are not together anymore.
I believe it is HIS insecurity . People have always stereotyped me as “Barbie” and think it is funny or I like it . I hate it my name is not Barbie and I have worked my way up from the bottom to prove I do have a brain. I still have a fight daily with someone’s stupid commets.
I have a lot of black friends and as I said my brother is half black . I personally LOVE BLACK PEOPLE we would have no great music and not to many funny movies( Thanks Wayne Bros.) without our fine black sisters and brothers.
We all need to inbrace each other with RESPECT no matter what color shape or size!! We all need to think before we speak and give each other the same respect . Do un to others as you would have do un to you.!! Much love people always!!K
Comment by kathleen09 on 3 May 2009:
This makes me very sad to see that we are still worrying about skin color in this day. I am a blond white woman who was married to a black man for 17 years and went through the stares when we would go out with our daughter. I feel for this couple on the cover, hopefully one day we will look at every couple whatever color) and just be happy they found love. We are all human beings and when all people can see that, we will be a much happier society.
Comment by Beth 13 on 3 May 2009:
To quote a comedy giant…”Can’t we all just get along?!” That’s oversimplifying it, sure, but that’s the basics. Why the hell can’t we just enjoy each other! Skin color doesn’t matter in the slightest: the soul and mind are all that’s important. I have friends who are every colour of the rainbow, even a few I suspect aren’t human. LOL But I was on a bus one day with my black friend Laticia when this skenky-looking white dude got on the bus and he started giving me a hard time, telling me I was “polluting” myself by talking to Laticia. I told him coldly that she was my friend and he should leave us alone, but he persisted, yelling at both of us. I loved the bus driver’s reaction: he told the guy that if he didn’t stop haranguing us, he’d have to get off the bus. The skenky guy blew him off because he was black and continued his abuse. The drive, love him, stopped the bus and physically threw the skenky asshole off! I was heartened by everyone’s response: all the people on the bus burst into applause, but I felt so sad for Laticia - how humiliating and hurtful that asshole’s comments must have been. No one should have to put up with crap like this!!
Comment by raytorayto on 3 May 2009:
Well I did not think I would end up responding on this particular blog again however, this isdriving me crazy.
1) Beth13 - the quote is not from a comedy giant it was from Rodney King in response to the L.A. riots after a jury acquitted a 4 cops for bitting him. I was goint to be more discriptive but descided to let whowever have their own veiw of the events.
2) Why are so many of these reponses have the words ‘my black gf’ or ‘black bf?’ The idea that this is frased as such leads me to question. I would never think to say that. It maybe that I feel they are a friend and if it needs to be said it would be in response or after thought as to their skin tone.
3) Bring a woman home to ‘meet my parents” only done after dating awhile. If you think I am kidding, I dated one woman for about a year (going out once or twice a month) and I broke up with her before she meet my parents or my children. It was because of racial issues and in my family it does not fly to hate on people this way. Wups, I forgot to mention she was white. I know what many are thinking “why didn’t you see it?” I knew something was wrong I just could not put my finger on it, until a one incident that brought it fully into the light.
4) I do agree in part to the idea when one dates exclusivly one race outside of their race or anyone but their race is a form of racism. But we are attracted to who we are attracted to.
5) If you stereotype even if it is your own ethnic people it is a form of racism. Stop the hate or we disintegrate or in others we will die as a people because the haters will fight killing one another with the lovers caught in the middle.
I know some will read this and say “he is just being pc.” If ya know me ya know it ain’t so. I will fill in some of the gaps. My children are mixed race. The closet man in the world to me and I love is my step-father, who is of mexican descent. I grow up in predominatly black or latino neighborhoods. Hell, when I was growing up, I would hear the adults (TV, radio…) talk about the white majority and wonder what the hell are the talking about, as I had never seen it. I am not attracted to the race but the woman. My daughters can and do date whom ever, I don’t care about the skin tone, I care about them treating my babies good and not abousing them (then it’s on).
I do like the discussion of racial issues, because they are out there no doubt, but never exclude a party from the discussions or nothing is resolved.
One of the classes I took as an undergrad was on violence in sociate. My professor, speaking about racial discussions said “how can we resolve racism in our society, when we tell whites the do not have a right to talk about it? They are a major player when it comes to this issue.”
I hope I am clear I on occasion ramble and lose my direction (the 70’s youth showing up), however I hope you feel what I mean and am trying to get acrossed?
Much love,
Kevin
Comment by raytorayto on 3 May 2009:
One more thing as for other race mixtures there is the attetude out there, it is not as forth right but is there. My ex-wife is asian and we never saw it when we lived in Hawaii but when we moved to Cali, it popped right up. My parents have had it dumped on them. This is the place I felt there would be the most accepting and it has been the least. We have been to SC and if it was present it was well hiden.
Comment by Beth 13 on 3 May 2009:
Kevin; Sorry we’re irritating you so much, buddy. The line I quoted WAS used in a comedy movie, a spoof of modern times. If our conversation is bothering you so much, then DON’T READ IT!
That said, I do agree with you about always dating the same type of person..that is certainly a form of prejudice. I’ve been sexually active since I was 15 and in that span of time (too damned long, but hey, can’t stop aging!), I have had 9 partners. Of those partners, there has been 3 blacks and 1 Hispanic, 7 men and 2 women, so I guess you could say I’m a well-rounded individual and about 80% straight. ha ha My friends range in age from 7 to 70 so I guess I’m covered there, too…LOL
Comment by RASHEBA on 3 May 2009:
RASEBA, AS FOR ME I WILL MARRY A WHITE MAN ANS WHO DOES NOT LIKE IT… TOUGH LUCK
Comment by raytorayto on 3 May 2009:
Hi Fire321,
I actaully signed up to this sight and it has the as with a BM/WF. I can only explain things in it’s simpilist form for me and I will give an example. at work we had a meeting with a one of our clients who happen to be gay. One was early and when his partner showed up then hugged and that was it. My boss talked to me about it and my comfort leavly. She was shocked by my answer. I found out that they only hugged out of respect for me as they did not want to offend me as this was my first meeting with them (been friends w/the boss for years). My response was and still will be the same whether it is same sex, interracial or what have you:
‘There is so much hatered and dispare in this world that two people showing love and affection for one another I can not find offensive and actually makes me feel there is hope for us yet.’
Comment by godiva61 on 4 May 2009:
To bellaone,
Thanks for the response, much appreciated! I’m truly sorry that things didn’t work out with your boyfriend, but I’m a firm believer in chemistry and when the RIGHT person for you comes along he/she will compliment your life instead of complicating your life. Also if you need to tear somebody down on a constant basis, that speaks volumes about your own character and integrity. I believe whole heartedly that if women would not stand for men bashing women for whatever reasons and especially in this scenario, then the hostility would be very minimum. “Wise Women Build Up, They Don’t Tear Down”!
It’s very hard and strenous to have to fight stereotypes and it’s so unfair but somehow in the long run it makes us better, and stronger. I never had to deal with the “Barbie” BS, but I can relate to your fight. I was a black woman in the Military, I had to work three times as hard as the men while fighting the “females” in the Military fight as well. Often times, the women made it that much harder by their decisions they made, so a lot of times I paid for other women mistakes and poor judgment, but here I am, still standing!!
Talk with you soon, have a wonderful week!!
Peace and Love
PS. If a man can’t hold your hand, and have to hide holding your hand, then he probably wouldn’t have had your back as well. You deserve better!!
Comment by bellaone on 4 May 2009:
I agree with you that is why I take it slow and find out who they are before holding my hand foever. In every other aspect he was wonderful to me. It was only 3 months , so I did NOT put up with it once i really saw it.
I am a very strong woman and NO One man or woman will tear me down. I will keep a eye open for this type of behavior in the future. I want a man what ever color to walk beside me and be proud to be with me not hide from the world.
Thanks for the words of wisdom. I will find him one day….No big hurry. I wish you all on here love and peace and remember we should all be respectful even if we do not agree with others on who they date.
Life is too short to hate . Love people not color!!
Much love, K
Comment by kathleen09 on 4 May 2009:
I already wrote on this blog but I had an after thought…. Just two small stories that I have had to endure at the hands ignorance. My ex husband of 17 years and I had just gotten married and were on our honey moon. We were so happy, just left our beutiful family at our wedding/reception. We went to San Francisco for our honey moon.. We were walking down the street and a group of young black women began taunting us as we walked by. The most memorable comment was “jungle fever” and a lot of cussing. My husband and I were so angry, we were enjoying our honey moon and a group of ignorant young people walked by not knowing anything about us and began judging us.
I remember another instance we had just had our daughter, she was only a few months old and we were walking down by a beach on a beutiful day… We were followed by a group of skin heads.. We were so lucky it was a crowded beach and alot of people were around. All they did was follow us to make sure we got the point. I just remember being so frightened for my baby. We went directly to our car.
In this day and age we are still worrying about safety and covers of magazines with interacial love. The couple on the front of the magazine are an actual couple (not models) We don’t know what these two have been through together. Maybe they have had to endure alot to be together. I just pray one day we won’t have a need for a blog where we have to discuss this. Hopefully we will be talking about issues as one group and the issue (race) will not be even considered.
Comment by arkansasman on 4 May 2009:
Wow, good comments. I was just reading along when acebenice stated that this country was founded on racial hatered. This is not only false but just plain silly. Babe you need to go to a college american history class where you will learn the REAL nature of the founding of this country. I personally love black woman and ingeneral I feel comfortable with people of all races. I live in ARkansas. That is Deep south. I get looks yes but not rally any touble. I dont care what others think. This nation was founded on personal freedom. It is my constitutional right, just as any Man, to have my life, liberty and persute of happiness.
I understand how acebenice could think the way she does. But there really were slaves or endentured servents of all races in america. Our fore fathers wrote “all man” not just white man in the constitution. As time went by our leaders knew it was wrong and it was the southerners that had the slaves. When Lincoln saw that he had a way to hurt the rebel south during the Civil was he freed the slaves. He knew it was wrong and it was time for good men to do what was right.
A White man in the highest office in the land!
Comment by Jazzman on 4 May 2009:
I think people who are surprised by these responses are naive. This country elected a “half- black” president who was married to a black woman. If she was white, he would not even have gotten the nominaton in the so called “liberal party”.
People have there biases and I feel like as long as I keep that in mind then I will never be surprised when I don’t get service because of the person on my arm. Many people forget we are still a country with a lot of “firsts” that have still have not come to pass.
With saying that, I do believe hat as hollywood goes so goes the rest of the country. television,movies, and music videos all have made interatial love a part of our pop culture. Racism is going to have to die off a generation at a time.
Comment by Vanessa7 on 4 May 2009:
I am currently dating the most wonderful man I’ve ever met. He is white. Our first kiss was in the parking lot of the restaurant that we meet at. It was one of the most beautiful experiences I’ve ever had. It was a sweet, and tender moment for us. Frankly speaking, people need to get over it. Because I will kiss him whenever or whereever the mood hits me. I’m into PDA big time (public displays of affection), only because I’m very affectionate.
Comment by hope2cu on 6 May 2009:
the comments on the pic to me are normal for the average ignorant american.Good think we dont all think that way… I have been dating black men for many years and i guess have grown numb to what other people think or say and really dont let it affect me in ne way..but deff is sad ..Jazzman is 100% right in my opion
Comment by BaBa1972 on 6 May 2009:
The problem exist with the word interracial. I dont even think this is a word. What is interracial anyway? Race is the core word here, and inter means to cross. If I’m not mistaken a black man and a white woman (or vice versa) are not crossing races. We are the Human Race. Black, white, hispanic, asian, or whatever is not your race, it’s your ethnic background. The faster we understand that, and stop mislabeling black on white relationships as interracial, the faster we can get past the racist coments.
Comment by godiva61 on 6 May 2009:
I agree with Jazzman. It’s so naive to think that some people, or should I say a lot of people are past the “color” issue. I’m surprised that others are surprised. As far as the picture goes when I first saw it my immediate thought(PLEASE DON’T LAUGH), but my first thought was ” that’s an ugly shade of yellow”. The yellow dress caught my eye first. So I noticed the fashion aspect of the picture. That’s not to say that I’m not at all surprised by the responses. I do think a lot of times, people are as ignorant as their environment, but I also believe that sometimes people can be so sensitive to certain things that they only hear the negative comments and focus only the negative aspect of the situation. That’s not to say that the negative aspect is unreal but sometimes you can give the negative too much press, so to speak. I was at all ballgame once(DIE HARD YANKKE FAN)and it was a man in a wheelchair. Now I can’t imagine what it would be like not to be able to walk but I’m sure the man who can’t see might like to trade places to sit in a chair to actually see a ballgame. Anyway this woman kept staring at the guy in the wheelchair and it was very noticeable. Finally he said “why in the ____ are you staring at me”? He was angry and very defensive and maybe he had a good reason to be, but when she answered him in the manner that she did, he soften right up. I think had she answered him in the manner in which it was asked, it may have been even more awkard. She told him “not everyone is always staring at your chair, I wasn’t, I was staring at those beautiful green eyes”. He was so used to the negative aspect of that chair and that’s probably why his response was negative. We still have some misguided souls roaming around. Let’s just give them less press as possible!!
Did anyone see the HBO special, Right America?
If you get a chance check it out.
Peace and Love to everyone
Comment by DON~1 on 7 May 2009:
what’s wrong with a man and woman KISSING and showing their affections toward each other and don’t matter what color they are ? …..that’s called LOVE !!!! i love kissing and holding hands and showing affection in public when i be with my DATE ……hell when ya’ll men and women don’t get any affections from ya’ll date i bet ya’ will get upset. so ya’ll people who is so narrow minded and a racist ……get OVER it. i love all women and i don’t mind showing affection in public or at home.
ya’ll need to live ya’ life to the fullest and stop all the HATE and racist comments. GOOD LUCK every1 and hope ya’ll will find ya’ true love on this dating site. = ) Don
Comment by malarki5 on 7 May 2009:
Rasheba said:
“AS FOR ME I WILL MARRY A WHITE MAN ANS WHO DOES NOT LIKE IT… TOUGH LUCK”.
Menelik says:
are you an adult, darling or just an idiot? Marry who you want and make sure to close the door behind you!
Comment by wifeyfru2luv on 9 May 2009:
This sells a lot of papers. I hope Go continues to show this stuff, till people get used to it!
Comment by xilady2020 on 10 May 2009:
I think the pic is awesome and the fact that they were brave enough to public real life like it happens every day. I date men, generally only black, my preference and my choice. If they date me, they obviously feel the same. We are the SAME and have rights to make choices. Grow America!
Comment by baabiblue on 11 May 2009:
If I went through life caring what everyone thought, I’d be extremely unhappy, therefor, I go through life and care what my loved ones think.
Comment by Meffie on 11 May 2009:
Hear! Hear! I agree with you completely: if I cared about what people thought, I would be lost. I care about my loved ones’ opinion of me, that’s for sure, but the crass comments of idiots does not affect me. I will date whomever I please and I don’t give a damned what color he is! For me, the person inside the body was always more important to me than the body itself. Don’t get me wrong: physical attraction is an important part of starting a relationship, but it’s the bonding of mind, heart and soul that keeps it going!
Comment by LAURELLIZ on 12 May 2009:
I have kissed black men all over the midwest from SD to MI and a few other places as well. I have a mixed race son and I’m brunette (but sometimes I’m blonde
I have never recieved hate mail online or in the mailbox, I have never been treated any less because I date black men. I do get people who ask me if I ONLY date black men or they assume that I just because he is black that I would like a guy, mostly it is curiousity…esp. get asked about size…the whole myth thing.
This does get better with each generation. And THIS generation is growing up with a black president, whether you love Obama or hate him for whatever reason, he is there and an example to our nation. Our children will grow up with this monumental change in our history and it will keep getting better. Just be the person who does not feed into the stereotypes. No matter what color you are…trash also comes in every color.
Comment by chococyrelle on 13 May 2009:
Hello averyone, I guess coming for an entire different continent and country, my view on biracial dating is different.Biracial couple or interracial couple is the greatest testament of courage to love given the world and some of the people we share this world with. And to one friend who said something about a someone who exclusively preferes white or black, it is a matter of preference, it is not so much about thinking less of ay group. I am black and think some of my brother are hot, super hot but that is as far as it will go for me as far as Black men are concerned, nothing sexual, the only black men I have seen naked have been patients of mine. I do not have sexual feelings or desired when it comes to Black Men. As for the white that I do date, not avery white one will do for me, he has to have pretty colored besides brown and thy have to illuminating ones, again interracial dating is a matter of preference not of stating that these group is better than the other , it is an individual thing and the rest of the world should stay out of it, and keep their opinions to themselves.
Comment by chococyrelle on 13 May 2009:
Sorry my computer was acting crazy so I had to type sometimes without seeing the words, so they are a few mispelling. I meant colored eyes.
Comment by Afroiroquois on 13 May 2009:
I applaud the comments and find it interesting that in the 21st century, we have still not arrived. So what if Pulitzer turns over in his grave-who gave him the right to say what happens in someone else’s life? I honestly felt hurt by stillahippie’s comment that she was spat at by someone because of her choice in LOVE-I hurt for her, we all should!Some of us have no problem with interracial affairs but one thing we must keep in mind is self-love, which helps us celebrate our differences together. In the end, we’re all equal; we’re born and we will die…Live life to the fullest you only get to do it once!
Peace,
Afroiroquois
Comment by jyaya24 on 13 May 2009:
I am never insulted when I hear the hatred and Jealousy that I get from being with a black man. I am Italian and spanish a Melting pot of Diversity along with The Man that I choose! We are not just colours of skin and data information to do surveys on! We are mixed individuals, Personality,Nationality and noone is black/black or white/white…Sometimes those who are prejudice are overwhelmed by non experience and just plain missing out of the Diversity that make us better people every day.
Comment by free33 on 13 May 2009:
Seriously, How pathetic are you if you care about who dates who? To hell with the Black/White dynamic. Why should I care who’s pleasing who? If a woman who’s skin happens to be of a darker hue, Toes curl up at the touch of a white dude, why should I care?
Seriously, Racism is a symptom of a deeper disease. Yes it is discusting. Yes racism is tired but racist are just pond scum anyway. If they weren’t racist, it would come out in some other way.
I am Not racist because I have been blessed to understand myself and I work hard on being a good person by my nature. I am not racist, I am not mean spirited, i am kind, I strive to get rid of my evil and Cling to my good so as a result I resist racism just as I resist Crack use. Both are symptoms of being a less than good person. I do not care who dates who regardless of color. I wish everyone find the person that makes them happy. I like what I like and I tell yoou this, People do not come off wrong on me when they see me with a woman with white skin. I guess they can see the I DON’T GIVE A FUH UCC on my face. I must admit I kinda wish someone would. By the time I finish showing them themselves I suggest racial make ups of couples, would be the least of their concerns
Comment by godiva61 on 13 May 2009:
to free 33
Did we miss something here? Did someone call you a racist? Or are you just responding to the topic about this picture? I find that people who have such a problem with interracial dating are ususally the ones who really want to do what you do but are too afraid of what other’s will say. So, why would you , me, or anyone else for that matter care about a person with that mentality say, or react, they can’t even be true to themselves. Live your life, to hell with others!!!
Peace and Love
Comment by free33 on 14 May 2009:
Hey Godiva61
Yes I think we are missing each other. I didn’t think you called me a racist, nor did I call anyone racist. I was commenting on the topic. What I was trying to convey is that it is my opinion, people who care about someone else’s relationship, have a problem.
When I see topics such as this and the responses that follow, It seems as if interacial couples are asking society for permission to love. How crazy is that?
If someone cares about me and who I’m with, Black,White,Asian,Latino or any of the other wonderful shades GOD has put on this planet, They have the sickness.
I respect everyone’s right to think the way they think and I DO mean respect. I just do not choose to agree with it, ponder it, consider it and I sure as hell do not choose to let it change my reality. I do not expect people to see things the way I do. I give people the grace to think and live the way they do as long as it does not hinder my life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
I am not in a relationship at this time but when I was It was about My Lady and I. I didn’t care what my friends, my siblings or what my parents thought. Why in all that is holy would I care what some small minded retard thinks and How small would I be if I let it affect my love for my Lady?
All I was saying is to me, anyone who cares who another person is with has so much wrong with them I can’t even mess with them.
Comment by Kimmic on 14 May 2009:
Here is the good news…For any of you out there with teenage kids in your life, you will have seen just how far we have come. If you look at the next generation you can see that there are fewer and fewer people with this mentality. I love to see any interracial couple because it demonstrates just how loving and open people truly are. The mentality of old is “dying” off. Well, both figuratively and literally. I have quite a few white girlfriends who have biracial kids and date black men. I will date anyone who meets my criteria regardless of race. Personally, I have dated black, white, asian and hispanic men. Love has absolutely no racial boundaries. God bless you guys.
Comment by godiva61 on 14 May 2009:
to free33,
Thanks for taking the time to reply. No I didn’t think that you were thinking that it was I who was calling you a racist. I was just a little confused because you kept mentioning the word “racist”. Now I got it and totally understand what you were saying.
Yes it’s crazy and it seems that the more things change, the more some things stay the same. In the end we will all be held accountable for our action’s, including how we treat one another. I agree, ignorance should not come between you and your mate, but unfortunately we live in a world where small minds and ignorance runs wildly, so that leaves us no other alternative but to have to deal with it from time to time. Take this site for instance, once in a while we meet people who are so hung up on others dating interracialy, and hate it so much, that they become even more ignorant, verbally abusive, degrading to women and sometimes men as well on this site. This shouldn’t be at all!! You sound like a very nice person and a strong man and even though I don’t know you, I’m hoping and praying that only great things will come to you, but don’t block your blessings by compromising your integrity and your unique GOD giving personality when you have to deal with the ignorance. I believe that our true characters shines when life is not going well, as opposed to when life is going good. The manner in which a man/woman interracts with others, is a true reflection of what he/she truly thinks of themselves, and if this is so, then there are some pretty unloved, non validated, miserable, sad people. You are a fine example of what a MAN should be, don’t lose site of this!!
When you become a Man, you put away your childish things.
Peace and Love
Comment by godiva61 on 14 May 2009:
To free33,
I just wanted to let you know just how much I appreciated your ability and willingness to articulate your feelings and being a gentlemen while doing so. It’s so refreshing to have a conversation with a man that’s honest, intelligent, and has an open mind regardless of who I choose to date or he chooses to date. Just because we we are not limited and kept in a box about dating, doesn’t mean that we are incapable of being friends and respecting each other’s right to be with whom we choose. We are capable of having healthy relationship’s, and productive conversations in spite of what the so called critics say. Of course we have to work at it, just like all other relationships.
Have a Great Day!!
Peace and Love
Comment by Nokia37 on 15 May 2009:
To the young lady from Albany NY,
Just wanted to let you know that my family and I also reside in Albany and we have experienced very very minumal racism if any at all!!! I will not say it doesen’t exsist in Albany, but it is truly truly rare.
To be honest with you, I think Albany NY may have one of the largest ratios of diversed couples and marriages in America, and believe me I have lived in many places in the U.S. and other countries and have not seen it as abroad as I do in Albany NY.
My mother onced joked about how Albany has to be the
“Interracial capital of the U.S. because it seemed every couple and family that were in the resturant we were eating at was of different nationalities.
Respect to all that see one race,
The race to be happy, regardless of color
Comment by Neicy05 on 15 May 2009:
I have been sitting reading the different postings, and it warms my heart to hear that there are many people who just see the person and not the color of ones’ skin. I grew up in a “black” family. My mother and I were the only white people in the house (out of 11) and in the neighborhood too. But I grew up happy and didn’t understand what racism really was until I was 18 and an officer pulled my boyfriend and myself over for no reason. Neither of us had ever had any tickets or trouble with the law, but he proceeded to have us step out of the vehicle and search it for drugs and anything else he could think of. The most shocking thing to me was, he was a black man in uniform and he was blatantly prejudiced. It didn’t change how I felt, because to this day, I relate to black people more than white people. I don’t have any problems with anyone, but the ideals about family, religion, life in general are sooooooo very different. I have dated different ‘races’ (I thought that we were all of the HUMAN race) and my only problem with the men had nothing to do with their skin color, but the attitude that they were raised with. I don’t tolerate a man that thinks he is better than me because he is a man, and I was not raised to be a slave to anyone. I know how to treat my man as my king, but I am also his queen. The LORD is my master, not a man. I am rambling… sorry. I just wish this country could see, that if we could come together with love for one another and leave the hatred behind, and help our country first… we would be the strongest country on the planet. GOD created ALL men (and women) equal!!!
I just want to say, judge people by who they are, not what they are. Get to know a person before you choose to dislike them. But be careful, they may just steal your heart.
Comment by Neicy05 on 15 May 2009:
Always keep this in mind… Misery Loves Company! Those people that are mean and hateful are miserable in their own lives, that is why they need to try and make you miserable too. They crave the kind of happiness a loving couple has, no matter what color they may be. There is always someone in the bunch, that is always saying snide comments or trying to instigate something. Beware, even your closest friends may try and sabotage your relationship because they are afraid of the change that will happen with your relationship with them. Sometimes they do it without really knowing that they are. LET’S JUST GET ALONG… PEACE, LOVE AND HAPPINESS ARE WONDERFUL THINGS TO EXPERIENCE…
Comment by Neicy05 on 15 May 2009:
This is in response to what godiva61 said on May 2nd… I do agree with you about the stereotyping… not all do the bad things so don’t categorize. I have had more than my ‘fair’ share of insults and bashing from some black women, and I do understand the feeling from them that ‘we’ (white women) are taking their GOOD men. That is so not true. I don’t like when they say that black men are only with white women because we are docile and or will do things for them a black woman won’t. I was raised by a strong black lady, bless her soul… and maybe I am different than other white women, but it’s not true. All it is, is attitude. I mean it’s how two people get along and how they deal with situations. I have been told that I am a black woman in a white womans body because I won’t put up with the BS that men (in general) try to put us through. I take that as a compliment. But anyway, I agree with you. I don’t like to be categorized… so I don’t categorize others.
Comment by Neicy05 on 15 May 2009:
to godiva61
I just read about you having to work 3 times as hard to even be considered you did the same job. I understand, I have been a forklift driver/warehouse worker for years and some of the men have told me literally to go home and bake some cookies. My boss was sexually harassing me and I got laid off over one that had drove into a foundation pole right in front of our boss and drove into a 3 high stack of pallets with over 7,000 in damage. I never hit anything, I know how to pay attention. When I reported all this to HR, they refused to listen, so I left it alone and refuse to use that company’s product. I could have gotten a lawyer, but I was so done. It’s hard being a woman period… but some think I have it easy because I am white. Not here at least. Sorry went off again on something else.
Comment by Neicy05 on 15 May 2009:
I would like to comment on the statement about Obama having a white wife would show what kind of man he really is. That pissed me off! He has a beautiful wife, and it should only be in the way that he treats his ‘wife’ that says what kind of man he is. He could be married to a white, latino, asian, etc. and still be racist. I think of Obama as a man with one helluva job to clean up. Bush left so much sh*% messed up that I give Obama much props for the job he’s done so far. He (and We) have a long way to go. A wife does not make a man good or bad, no matter what color. He has a mind of his own as does she.
Comment by Neicy05 on 15 May 2009:
to BaBa1972
Thank you…. that is the same thing that I try to explain to people.
Comment by coco115 on 17 May 2009:
I must say congrats to the couples who are setting the example. My take on this is, In about 20 years there may not be a one race, because everyone will be mixed with something, most of us already are . I dated black men because I thought that was the norm for me, come to find out that is so far from the truth. When I first dated white men I was afraid to go out in public with them (which was stupid). I never realised how much I was hurting the person who cared for me and loved me. I was happy and paid the price. Not anymore I need to be happy and a white man makes me happy and fills my every need. This county is racist from the top down. The people who have a problem with blacks and whites loving each other should travel more and get out of the bubble they live in. The new generation proved it by voting in a black president. I bet the haters didn’t see that one coming.We have only just begun.
Comment by COCO on 17 May 2009:
I THINK WE ARE PREACHING TO THE CHOIR ON THIS SITE…(LOL),,however,IR dating is alive and well…and its always been-in US history ,European history,World history! Cultures have always,blended,mated,mixed and marveled at the differences and the similarities. …this is nothing! hey! ignorant people if you really wanna check out IR affairs go to some of these IR porn sites…those will knock your “little white socks off” LOL LOL…LOL…
peace, love and soul grease ;o)~
Comment by exoticbronze on 17 May 2009:
I loved the picture! I hope to see many more.
In a way I think that is part of the problem, we just don’t see enough of it. There are many interracial couples, but we are not depicted as normal in the media or movies. Even in the few movies they depict interracial couples, there is always some sort of racial hurdle to get over, whether its the families or the neighbor.
America needs to face the fact that love has broken through the color barrier and so should we. It’s a wonderful thing!
Comment by Djoy on 18 May 2009:
to the people that can’t stand the picture, god made everyone in his image, so why would you be concerned about what someone else is doing mind your business, and be unhappy by yourself, because me i love my white beautiful women
Comment by MTNHUGGER21 on 18 May 2009:
YOU ARE ALL RIGHT ABOUT THE MAG COVER. YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE REDNECKS WHO CANNOT HANDLE LIFE BECAUSE THEY FEEL SUPERIORd??? OR IS THAT VERY INSECURE. MY SENTIMENTS AS AN CAUSIAN. GOD MADE US ALL EQUAL, MEN AND WOMEN AND I FOR ONE TREAT ALL WOMEN AS AN EQUAL. IT IS NOT FOR ANYONE TO PASS JUDGEMENT ON ANOTHER PERSON. THAT IS GODS PRIVILEDGE ONLY AND THE WUSSES BETTER GET IT TOGETHER. MEN FOR YOUR PROBLEMS IN LIFE. WOMEN ARE NOW 63% INTO COLLEGE AS TO MEN AT 28%, WOMEN IN BUSINESS R AT 68%,MEN @28 TO 32%. WOMEN IN BUSINESS ARE NOW MOVING AHEAD IN MANY AREAS HOMEBUSINESS WISE AND MANY AREAS IN THE WORKPLACE. MEN ALSO HAVE A LOT OF AREAS TO GROW UP IN WHICH INCLUDES EDUCATING THEMSELVES TO WOMENS WANTS AND NEEDS WHICH OUTWAYS BEER,BURGERS AND T.V. ALL THE TIME.
Comment by MRLEES on 19 May 2009:
I read this entire board pertaining to a fella and a gal pictured kissing in a library on the cover of an issue of GQ, I wonder if it’s the kiss or is it the picture that caused so much adoo about nothing? Just imagine what would have come about if the article had been read. I guess a picture is indeed worth a thousand words.
I personally like kissing in an elevator between floors away from prying eyes. Where do you like to kiss? No pictures please.
Comment by godiva61 on 19 May 2009:
To Neicy05,
Hello, how are you? Thanks for acknowledging my post. It is comforting at times to be able to express yourself and know that perhaps on some level that your experiences, your joy, and sometimes even your pain reaches others who can identify with you. The cancer of “stereotyping” should be dosed with as much chemo as possible and then some. More importantly, we as one people should be so sick and tired of it that we become RADICAL CHEMOTHERAPY. Of course we would probably never rid ourselves of it but I believe that if we worked hard, be defiant, and never waiver, we could and would rarely have to deal with it.
I am sorry for the black women who have insulted you by claiming that you (white woman) have taken their good men. I’m only going to make a couple of points here and then I’ll be on my way. Point#1, Noone can be taken away from you. If that person is no longer with you, it is because he or she wanted to go for whatever reason(s). If someone or something is really yours, they could never be taken,, or lured away. Point#2, somethings and some people need to be gone and away from your life, so when a person leaves(regardless to where he/she goes after you) sometimes that might be a blessing in disguise. One of my First Sgt’s(I used to be in the Military), he would always say ” YOU CAN’T SOAR WITH THE EAGLES, IF YOU’RE CLUCKING AROUND ON THE GROUND WITH THE CHICKENS”. I have always regarded the EAGLE with the highest admiration, so I decided early on that not only do I want to soar, but I want like minded people who want to soar with me in my life…. Sometimes we aim way too low…. Long , long time ago I had a boyfriend that I was just crazy about, I was just in awe of him. The relationship ended, his call and not mine. I was devestated at first. It wasn’t a good two weeks that had passed, when I found out all the things he was doing when he wasn’t with me, he was living a mini double life. Once I found out, I was sad for him but after thinking about it I realized I did hit the jackpot after all, I won the moment he left the relationship.. Yeah Me!!!
I have a good friend, Mandy. Mandy loves and has always been attracted to black men. However she has been on dates with white men, and hispanic men. Her preference is black men. Never asked her why, because I really don’t care. The one thing that I have always admired about her was the fact that never in the 10 years that I’ve known her has she ever put down white men to the black men that she dates!!!! Not once!
That’s the way it should be. I admire her even moreso because on the few occassions when a black man that she was dating started bashing, and degrading black women, she would put them in check and soon after that,
they would not be in her life . It was one guy that she was crazy about and he seemed o be a really decent guy and I was hoping that at last she had found someone that was decent and accepting of her daughter. When he started with the sterotyping, and verbal bashing, he got kicked to the curb.
Mandy is now engaged to a very nice man, he’s charming and very funny and most of all he is a decent human being. He is good for her and she for him. When were talking the other day she said “you know if I had tolerated the sterotyping, the negativity about black women, or any woman for that matter, I would have missed out on the man that treats me like a queen, but more importantly he respects and treat all women like a queen”. Mandy has hit the Jackpot at last and she deserves it!! I admire all who will not compromise their values, their beliefs, and their integrity just to be accepted. Not once did she waiver even though sometimes it left her alone and even sad, she never waivered. I like that in a person!!!! My dad, rest his soul, would always ask me three questions when I would go to him about a problem that I was having at the time. I still on occassions ask myself the same three questions from time to time.
Once I went to him about some jokes that were being made that made me very uncomfortable. He asked “what role are you playing”?, What are you prepared to do? What are you prepared Not to do? I thought about it and I decided to confront the jokes in my own way, which I did. When they were being told, I got up and walked out of the room every time this person would start in with the jokes. I didn’t care what I was doing, I just get up and left the room while he was talking. He never stopped but his audience got smaller and smaller and then eventually he relocated…
I know this type of behavior is a pain in the___ and somedays are worse than others. Just please don’t become like your enemies because not all black women have this mentality about black men and non black mates. I think sometimes it’s very easy to think like such, but it’s been my experience that easy isn’t always best. I’d rather have the best than to have it easy..
Love and Peace
godiva61
Comment by MST on 20 May 2009:
Personally, I don’t care who dates whom, but I think that many black women get upset about black men dating white women because so often you see an attractive black man with a white woman who is ugly and/or weighs three hundred pounds. These black men would probably not look at an unattractive or obese black woman twice. Also, the rate of white women dating/marrying black men is disproportionate. Seventy-five percent of black/white couples are black men and white women.
Comment by katlu8984 on 20 May 2009:
It is a sad but painful reality that our culture still gets a bit queasy at seeing a black person and a white person together. It comes on both sides. However, I’ll take queasiness over what it was 40 years ago where in several states it was illegal for a black man to marry a white woman and that several black men during the civil rights movement were lynched for carrying on a relationship with a white woman.
And MST: What does weight or looks have to do with anything? Just like some of may have preferences about the color of the person we would like to date some people find heavier set people attractive too. I don’t see how you can correlate the two issues into one.
Comment by Maidinheaven on 20 May 2009:
I don’t oppose the Black & White, but I’m not into heavy public kissing. I think men are wonderful! Black and White are my favorites. I didn’t care much for Phillipinos or Japaneses until I met Michael and Tom; then I threw the rules out the window. I have been over race for years and dated outside my race when it was extremely dangerous to your life. Life is too short to spend it alone so spend it with whomever you like and want.
It comes down to what you want, like, love.
Comment by joanofarc66 on 21 May 2009:
“You mean there are blacks and whites out there making babies too? What has this world come to?
I am so glad I do not think that way. I will admit though, I have never experienced someone’s blatant ignorance in all my years of parenting two bi-racial children. Not saying that racial comments aren’t made once I leave the room but I know all too well, racism is still out there and I see a good deal of it coming out of many nationalities.
That being said, whites, in my opinion, are the most violent when it comes to race wars. All you can do is teach your children the rights and the wrongs and hope for the best from others.
I never let what others thought about me prevent me from living my life … and if I want to kiss the man I am with, in public, then those that struggle with it will just have to deal with it!
Comment by MST on 22 May 2009:
It’s been my observation that an attractive man of normal weight, whatever color, generally does not want to date an obese woman. Of course there are exceptions. Many black men tend to date fat and/or ugly white women that many white men would reject. Of course, this is not always true, either.
You’re entitled to your opinion just as I’m entitled to mine.
Comment by Meffie on 22 May 2009:
I have been heavy all of my life and in general, I have found that men who supposedly prefer heavy women are often more interested in finding a submissive, insecure woman, which many heavy women are. The words submissive and insecure have NEVER described me, so the men I’ve dated over the years were among the few who genuinely prefer a little meat on the bones, as it were.
To Nokia: I agree with you about Albany…there does seem to be a lot of race-mixing here. That is one of the things that drew me to the city and certainly one of the things that has kept me for for 20+ years. I really find myself more attracted to dark skinned men, so that has worked for me! LOL
Comment by GoodMan_4031 on 22 May 2009:
I find it interesting that Hollywood is more willing to show two gay men kissing (i.e., the TV show Brothers & Sisters) than a black man kissing a white woman. I don’t understand the logic.
If we are ever going to erase the stigma of race, society needs to embrace inter-racial marriage and relationships.
Comment by Melinda1970 on 23 May 2009:
It is hard to believe there is still so much ignorance and stupidity in this day and age. People are people and there is only 1 race… THE HUMAN RACE…
I’d rather see people kissing than fighting and killing, GEEZZZUUSS !!!
Comment by Dimples7 on 24 May 2009:
While I may have noticed that the couple were interacial it is not the first thing I noticed.Yhe very first thing I realized was that the lip warmer was not my man and the lip warmee was not me!LOL Although not clearly evident in my appearance I,too,embrace a diverse heritage while relishing in my ethnicity. In defense of IR - ‘the heart can’t help who it loves.’ Bottom line -we all bleed blue inside, bleed red ouside and the body doesn’t reject donor organs based on the recipient’s race.
Comment by Grayfox on 26 May 2009:
The purpose of a kiss is to please the two people kissing not those who are watching.Don’t know why people think I or anyone else is living to please them anyway.Grayfox.
Comment by Meffie on 26 May 2009:
I tend to feel that really heavy kissing in public is a form of showing off: I want to yell something like “get a room’! The photo we’re all talking about however, was not heavy kissing and was perfectly appropriate in public. My only reaction to the photo was pleasure at the sight of 2 people in love. I sort of noticed after the fact that they were of two different races. I want a man who can be my best friend…don’t give a sweet damn what color he is. Hell, I’d date a Martian if he and I hit it off well enough. Don’t have a problem going outside my race or even my species, if we share sentience and friendship.
Comment by Meffie on 26 May 2009:
Goodman: It’s not so suprising to me that Hollywood would accept gays kissing before they would interracial…it’s all about politics and showing what will have the strongest shock value. That sells movies, after all. It is, however, a sad commentary on how screwed up our society is. I really hope that our nifty new President can be a living bridge and gap some of the distances between whites and other races. People in this country really need to grow up and recognize that we are now a global community and the small boundaries of race, age, place, etc, are no longer valuable.
Comment by miss_chelle_ on 29 May 2009:
I come from an interacial family…but not as you think. My dad is Sicilian and my mom is just about everything else. In reality a Swedish and German couple is just as interacial, because we all come from different background and ethnicities and upbringings. It’s unfortunate that people look at skin color as “interracial” when in reality we are really all interracial when it comes to backgrounds. So sad that the world still operates this way. Have we learned nothing?
Comment by ed_36 on 1 June 2009:
they will get over it, the people who are not mixed dont like it because they are not interacial, and just because they dont like it they dont think it should be, but actually there is only 1 race, that is the human race, just many difrent colors and kinds of people. the bible says NOTHING at all about that it is wrong or what not, it dont.
they that get all uptight about it dont understand or know the real meaning of love or that it is ok.
if the two people who are together stay strong together and pray and do whats right and know to them in thier hearts that it is what is supposed to be, then its ok. those people who ridicule it
just dont like it because they have the stigma of the thing that it is wrong, but there is nothing wrong with it. - me : crusader37 : ed_36
Comment by KennyG1701 on 2 June 2009:
Wow, thats just so sad. whats wrong with people??? Cant they just let people be. We are all God’s children, so thats no arguement. There shouldnt be any credible reason for people to think like that. It sure makes me sad to think people do.
Comment by cj85 on 3 June 2009:
I personally like the photo and Im in agreement with everyone else.Lets get past all of the narrow minded crap that has caused problems in this world. I also find that Im attracted to black men thats just what I prefer and Ive raised my kids to just find someone who treats them good and it doesnt matter what race to each his own. One of my favorite paintings by Norman Rockwell has the little black girl going to the all white school with body gaurds and the caption with it says” The problem we all live with” maybe someday that wont be true but only if we teach our children to think differenlty. I feel sorry for those who are narrow minded.
Comment by beastwithin on 3 June 2009:
Nothing wrong with itIm dating both black and white ladies and for me it is not the skin colour that count, but the inner of person i’m with that will make or brake it
Comment by maverick704 on 4 June 2009:
As for me,I like that picture.Can anybody tell me where I can get a copy?Thanks.Anyway,It surprise me about the negivtive commemts about dating or marry outside their background.Then again,I’m not suprise.It’s best to pray for those who is narrow minded and their limited thinking.Most,if not all of us venture out into defferent background.I know.I have 2 wonderful bi-racial nephews in atlanta.So when i see two people reguardless of their background,i think it’s beutiful thing.I away want to go outside my background.IR cenral,Help.
Comment by allraces on 5 June 2009:
it’s interesting that most of the posts i’m reading here indicate a singular racial preference—how much different is that to the ppl who cant deal looking at a bm & ww???
in my life since DAY ONE i’ve dated ALL races as i have no prejudices or “preferences”(the politically correct term) so all of you who won’t date other races is either for 1 of 2 reasons (a) you dont like the color of their skin(which makes you a bigot) or (b) you don’t like the race of ppl(which makes you a worse bigot) so you’re no better than the ppl who dont like the ppl on the cover except maybe you wont use profanity…maybe
& btw so there is no misunderstanding Obama is NOT the first AA president of the US but he could be the first MIXED president(my research has shown there may be a couple of other previous mixed presidents)
to wit; his Mom was pure caucasian & he was raised by his caucasian grandparents & if you disagree based on the fact his skin tone is closer to aa than caucasian then yet another examply of your bigotry
btw i only come on this site once in awhile so by the time you respond it will be purged so i’ll never get to read it in case you’re hoping to derive satisfaction
adios!!!
Comment by Meffie on 6 June 2009:
White I agree with much of what you said, I must say that you need to leave some room for personal preference. I genuinely prefer dark skinned men to light skinned men and it has nothing to do with race or culture but is simply a matter of esthetics. The sight of dark skin against my pale skin is artistically beautiful to me, and as I am an artist, I guess I can be excused these flights of fancy. LOL
Comment by audrazum on 6 June 2009:
Your phrase is brilliant
Comment by cocobaker813 on 6 June 2009:
I really don’t care who kisses whom these days(color/gender/sexuality), as long as they keep it brief and don’t look as if the porn soundtrack needs to be played in the background! Love is love and it’s hard enough to find it without having to carry the weight of the world’s opinion on who I “should” be with along with!
As for all the proclamations of “I prefer(fill in your race) man/woman”, who cares what it is? To explain/declare what is “liked” or “preferred” in color is not the point, and sometimes comes off as limiting. Isn’t it more vital to find a lover/friend who compliments rather than completes a life no matter what color they come wrapped in? Personally, I’ve never committed myself to staying with one of the “128 flavors” men come in, because they are all too beautiful to stick to one color! To me, a man who can treat me the way I want to be treated is the “one” for me, and the color he happens to be will be a distant second to his stellar personality, wit, charm and self esteem. To be short and sweet, “It’s not his color, but his character”. You “I date onlys…” are missing out, so there’s more for me (thank you by the way, lol).
Comment by cocobaker813 on 6 June 2009:
I’m down with “allraces” comment(except the having no prejudices part, because I am human and have no problem admitting my prejudices about things). It kind of turns me off to read here about the “I prefer (fill in the race)man/woman”, because even then it seems a subtle put down of the race/ethnicity that isn’t preferred(and while this is not explicitly stated, it’s subtly implied).
I can’t even go there and say “I prefer to date White/Latino/Asian men” because I love all men, and it’s not the race or ethnicity I love, it’s the man himself; his personality, the way he treats me, how he treats those around him. Whatever his race happens to be should be secondary to how good his home training is when he approaches me. I have yet to find one specific race or ethnicity of man who is superior and does all the above all the time, because the only superior man is the one who truly loves, respects and admires women, and the last time I checked, that man is all colors, all races, all ethnicities. Those men who also abuse women, poison their communities and do nothing for themselves also comes in those same colors, ethnicities and races. There is no one race or ethnic group that corners that market, or at least I haven’t met them yet! Just as I want a man to approach me with no preconceived notions of what he thinks a Black woman is or how I’m “supposed” to act, I believe I deserve the same.
Comment by soulset on 8 June 2009:
I have never “responded” to any messages but would love to with this.
I come from a very diverse family and cannot understand why do people waste so much time giving their opinions on what “they think”?
If you go and read your bible, God made us all equal, that is the end of that. It is when man decides that his opinion matters, and it does not.
Life and love who you choose.
Love green, purple, handicapped, rich, poor, as long as you are truly happy with that person and honestly want to be with them because they “move your soul” why should anyone else care?
Do we stop to get everyone’s opinion when we are looking for a new job, car, house, etc.? So why should we even being to care about opinions when finding our life partner?
I agree with those who say that these people are either jealous or angry. When God taps you on the shoulder and says “look who I have found for you”, who is anyone to beg to differ?
Go out in life and get stared at, accept the “dirty” looks, invite the remarks, who cares…these are very angry people with very small brains, but we all know that deep down inside they have always wanted to try this themselves but fear of what “they” might say.
Follow the path that God leads you down and you will always walk on the road paved in Gold!
Comment by bellaone on 8 June 2009:
To MST
Wow what a rude statment to make about good looking black men with heavy white ugly as you said it women. Who says women white,black or any other color are ugly because they are over weight??
Who are you to judge who is good looking or ugly. It really makes you look ugly as a person on the inside.
My grandmother and a lot of friends are over weight but they are beautiful to me they way they look the inside beauty and the personality. You might need to find that love inside yourself if you feel you are not judging someone else by what You think they look like.
So would it be ok if a good looking black man was with me? You need to not judge anyone until you meet them and speak with them .
Then you can decide if they are ugly or not. WOW so amazed how stupid people are.. Very sad…
Comment by jamaicangirl on 10 June 2009:
Bellaone
I think that what the poster meant was that black men (and men in general) often point out that obesity is one of the reasons that black women are undesirable to them.
Obese white females, however, do not undergo discrimination based on their weight. Furthermore, the majority of black men who I have known to date white women have dated white women who are overweight. This includes my sister-in-law.
It is an observation. Nothing more.
JGirl
Comment by xdown2marsgrlx on 10 June 2009:
MST - not trying to single you out, but like others have stated and/or noticed, your comments are extremely ignorant and rude.
You stated the reason why black women might find it offensive to see a black man dating a white woman is the fact that she’s fat and/or ugly, especially if the man was good looking. Well, would that same scenario apply if the handsome black man was dating an ugly and/or fat black woman? Because I’m sure as you know, there are plenty of those too.
Would it really matter if the “interracial” couple were both attractive? Would the racism and prejudice stop? I’m afraid not. People are going to despise the couple regardless if they’re attractive or not. And remember, I’ve seen many beautiful Caucasian women with unattractive black men. Does it matter to me? No.
The thing is - why is it anyones concern who’s dating who? Black men (or any race for that matter) are not property of the black woman. He’s his own man. He makes his own decisions in life.
When it’s all said and done, what are the benefits in this life by being spiteful? Does it really make a persons life any better if they made sure they got to make a snide remark, laugh, or act obnoxious towards an interracial couple? I’ve been the victim of that type of animosity and all I have to say is it doesn’t ruin my day. Life goes on. And I’m still going to live life with the one I love — regardless if you or anyone else approves.
Comment by mslovestory on 11 June 2009:
Great couple on the cover…
I have come to terms with interracial dating…
(and don’t care who knows). If others disapprove, its “their” problem…(not mine).
The next time you are on a date, and someone stares…
(look them in the eye, and smile; they will look away).
Sit down, and enjoy your date.
Comment by dksb on 11 June 2009:
There is only one race and that is the human race..people need to get over themselves.For me it wouldn’t matter if someone was green with yellow poka-dots…love is love…I wish that the world was diffrent and people didnt have really stupid views on life.I am a product of an interracial relationship and i understand the plight of every nationality because im multi-cultural.And even if i wasn’t multi-cultral my views on the world would remain the same. Never judge someone from their appearance ,you never know who you might end up needing in this lifetime.
And if you do someone wrong for no reason;it will be a choice for them to save you from a car wreck or something else perhaps..people do not show love towards one another until they are in need. Its sickening .It takes all all kinds to make the world go round…All that you can do is educate people and wish for the best. Most people need to be humbled.
Comment by fullwd110 on 13 June 2009:
My take on the whole subject is that “true love” has no color, odor, size, or look. “True love” starts from within ones spirit. Whom you fall in love with should only have two criteria, and that should be if another person touches your heart like no other, and truly respects you for the person that you are. Then and only then do you have a good recipe for a good relationship. Actually “allraces” has two valid points. To say that only one race of people is your preference is by all accounts displaying prejudice behavior. The other point is that, we in America have had 9 black Presidents, before George Washington became what has been referred to as “The First President of America” The truth be told John Hanson was a Moorish black man from Maryland. John Hanson was president from 1781-1782.
Check out:http://www.dickgregory.com/dick/14_washington.html
In closing I just want to give a big Kudos to the maker of this dating site, and I hope we all find the love of our lives. Peace and blessings
Comment by thekid47 on 14 June 2009:
@dksb spot on!! The fact that there was such a reaction to this picture indicates how far we have come on the one hand and how far we have yet to go..
Comment by roadking1 on 17 June 2009:
Amen and Bravo to all who have commented on this topic. I am comfortable with who I am and what I like in a mate,love has no boundries.
I aplaud all who are here for what they belive in and see in others around the world.
Comment by TJONES6790 on 20 June 2009:
I’m sure we all set various stipulations when it comes to picking our mate. It is a serious yet personal decision that doesn’t require the assistance of others. Can’t we all just get along?
Comment by Taylor2009 on 30 June 2009:
OK me personally Im African American.And I love white men
Thats all i date because of the simple fact they know how to treat ladies.Not saying black guys dont.I have been into white men since i started dating.All thru highschool I dated white boyz.And yeah people would talk trash but we ignored them.So Caramel022 I was really feeling the comment you left. Then on the other hand Marjani or whatever your names was, your nothing cute at all so you cant say that she has granny arms.I mean really look in the mirror at your face.I would rather look at her arms any day than to look at your face.But anyway to all the white people that accept interracial dating I really appreciate it.When most black guys see white men with black women they wanna pick and say dumb things but it just show how dumb and immature yall are.And by the way I think white guys with tattoos are the hottest 
Comment by d.o.t. on 1 July 2009:
i think the problem is more about the history between the two groups. Slavery i think is the root factor here.
A lot of times i notice that when a white person expresses some issue with that particular union; black and white. They often have a sort of disgust in their tone…like it is gross or beneath them. Im not saying that white people are racist…but lets face it…anyone who has any serious problem with any kind of interracial union…is probably more racist than not. Slavery was largely about one groups belief that they were superior to another. wrong obviously, but those are the same type of feelings that seem to come out when whites have a express issue with black and white unions.
And what i notice, the problem blacks sometime have with the union is more a sense of betrayal than it is about straight up racism. It seems its the idea of someone “selling out”…not sticking together…abandoning who they are.
of course this isnt always the case…these are generalizations. These arent facts…they’re just things i’ve observed.
Comment by Ichibod on 1 July 2009:
The topic of discussion: Interracial couple kissing churns stomachs
James asks:
“I gotta ask: In this day, age and era, how can a mere photo of interracial couple kissing arouse such racist comments?”
Please bloggers, stick to the topic. Keep your dating preferences on your profiles and your negative opinions of your race’s opposite gender to yourself.
Comment by Ichibod on 1 July 2009:
jamaicangirl,
“Obese white females, however, do not undergo discrimination based on their weight.”
Oh yes they do. And I wish a lot of the females on this site would stop saying that they’re average when they’re not. Average obese woman maybe.
Comment by bellaone on 2 July 2009:
Commet to ichibod
The thing you have missed is that it is not only white people. I have been yelled at by quite a few black women telling me to date my own kind and who have even tried to fight me for my man that was black.
Racist are all colors and shapes not only white people then you are racist if you think that way as well. Then you tell some girl to check herself on her weight . That is ugly of you. People should judge each other by who they are not what they look like alone.
We all need to stop judging each other and love each other for our diffrences like color, weight, personality. I think everyone has a beautiful person in them if they can only find the love. Let’s all be diffrent and help each other instead of hate. It is very easy to hate. It is harder to love people for who they are.
I hope one day we all can walk down the street with whoever we choose and be happy and not have people say things that are rude.
It’s a beautiful life if you stop looking at what is wrong and see what is right.
I send love to all my sister and brothers of all colors…….LOVE will set you FREE!!!
Respect,K
Comment by Taylor2009 on 2 July 2009:
Comment for Ichibod, You need to remember all guys are not like you. Some guys like plus size girls.Im no size zero and my man love every pound on my body.Im black,but its black guys like you that make me date white guys.THEY SAY ONLY A DOG WANT A BAG OF BONES..SO WHAT DOES THAT MAKE YOU??
Comment by Ichibod on 2 July 2009:
Bellaone,
I was quoting a comment from another blogger. I myself know that it can be other races the undergo discrimination, but the blogger in question only mentioned white females. My personal comment about the ‘average’ selection in profiles was about honesty and one that I have been meaning to join the topic “Online Dating: To tell the whole truth or not” from last month. I put my response to her and my own personal opinions about some members profiles too close together, however the comments were in no way connected. I hope you understand.
Taylor2009,
Just in case you missed it, like I told Bella, another blogger stated that black men will date an obese white woman over an obese black woman. She used her sister-in-law as an example. That’s what my comment was in regard to. I put her exact comment from June 10th in “quotes”. I thought that she was wrong. All people, regardless of shape and size go through some sort of discrimination. I was simply stating to this blogger that white women are no different from black nor any other race of women in regard to size and weight discrimination.
It seems like you thought those were my feelings or that I have something against larger women. I don’t. But like I said earlier. There is a topic about telling the truth in your profiles and some people on this site and others are lying. I never told anyone to check themselves for their weight or anything else for that matter. But the search filters are set up the way they are set up for a reason. I like to search in all categories from time to time, but so that I’m not just paging through some super long list, I often break it down and search according to each individual filter.
I’ve often missed many profiles and mistakenly viewed many others because of my search filters and such discrepancies in profile settings. That’s what my personal comment was about. It had nothing to do with race whatsoever.
Taylor2009, let me just say this to you. I hope you can see now that I wasn’t taking any jabs at anyone for any reason. But your comment to me was out of line. I don’t want to come of as bragging or boasting, but read some of my comments in other topics or ask other bloggers about me. I’m no stranger to posting comments and I’m also no one to mess with. Not a threat, I viewed your comment was just a simple “I don’t think she really knows who I am or what I truly stand for on this site”. You’ve got me all wrong, babe. I just hope you see that you two totally misunderstood what I was saying.
Take care, ladies!
Comment by raytorayto on 3 July 2009:
To Ichibod, Bellaone &
I know you do not need meTaylor2009 to defend you but I would like to say to the ladies that I do not post often, I do read what is post and Ichibod was quoting another member and responding to her. He is, from what I have read of his posts, a very open minded person and does not take cheap and nasty shots a people. I do agree with truthfulness in a profile for exactly the reasons he has listed.
Have a wonderful and safe holiday weekend (yes, I know it is not a holiday for everyone but they can still have a wonderful wekend).
Ray
Comment by bellaone on 3 July 2009:
Ichibod
Oh ok . I did not see that . It is very hard on paper to come across the way we would like to sometimes. Kinda like text also can’t put emotions on paper as well.
I just HATE it when people pick on people for how they look . We all had no say in what we look like nor can we change it.
SO I try to stand up for those who can’t stand up for themselves because of people being mean or saying mean things because of the way someone looks.
We all have a heart and get our feelings hurt. But if we are unkind to each other what kind of world do we want to live and raise our children in.
I agree with you many men have told me that the women have lied and to those women you will never find a honest man being dishonest from the start.
No one ever won by lying. I wish we all find the loves of our lives and I hope we all take time to meet the person on the inside before judging people. I’ve found may more beautiful souls than pretty faces.
May you always love yourself first….Your worth it!!
Happy 4th early!! Be safe!!!!
Respect,
K
Comment by tatted2death on 3 July 2009:
D.o.T…..I appreciate that comment.
I think it is quite possibly the most concise response to this blog topic. There ought to be an award for actually staying on topic. (I might not get very many….LOL….sometimes it’s just dayum near impossible…)
And to Bellaone: Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and staying true to who you are….you have always seemed to be freely able to exude a positive vibe here….much love…
Peace and Blessings
tatted2death
Comment by Ichibod on 3 July 2009:
Bellaone,
I remember when I first joined this site months ago, I read a comment of yours on another topic. So I decided to check out your profile. Very impressive I must say.
Comment by godiva61 on 3 July 2009:
To: Ms. Bellaone,
It was great to hear from you once again. You and I have chatted before and I thought then, as I do now that you are a very kind and gentle spirit. It is easy for us(ALL) to sometime’s misconstrue what people write here. It’s to be expected. I think it would be beneficial to us ALL if we would not assume, but simply ask a person to clarify… At any rate I am glad to see that you have a better understanding of what Ichibod was saying. It’s not that we mess up from time to time, because we ALL do, it’s more important how we handle the errors, versus making the errors… When you fall down, just get back up!! You are a sweetie!!
love
godiva
Comment by bellaone on 3 July 2009:
Awwwww you guys are so sweet thank you!!! I have as well had my share of stereo types. Girls call me a bitch before talking to me and seeing the good person I am. It dose hurt my feelings . I am human.
I would give someone the shirt off my back if they needed it because I know I can get another one at home. Where as that is all they might have. And if I can give someone a shed of hope to make it threw that is truly why we are here and to learn there are no mistakes just lessons. I hope we learn the first time!! So we don’t have to keep doing the same thing over and over….
We all do need to ask each other what we are trying to say. Because to us it makes sense but maybe to someone else the words blur or offend another. It really comes down to RESPECT for oneself and other people. The old rule do un to others.
It’s easy to be mad about your job your relationship your hard life. But my friends we all have had our share of problems. But if your happy every day people want to be around you and you are happier as a person as well.
Instead of telling your friends all your problems think of the lessons you have learned. And why your a better person for it today.
I would never take back my lessons even the crazy hard ones because I would not BE THE PERSON I AM TODAY!! Regrets are the past crippling you in the future……
Much love to you all be safe this weekend and HAVE FUN!!! pretend your a kid again…..
Respect,
K
Comment by MsZ17 on 9 July 2009:
Whop cares about this with everything else going on in the world? I have a black male co-worker who was “secretly” dating his white girlfriend. She kept their relaptionship from her mother because she was supposedly so racist. When Mark (my friend), met the mother at a bar without her knowing who he was, she talked with him and was friendly. Later that night, her daughter came over with Mark and introduced him as her boyfriend, to her mom’s surprise.
She ended up really liking Mark (because she’d gotten to know him) and later wanted to date his dad, who was single! It shows me what I’ve always known: racists are hypocritical and STUPID!
Comment by digitaldreus on 9 July 2009:
Remember the green woman from Star Trek (Hot) hahahahahaha……..to each his or her own.
It’s not like any cares anymore and if they did what could do about.
Comment by Larry Sanders on 12 July 2009:
Well come to SAVANNAH GEORGIA a very Racist place under the surface where Black men no matter how great their character are not even considered as potential mates. They are treated as non-persons. Yes, hate is a big deal in America. Very little has changed. There is a lot of smoke but if you can see clearly, you will see that Hate is still there and as vibrant as ever. No TV show or Ad campaign can change that. Anyone who thinks differently is a fool.
Comment by carmelita81 on 14 July 2009:
Hello everybody!!
I just want to say that I am mexican and personally I love black men, I find them so cute and hot and to be honest I have dated a black guy just one time and it was not easy cause every place we used to go everybody was like WHAT!!!! I really felt bad not for what the people thought but for my boyfriend because I knew he noticed it but actually I was proud to be his girl and I used to walk forhead up like telling everybody this is my boyfriend and I love him and I dont care what you all think about it
Things did not work out but it was nothing to do with color, all I wanna date now is black guys
We all are free to think whatever we want but we should treat others as we want to be treated.
Peace to all.
Comment by prettybrowneyes on 18 July 2009:
I see NOTHING wrong with this pix, people will always have issues with race, I love kissing whitemen and see no problem with the pix at all…
Comment by bellaone on 18 July 2009:
It is EASY to hate. It takes no effort at all.
It is HARD to love because you do need to put effort in but in the end is worth it. And it is the most beautiful thing that was created for us. That is FREE.
WE abuse love and have no respect for the words anymore.
WE throw them around so much the meaning has faded. WE all play games because someone else started it.
Do any of us really know the meaning of LOVE anymore?
Do we have the time for all this non sense? Let’s get back to our roots. Do un to others. You don’t have to like people(any color) but you should respect everyones right to say how they feel and be with who they want. Who are we to judge anyone’s choice on a mate.
We all need to step back look at our own lives and do that, live our lives that we have control over. Let the haters keep on hating that is all they know.
I pray for us all to one day remember we are from the same maker which makes us family.
Live the life you have always imagined!!
LOve yourself, be nice, have fun….
Respect,
K
Comment by wanaBme on 19 July 2009:
I am a blond haired, blue eyed, white woman who was married to a black man and we had 3 beautiful children. born in 85, 86 and 98. When our first two were young I got fired from one job when they found out my kids were black. I was told that I was a horrible mother because if I truly loved my children I would have killed them before they were born so they would not have to live their lives as mutant children belonging nowhere.
The child born in 85 is a female and the one born in 86 is a male. When my son went to high school the word nigger was used on a regular basis by everyone including teachers. One teacher used to throw pens and pencils at him. My daughter was treated as if she was some kind of beauty star. It was amazing to me the difference in the way they were treated.
My last child was born on his big brothers 12th birthday and 3 years later big brother was killed in an accident caused by white neighborhood kids driving recklessly. The kid that was responsible for the accident got off scott free with absolutely NO consequences because “accidents happen” and “I should have a good cry and get over it” (direct quotes) Needless to say my husband and I did not survive all the trauma. That was in 2002. When I have tried to date as soon as any race other than black finds out I have black children and a black grandchild they are not interested. If I join a dating site and I put on it that the people MUST be accepting of all races and cultural back grounds I get lots of mail but as soon as I put a picture of my grandson or one of my children on there that is it, the mail stops cold. Why, you ask, do I put the picture on there if the mail stops? Well because I don’t want to waste my time. I am completely honest about me, how I look, what I am like, and I don’t want to waste time talking to people who “think” they are accepting.
I can definitely say from experience that yes racism and hatred are alive and well in 2009. I do not care what race the person I am dating is. I care about whether or not we are connected, have the same values, the same goals, are good for each other.. etc That is what is truly important.
I try to remember that as shocking as it is that racism is still so prevalent in America it has only been about 60 years since the civil rights movement and we have made progress. Thirty years ago my husband might have been hung for even thinking about dating me. We went to Alabama for his mothers funeral and we stopped in Georgia to get gas. A police officer came up to us and announced that we must certainly be lost. We explained we were traveling and why and she told us to get back in the car hit the road and under no circumstances were we to stop anywhere for any reason. Thirty or forty years ago and we or he would have been arrested.
I would also like to point out that we like to think of racism as the white mans sin but that fact is that every single ” cultural race” (after all we are all the human race so it really is cultural race) is to some degree racist. Every cultural race has their haters who promote their agenda of hate.
The beauty of it all is that like I said before we are making progress so keep loving who you love. Showing that you love them, in appropriate ways of course, in public. Be HAPPY when people stare because the more it is seen the more it will be accepted and the faster that change will come.
Peace and Love
Comment by bellaone on 20 July 2009:
To WannaBme So Sorry!!!!
Oh my GOD You just made me cry for you and your children also. Wow what a crazy road you had to travel.
I am so sorry for the people who mis treated you and what they did. That is horrfic!!!
My brother is half black and my mother is from Kentucky. We had a family reunion and I was afraid for him on what the other part of the family might say mean to him. ( I was ready to come back.)
My mothers father was decon of the babtist church in Kentucky in 1960’s. I’m sure my mother was terified to have her half black baby in the south in the 60’s .
For his safety as well.
She is truly a brave woman. I have seen all kinds of hate towards all colors and people. It is all ugly and un called for. They must have no lives of their own to have time to pull apart ours.
All we can do as people of all color is be the best we can and pray that one day we will all be loved for our hearts not our outside skin.
Once aagin ” We are all made from the same maker,
which makes us family.” By K
Live,Laugh,Love ….Be true to who you are!! Never change for someone else. Then you would not be YOU!!
Much Love and Respect,
K
Comment by Ichibod on 20 July 2009:
wanaBme,
Strong white woman. Truly deserving of that title.
Comment by jai44 on 22 July 2009:
ichobad you make some of the most ignorant comments.
Comment by karapesuthu on 24 July 2009:
Folks, there is no difference between white, yellow, brown, black or any other color. Its just on the surface. Look inside, the color of our blood is still red and our pooh is still brown…So, we are all the same.
Comment by bellaone on 13 August 2009:
“Since we are all made by the same maker, This makes us family”
By Karyn
P.S. We don’t always have to like our family but we should respect them .( All races.)
Comment by Ichibod on 13 August 2009:
Good to see you, Bella!
Comment by bellaone on 13 August 2009:
Good to be back missed you all!!
Here is a good one for you guys-
” You will never meet the right people on the WRONG bus”
written by ?
I liked it though!!
Comment by Ichibod on 13 August 2009:
That’s cute. Trademark it!
Comment by white power supreme on 13 September 2009:
Ya’ll Folks are weak and crazy don’t you ever consider that the whole black man white woman thing was started by MTV with madonna and her having that video with the black man back in the 80’s .You see they push interacial dating on the new’s media as well as gay rights . Listen to the music now its all hip hop and Rap personally it takes no talent to rap . To play music such as a eletric guitar and drums the piano yes takes talent and dedication to learn music .From Alabama where I live there is more interacial dating than I can stomach or have ever seen . Lets face it they want to flaunt it in our faces make us believe we are a weaker race it’s for sure not true . Never hang your heads white men let the white women go the black men will just wind up in prison for beating her crazy butt or killing her.Lets all face it white women are insane. I date only Asian Women…….Peace……..through more firepower.
Comment by white power supreme on 13 September 2009:
David Duke For president 2013 straighten this whole mess out. Notice that last name Duke yup just like another famous dude . The Duke John Wayne.
Comment by white power supreme on 13 September 2009:
Because I am White and of pure descent betcha my comment won’t get published am I right or wrong .
Comment by white power supreme on 13 September 2009:
Our Country yup there she sink’s one track thinking by everyone in this room . Noone would dare say well I don’t agree with interacial black and white dating …..ohhhhhhh No we couldnt say that in a politically correct America right. Freedom of speech is one thing Freedom of thinking yea thats a shame Noone does that.
Comment by bellaone on 14 September 2009:
To the guy who thinks he is a man calling him self white power. Your a dumb ass!!!!!!!!
I have never been sooooo MAd by some dumb ass commets by a red neck with no brain and no balls.
Why is your picture not up are you afraid we will see what a piece of crap you are?
You are why there is hate in the world , you are afraid of diffent people. Scared little boy. With no friends I bet.
My beother is half black and my mother is from Kentucky. It is called love not color. If you are so rasist why are you even on this site? Whites should not date asians either right?
Or you think that is ok because you do it?
You are a sick fuck i hope one day you get a good lesson in respect. I hope you go to the hospital and the only people who can help you are a black person can save your life . Then you will open your eyes and hopefull that little tiny brain will grow into a man brain not a ingorant boy. And you will owe them your life.
GROW UP CHARLIE BROWN. If you don’t like color people get OFF this site.
I want to see your scared lil face. Put up your picture. Then you can talk shit.
Comment by bellaone on 14 September 2009:
to lil boy white power
For your information. I have dated all races. The black men were the sweetest caring men i have ever met. The white men i dated did hit me not all but 2.
I left right away of course.
But to the idiot who thinks he knows anything he knows nothing!!!! Until you date others races you don’t know. As well as people are diffrent there are many racist in all colors.
Don’t talk about things you know nothing about!!!
I bet your a fan of Hitler too huh psycho????
Comment by godiva61 on 14 September 2009:
bellaone,
Wow the idiot must have made you really ANGRY, because I have NEVER heard you speak in this manner(lol).. Anyway, he is so not worth it!!!
At any rate, it’s good to see you, as always…
love
godiva
Comment by Maidinheaven on 14 September 2009:
White Power Supreme
Why do you like Asian women so much?
Comment by Maidinheaven on 14 September 2009:
Bellaone
Date whoever makes you happy. Life is too short to stay with someone who makes you miserable.
Comment by joanofarc66 on 15 September 2009:
Everyday I find myself still so very fascinated by the number of ignorant people in this world. The comment from “White Power Supreme” about this whole interracial couple thing bewilders me in that he seems to think interracial couples stemmed from Madonna’s video..”Like a Prayer”…when in fact interracial couples was first conceived by white men who raped black women (slaves) forcing them to have mixed children. So, be angry only at yourself not at everyone else. As for those offended by white power supreme’s comments, do not allow the ignorance of others to affect you…while he claims pure white descent, it is highly unlikely that he is, but claims that only to drive his case, but statistics show that we are all interracial to some extent. White supremists tend to tell facts that will favor their cause, but anyone with REAL intellect knows what the REAL truth is. As for David Duke for President, it’s Obama who was elected by the MAJORITY…Just remember that once you go black, you’ll never go back…Get used to it!
Comment by joanofarc66 on 15 September 2009:
I have yet to meet an intelligent Alabamian. Still waiting for someone to prove there are any!
Comment by bellaone on 15 September 2009:
I am sorry for my words. Dumb people like that get me going. What a dumb person to think videos are real life.
Why is he on this site also????
How can you hate when you have no clue about other races if you have NOT been with that race.
I hope in another life he comes back as a slave and has to endure what black people had to go threw as well as jewish people ect…. Now he has nothing to say?
Dumb ass get off this site and grow up. Our president is black and white . I am proud to have him as our president.
You sir are the reason why there is hate in this world from dumb ass people like you.
I will pray for you.
Comment by joanofarc66 on 15 September 2009:
BellaOne:
Your fuel towards this person is exactly what he is looking for. You have definitely stated you case, and I, among the countless others here, are all in agreement with you. Now, move on from this ignorant boy’s comments and let’s talk about all the beautiful people on this site who are here for the RIGHT reasons…LOL. You are a beauty…Good luck in your search!
Comment by raytorayto on 15 September 2009:
This is interesting. WPS argues about one thing and does another. Interracial is interracial even though some, such as WPS, try to only make it a B/W thing. I cannot claim purity of my blood though I can trace it back to the old country.
Now Joan just want to clear this up and not picking a fight but interracial has been around for more than a millennium. It has been throughout the history of human civilization.
Bella you should not get so worked up over ignorance. We must educate the uneducated (not mine and can not remember who) and by getting worked up fuel their fire. Never try to have an educated conversation with the uneducated and never attack them about their views, educate them. If you attack they put up a wall and you get no where. The hardest thing to do is to be kind to the unkind but you need to be at the level of educator, not a thug to get your point listened to and accepted.
Nough said, I’m out
Comment by Ichibod on 15 September 2009:
Ray,
You got to that before I could. Interracial dating and marriage has beging on forever. Mark Anthony and Cleopatra, for instance. Even Shakespear’s play Othello was about an interracial couple. I actually believe Adam and Eve had different complexions. How else would we have all of the different shades of skin we have today?
Oh, Bella.
I hate to see you that angry… or are you the type that’s more beautiful when you’re angry? Ha! You can’t argue with that guy. President 2013? Peace through more firepower? I think that was just a prank post.
Comment by raytorayto on 16 September 2009:
Hey what happened to my pic?
Ichibod, Cleopatra was actually believe to be Greek. It was Alexander the Great that took a Persian wife after concurring the region. Upon his death the empire was dividend. The Greeks killed his wife and child and place a Greek on the throne as pharaoh. Some of the strangest things I remember from history. However, I do agree that it goes back further. Can’t claim Adam & Eve as I don’t want to get into theological debate but yes sometime back (about the time my parents were born)in the day, I agree.
It is also believed that the term Black Irish, are references to descendants of the Moors & Irish, when they invaded Ireland 2 millennium ago (give or take a month).
I believe you are right that this was a plant.
I said I was not going to get into this some months back and here I am again.
Ladies, from Vanilla through Dark Chocolate you are all beautiful and each have something special to offer. It may not be what one man wants but there is a man out there that will cherish you and your uniqueness. Sounded better in my head and I hope you understand my meaning. Men hey we have it to too, so etc…
Peace out got to go as I have a craving for a little C/V swirl ice cream (he he).
Comment by Ichibod on 16 September 2009:
Thanks for the clarification, Ray. The Adam and Eve thing was just a theory I had.
Comment by bellaone on 16 September 2009:
To my family here you are right. That is why I said sorry to him.
It is not his fault is is who he is ,that is how he was raised. Very sad though. You are very right about no reason to get angry. I’m just sick of people like that more mouth then brains.
I wish love and happiness to you all no matter what colors mix it makes a beautiful rainbow!!!!
Much love Respect, Bella
Comment by Neicy05 on 16 September 2009:
I keep hearing that people can’t help what they are because of how they were raised… that’s just BS. I was raised by very narrow minded, bigoted and very prejudiced people. And when I met my first step dad for the first time, my mom tells me that I screamed ‘boogy man’ and hid under the bed. I laugh at the idea of me doing that, (I was only 7 yrs. old), because I married a black man and have a wonderful son from that man.
I have researched every possible race that I could to find a pure one, and the conclusions keep coming back to two things… there is no pure race and the only way to have one is if that group of people had NEVER had any outside contact with any other race of people.
I don’t like using the term ‘other races’ though, because I believe we are all the same race… The HUMAN Race. The ONE and ONLY race.
Why do people try so hard to keep black, white, yellow, brown, etc. from being together when we don’t worry about keeping black and white dogs apart? Same with cats and other animals… they are kept to their species… we are homosapiens… so what’s the big deal? If you find love, go for it…
I don’t choose to date only black men, it’s just the white and latin men that I have encountered are so insecure that they can’t deal with the fact that I have a son that is mixed, my step dad is black, my sis is mixed and my mom and me are white, native-american and creole. Don’t you think that spices and seasonings make things better? I do…
Well, I have said enough… it’s just that I get so irritated by ignorant people sometimes. But I try to live my life and let them live theirs. Don’t let people who are miserable and don’t know how to be happy, bring you down to their level.
Be happy… it makes their day worse. LOL.
Peace out.
Comment by triccinicci on 5 October 2009:
Neicy,
I think your words were right on. Truth be told most of us suffer from “miscegenation”, lol! I KNOW I’m guitly, lol, as it runs not only in personal practice, but in my blood. I think what’s shameful is the American whom can’t think for his/herself and is lead around by a ring through the nose like bleeting sheep. This type of person can’t think without the “mob mentality” of mass thought.
To me it’s a shame the media has to become involved in helping to put the message out there of what many are thinking and doing, but I think, largely afraid to act or reason upon. Sort of like Bellaone’s ethnic boyfriend who could reason enough to be with her. Yet couldn’t manifest it in the normal action of the qualifying perception he and she were a couple to people of his own ethnic communty; by merely holding the girls hand.
To bad he had’t come across your words himself. It may have helped him mature to that division - standing on his own, fully. Glad you have the wisdom to help others see a different perspective.
I’m older than you I’d bet, but in no less need of encouragement and wisdom. Some ignorance is difficult to fathom like the couple on the cover being made a target for their photo and the mag being basically called a rag for distributing such content. I think instead of beating the horse, I defer to Neicy’s words as balanced enough for me:
“…it’s just that I get so irritated by ignorant people sometimes. But I try to live my life and let them live theirs. Don’t let people who are miserable and don’t know how to be happy, bring you down to their level.
Be happy… it makes their day worse. LOL.”
Comment by notsureguy on 15 October 2009:
If god made us two diffrent colors and diffrent races im not sure why we would mix it all up,i think otherwise he would have just made us all one color to get around this confliction,in the past when we mixed races,colors,and language,he destroyed everything did he not? it seems to cause a problem anyhow so there must be somthing wrong with it or it would not turn stomachs.i guess we will all find out someday before the throne of our creator but i guess we will go on love for now.
peace to all live the best we can and be happy.
Comment by justin on 2 November 2009:
if color was no issue in relationships, then why are you guys on this site seeking it out? just let it be.
Comment by TricciNicci on 2 November 2009:
Notsureguy,
Er, God makes many different things, but have you not considered Nature, herself, establishes the ability to engineer variations of these creations for improvement, coexistence or mere survival? You misquote when you say according to Scripture God destroyed because of whatever color based point you were getting at. According to Scripture He destroyed the world as it were because man himself, as a creation unto God, tried to install a greater position than God’s due to the knowledge they had acquired. Where did race play in that?
You think mixing creates a smarter human? Perhaps, but if you get to close to the sun you get burnt. Still if you are on the equator a darker skinned human is produced. We don’t have to turn to God for sun tan lotion if we adapt a more resilient skin due to integration of genetics. Improved genetics doesn’t give us the right to usurp the Creator’s position. That’s all I mean.
People get all confused about Bible references. There’s a lot more to that book than meets the eye. Even that analogy you chose shows why race is unimportant. Apparently God didn’t look at that when he considered who was right and wrong. All were wrong no matter their color.
It is what you do with what you have which makes a difference. Example: The American slave trade used race to make a difference that debased millions. Clearly that is wrong. In some parts of Africa, slavery is still going on and in force between people of the same race. Clearly that is wrong. Slavery itself is wrong when it is forced. (Did you know the Bible says it’s ok to have slaves? Does that make slavery right? Maybe that’s what people at the Tower of Babel were getting at. Are people that work for some corporations a type of slave? But they are willing to participate. Right? Shake your head yes and don’t be shy about it. Get the picture?)
It was never the culture or color, it was the right and wrong of how it was being used. I wish folks could see that and stop delineating from the facts. Maybe someone can explain it better than I, but I’m sure you can get the picture.
Comment by wonka on 21 February 2010:
Yeah and sean patrick thomas is not only BLACK,but
hes’ BLACK as hell,he looks haitian!!.Good point
cibal09.
Comment by mecca77 on 23 February 2010:
yeah its about time i seen a commercial a black woman kissing her man at the breakfast table. i said it’s about time. black men always dated white women. more than the other way around. and?… i do not know if any one has seen it. its national. i think its a cheerio commerical not sure. but i was surprised here in the united states. it;s about time!!. i am going to play quake 4.
BE WELL
Comment by peter on 9 March 2010:
nothing wrong with it just treat eachother right