Ever felt like everything around you just screams SEX!!!!!?
Well if you really think about it, where do you find the Cosmo magazine these days? Next time, take a trip to the grocery store and you won’t miss one at the checkout. And this is perhaps the least sexy place on earth. But then again, the grocery store is mad sexy … where do we get those strawberries we feed each other during foreplay?
Well this is our world now. I remember once, I hooked up a buddy of mine with a 30 year old hot chick. And when she confessed to being a virgin, he got disgusted. Can you believe this guy? Suddenly, we constantly ridicule virginity! What is disgusting about a woman who still has her V-card?
In this age where sexual mores are laid down by the ‘greatest inspiration’ Carrie Bradshaw of ‘Sex and the City,’ those that strive to attain a love that goes beyond sex are the rebels now. The rebels are pursuing Chastity - “that virtue by which we are in control of our sexual appetite rather than it being in control of us,” as Mark Lowery, associate professor of theology at the University of Dallas puts it.
The thing is we always leave the door open, so that the option of sex is available. Nowadays people have sex before marriage thinking that it will bring us closer to our partners. Question is, does it really? Or does it effectively cause us to put up emotional barriers? Well, from my own experience, all the sex I have had has even failed to help me be able to sustain a committed relationship.
But this Sex and the City era, how do the supposed joys of sexual freedom to use or be used, to separate emotions from sex and sex from commitment, make one truly free? Where is the joy in that? We allow other people to touch our bodies but not our hearts. We always take the shortcut to intimacy.
But, is sexless dating a good idea in this world of “you have to take a car for a test drive …” mentality? Is it possible to take the risk, forsake the sex-obsessed culture and let someone touch your heart?
Well, if you are fed up with this Sex and the City lifestyle, if you are fed up of using others and being used, then seeking chastity is the best way to go.
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Comment by penny1265 on 21 March 2008:
Way to go!! I didn’t think men like you existed anymore. I pretty much have given up hope of ever meeting anyone because I’m not interested in being taken “for a test drive” and that seems to be a prereq these days.