Most men grapple with figuring out where their place is when their women bring home much of the bacon… including in the bedroom.
When some men find themselves with women who make more money than they do, much as they would love to make more, naturally, they are fine with the situation as it is. Some even admit that this somehow affects their sex lives… it makes it better. It’s like trying to provide sexual satisfaction to their women as a way of giving back.
Derrick Hayes, whose wife makes twice the money he makes, says in such a relationship, the man has to handle his business – sex that is. “You’ve got to be creative. You’ve got to be good!” He wants to shine in this one special area. Much as her earning more doesn’t make her any more or less desirable to him, he just feels an internal pressure on himself.
Two social scientists that were at Cornell University stated in a study dubbed ‘Power and Dependence in Intimate Exchange’ that “individuals offer greater sexual gratification to partners” based on several qualities their partners posses … and a higher income is one of those qualities.
For some men however, having a woman who earns more makes them feel like somehow they have failed their families and spouses and this affects their sex lives negatively. Most men in the lower-income bracket have higher rates of erectile dysfunction compared to those in the upper-income brackets. Stress, lower self image and the feeling of powerlessness plays a big role in this.
But some look at it differently. What matters most is the preservation of the male pride to the women they love. Men need the women in their lives to remind them how manly, desirable and competent they still are. And when this is the case, they find themselves able to embrace the evolving gender roles.
Ladies, even if you have a stay home daddy for a husband, find the one thing that makes him feel that he is still the man. It doesn’t have to be overtly sexual. It can be something as small as getting him beer from the fridge or serving him the dinner he may have prepared. Try finding the one classic traditional feminine thing that will preserve your man’s masculinity.
Does her fat paycheck affect your sex life? How? If negatively what do you think can be done to smooth things out?
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