Archive for the ‘Online Dating’ Category

Man with comatose wife finds love online

Tuesday, July 15th, 2008

I believe in online dating. And I believe that you can find true love online. I believe that online romance can be just as good as the real thing. But this one caught me off-guard.

A few months ago, married man met woman online. He lives in New York and her in Boston. But this isn’t an ordinary story of a married man trying to get some online … oh no! He has a 15 year old son and is still married to an incapacitated wife. She was in an accident 12 years ago and is in a coma – she can’t do sh**! The dude is now in love with this online cuttie and is not sure if he can divorce his comatose wife especially, because of his son. Whatever happened to ’till death’ :roll:

On the other hand, this online hottie feels the dude is paying too much attention to his ‘lifeless’ wife (her words not mine) out of pity than to her. And she has tried to convince the man to divorce her but continue supporting her financially.

What advice would you give to both of them? Do you think their love is real?

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Empty profiles

Monday, June 2nd, 2008

Some people not only make online dating hard for themselves, but hard for those searching too. Or should I say easy? Well it all depends on how you look at it.

Some online daters hardly provide specific information about themselves and even their profile photos provide no apparent hints. What is one supposed to write to someone that says nothing in their profile? Are do such people really expect to score in the online dating world if they are providing no info? How do you deal with this beautiful image that says nothing?

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Mom chooses my online dates!

Thursday, May 29th, 2008

Dating sites never seize to amaze me. Just before you think it, some dating site will have done it.

Match making … that is what dating sites do. But remember when mommy dearest used to tell you “See Doris next door? That is the girl you should marry.� Seems those days are back with matchmakingmoms.com. Mommy chooses your online dates for you – from creating a profile, to sorting through thousands of potential suitors, to the inevitable anonymous rejections.

On this site, the members are mothers. Apparently, after years of dating and marriage, parents know the deal-breaking nitty gritties that are often overlooked until too late in the dating game … like refusing to eat your vegetables :lol:

According to Dawn Miller, the coiner of the site, “An ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend may not always give an unbiased evaluation of you …Your mom, on the other hand, has seen you in many different relationships and knows what has worked and what hasn’t about each … She knows what makes you tick, and certainly, knows what living with you on a daily basis is like.�

I must say that I find the idea of letting my mom – mine especially – run my love life downright creepy. But is it really practical? I think moms will exaggerate a lot (except mine of course). Picture this – you have been accused of murder. What does mommy say when the cops come knocking? “That sweet child of mine can’t even kill a fly!�

Would you let mom do your dirty work for you?

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Online dating profile photos – The don’ts

Thursday, April 17th, 2008

Having been to various online dating sites, I think there are a few things I have learned by scanning through hundreds of profiles of eligible spinsters … and bachelors (not that am into guys but you know, some things are usually so off that you cant help browsing through the profile just to understand why those things are that off. Tell me again why I am explaining myself?)

Guys, if you’re planning on plunging into the online dating pool, here are some tips to keep in mind when constructing your profile. Trust me.

Now why would one have pictures that are virtually some slide show of past lovers? Much as there is nothing wrong with having pictures you have taken with members of the opposite sex, it kinda strikes me the wrong way as I scroll through the pics of a prospective beau. Could be just me but I think its one major turn off.

And while on that topic, please don’t upload dozens of pics of you with all your friends or you in groups of people. Who are we selling here? You or your gang? I mean, who the heck am I looking for?

So you love your beer or vodka or whatever alcoholic beverage that makes you tick. Do all of your photos have to be of the bar scene? If you must, do not put up more than one photo of you holding an alcoholic beverage. Yes, there might be that one picture that your friend took of you last year at that party holding a Bud Light bottle in it … which is not bad. But then when I click “next� and I see a photo of you tapping a keg, followed by one of you and your friends drowning shot glasses in a toast. Will I be wrong to assume that drinking is your profession? Or the only way you know how to have fun?

Oh! One more thing … don’t put up pictures of you posing with some celeb .. or those of far-off places you’ve traveled – especially if you not in those photos themselves. I mean why would you put up photos of the pyramids of Egypt? That ain’t gonna woo nobody. I know I am stepping on some toes but honestly, these travel pics almost look like a desperate move to me.

Am I being overly picky … going through profiles like I would look over resumes … scanning quickly for a few things: proper grammar, sarcasm and intelligent humor? Well thousands of other people are doing the same. This may sound b**chy but it’s the truth.

… And you are welcome. Glad I could help. ;-)

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Relocating for love

Tuesday, March 11th, 2008

Dumping your career for the sake of love isn’t that easy. Now imagine having to leave it all behind … family, friends, a home and that career of yours.

Well, some woman did it. She was six month’s pregnant and when the husband asked her to do him a favor and move to Madrid, between her and the three words in her Spanish vocabulary, she couldn’t say no. But not every one is so quick to start parking up those boxes for a partner. Deciding whether or not to move is something that requires a lot of consideration. This move will either bring you closer or break you.

Speaking of relocation, with the current rise in online dating, people are now dating across continents. What if he or she asks you to leave it all and fly across that continent to be with him or her? Would you?

When should you rip up your life as you have always known it for the sake of a relationship?

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The metamorphosis of online dating

Thursday, March 6th, 2008

Just when i thought I had seen it all, I came across this one:

“Dating Cheating Wives is your ultimate site to find lonely, horny, married women looking for discreet sex on the side!”

Would you? Is this pushing the whole online dating business just a little too far? What happened to the sanctity of marriage?

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Love on the rails

Tuesday, February 26th, 2008

Internet dating, speed dating, singles parties … these cant outdo what Germans are doing with public transportation sevices … they are becoming matchmakers and the demand has been overwhelming.

If you are a Berlin commuter, then say good bye to curses like “I should have talked to that perfect stranger.� If you are looking to contact a beautiful stranger you saw on a train or a bus you can now use a free online service called Augenblicke (Moments) to track them down. And the organizers call an international first!

The website, hit more than one million page views in less than a year, with demand growing daily, Berlin Transit Operators (BVG) said.

So how does it work you may wonder.

Passengers left love struck after a couple of i-hope-he-didn’t-see-me glances on the subway can use an alias and post a message, which BVG then lists according to metro, tram or bus line where the encounter took place. If visitors to the site recognize themselves in the description, they are free to respond by opening a private online mailbox with the other passenger where they can make thei interests known exchanging messages.

Here are some of the messages posted:

“You looked like a dreadlock fairy - I can’t describe it any other way,” wrote a passenger by the alias Kurzhaarstino.

“A light blue headband/headscarf, dressed in black from head to toe and a briefcase (!?!?!?). What an entrance… I was the one with a khaki-colored jacket, strange glasses and closely cropped hair half a carriage away. I have to know what was in that briefcase! That is at least one of my three wishes…;-)”

“A shy smile at the ticket widow. An eye-opening encounter at the end of the line. It often only takes a single, magic moment to seal a connection for a lifetime,” wrote passenger signing off as “Seeking Cute Ticket Salesman”.

BVG spokesman Klaus Wazlak said since the communication on the website is anonymous, the company knows little about the demographics of who is using the site or their rate of success. However, the number of mailboxes used for private communication indicated that dozens of would-be lovers were actually connecting.

“People told us that when two people smile at each other on the subway and then one gets off, the chance to meet disappears. We as a company saw that as an opportunity,” Wazlak said.

“But you drank your bottle of wine alone and I drank my beer. Maybe we could do it together next time?” went another message.

And in a bid to spice up Valentine’s Day, Deutsche Bahn were to start Flirt Express trains in 15 cities including Berlin, Dresden, Frankfurt and Hamburg.The two- to three-hour-rides were to work like speed dating, with singles seated across from each other changing seats and conversation partners every five minutes.

For those participants that got sparks flying, they were at liberty to continue flirting at cafes and restaurants near the station where the rail company was to have tables reserved and candles lit.

Do you think this transport matchmaking would work? Look out German! Your future could be in the hands of the next subway you hope on.

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Interfaith relationships in the US

Tuesday, January 22nd, 2008

28 million is the latest number, according to The Today Show on NBC … not counting the blended-culture unions! Much as multicultural relationships are challenging, when religion is added onto the picture, more tension is created. The Today Show featured the prevalence of interfaith relationships and how couples cope with such differences, particularly around the holidays.

If you are in such a relationship, I hope the show above was helpful. You can also read an online article that inspired the show on Tango Magazine, by Holly Lebowitz Rossi: Finding Our Religion: Cath-wics? Hin-jews? The face of interfaith is changing fast, but the secrets to a successful dual faith relationship remain the same.

This is some food for thought to consider when raising an interfaith family. Thoughts?

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Online dating has myths too

Tuesday, January 15th, 2008

We all hear of myths, and having been around for quite a while now, online dating has its own too. Although there are certain things you should be genuinely concerned about in relation to online dating, here are four myths you should be wary of.

Dating sites were invented for the antisocial beings: So most people who are afraid of socializing feel more comfortable dating online as opposed to a social gathering. But this doesn’t give someone the right to declare that they were created specifically for antisocial people. Online dating is suitable for all from all walks of life.

Online dating has been used as a means to various ends. Some use it just to find a date and others as a means to satisfy their interracial dating needs. So this avenue of looking for relationships is for all … even those seeking to have some harmless anonymous fun.

Online dating isn’t safe: Don’t you think this can apply to anything in the world? Walking across the street, driving a car, or just going on a one-on-one date can be unsafe too. The same thing applies to online dating. A certain level of safety measures is required to have success, you must use your discretion. Remember, don’t give out any personal information to a person until you feel it is safe to do so, wait until you are extremely comfortable.

No need to go to dating sites if you meet people all the time: Here is the thing… think about how many more people you can meet online in a short period of time without the hustle of leaving your house to go fishing. Think about how this raises your chances of meeting the person you will connect with. Many dating sites give you the opportunity to select the criteria for your ideal match. Dating sites also match you with other members based on the criteria that you selected.

This being automated it saves y plenty of time when searching for the ideal mate. Using dating sites doesn’t mean you are admitting to having a hard time meeting people. It’s all about taking advantage of all of your options.

Dating sites are for the desperate: Who came up with this lie? There are people who join dating sites hoping to meet people who they may not have met had it not been for the dating site. You may be living in India and would like to meet an American. You may be living miles away from your ideal mate and the only chance of ever crossing path with your ideal mate isn’t the real world but a little push from online dating may facilitate this meeting

Online dating is ideal for anyone who is looking for a larger pool to date from … a pool with different kinds of fish. Keep an open mind this year while searching for your ideal mate. He or she could be just a few clicks of the mouse away. Most importantly, use all mediums available to you. All the best.

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When online dating success is a problem

Tuesday, December 11th, 2007

Take this case:

“Believe me, I’m not a bad looker (my picture is posted); I’m educated; and I like to do things… but for me it’s (online dating) just not working…�

Then there is this:

“Three months ago, I joined an online dating service. I’ve been getting a great response — too great. I’m getting mixed up about who is who….�

The above are two opposing complaints about online dating. Some people why they aren’t to getting a positive response to their profiles, whilst others, too many responses become a problem because you have too many to choose from.

Too many interests in one’s profile may be a problem in that while deciding to follow up on some of the members who have shown interest in you, sometimes they are just dead ends and you may have been ignoring the one that may actually have developed to meaningful relationship.

How does one handle the too-much-too-fast situation?

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