We have seen the rise in of interracial relationships over the past twenty-five years but still there are any people who remain harsh critics of mixed unions.
Before - in the middle of the Twentieth Century - parents of Caucasian women seemed to be heavily against the idea of an interracial relationship. Now, with the Twenty-First Century here, it kinda seems as though African-American are against such marital union … with stories of them being against unions between Black men and White Women.
Do African American women really despise African American men who date Caucasian women?
Tags: black white dating, interracial relationships, asian white dating
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Comment by JohnDConkera on 8 April 2008:
Ooooh. There’s such a fun mix of issues with that question. Pretty much most - if not all - of them revolve around sexual stereotypes.
“Do African American women really despise African American men who date Caucasian women?”
Ahem. Those ladies who are upset with African American men dating Caucasian women should date me (just for comparative purposes, of course
Comment by LApete on 9 April 2008:
I dont care,it’s my choice as to who i date or dont date nothing against other woman or men,be happy with the one you love stop worring about the next person if your in a good relathionship be happy that your not a lone a night like many others are because they want let someone in because of the color of their skin,i want trade my happyness for that.
Comment by Sunsmiler on 14 April 2008:
As a black woman, I don’t mind when black men date white women. Besides, who am I to talk when I typically date men of various skin colors. I moved to a less diverse area in New York and most of the men that ask me out are white men, but I have experienced indifference from white women. I am so tired of people questioning if black women “despise” black men. Firstly, that reference (despise)is too strong (over exaggerated)and perhaps that question should be posed to other races too(not on this site of course:-)
Comment by Ginuwine_Ty on 14 April 2008:
I never wanted admit it but I thinks it’s true to a certain extent. Black woman complain about all the white women are taking their men and leaving them with the thugs and dealers and scrubs. That’s not true. I have lived out here on the West coast and I gets no love.I am a very good looking man with a great career and drama free and good credit. I guess that’s not attractive or they are scared of that and they go back to what’s comfortable. I love black women, all women really (lol), but only white and hispanic women see me. They are not afraid and know what they want. Even if it’s a black man. Like I told my sister, get with the program and stop settling for the uneducated and unmotivated fellas. Upgrade to what you want. Peace.
Comment by Sunsmiler on 14 April 2008:
Genuine, sorry to misspell your name I have an issue with incorrect grammar, please refer to your post to SOME BLACK women as the complainers. I, for one, don’t complain…or care if black men date women of other colors. Women (people) of other races (beside black) also have issues with “their” men dating outside the race… I know, I have experienced it. I don’t concentrate on it because I have more important things to do…like go to bed. Good night.
Comment by Ginuwine_ty on 15 April 2008:
Sunsmiler…You are right. It is some black women, not all. Sorry that I generalized. I see that all races have an issue with someone dating “outside” their race. I was just answering the question that was posed.I really wish that people didn’t see color but that would be a perfect world then huh? If people just sadi that they had a preference maybe that would be easier to accept. Oh by the way the name not misspelled, it’s a nickname and nicknames have no correct spelling…really.
Comment by Bronx347 on 20 April 2008:
GENERALLY speaking, it’s true that Black women DO care about the issue and, for the most part, are generally opposed. Let’s not kid ourselves, folks. Sure, we can play the “ain’t me” game all day long, but let’s face it, you peruse ANY blog/msg board geared towards Blacks, particularly Black women, you will EVENTUALLY find (without even having to fuss with the search engine) at least one heavily posted thread dealing with the subject; and bank on more than just a few greasy comments about BM/WW. And let’s not forget that it’s part of the Big 3, the factors as to why a “Good Black Man” is impossible to find. To review: In jail/DL/White Woman. Am I imagining all this?
Comment by poetlove on 15 May 2008:
Personally I date only black women because there’s nothing mor beautiful on this planet. I come across a lot of sisters who get sick in the stomach seeing black and white couples. I have come a long way but still don’t like it. With that being said i’m good friends with a white girl who only dates bros, so in her dating situations i’m nowhere around. Seeing a beautiful sister with a white guy kinda geys to me but I suppress those emotions due to being an entrepenuer and touring poet
Comment by ginuwine_ty on 15 May 2008:
Poetlove, I do understand where you are coming from. I’ve felt what you have felt when I was a younger man. I felt when I saw a white man with a black women, it made me feel like we as black men have failed or wasn’t good enough to be with that woman. I see now that love really shouldn’t have a color attached to it. We are all the same except for the shade of our skin. Peoples motives are their own and I have to respect whatever they chose. To me it’s fine that other races mingle together because last time I checked we are all the same race anyway…Human.
Comment by Radiantsmiler on 15 May 2008:
Well said my brothers. I appreciate all your sincere viewpoints! Ideally and realistically we are all human; I just wish that we were able to live that way daily in our society.
Comment by ozibornmale on 18 May 2008:
did anyone else read the posts on the article the had on bossip recently? talk about a wide mix of emotions..
http://www.bossip.com/16252/they-jacked-our-lingo/
Comment by queenbee40 on 27 May 2008:
Too much already. What’s wrong with this picture? I am a black woman with all the qualities. I am Smart, great career, independent, attractive and friendly among all others. Since I’ve been single, not even once have I had a black man approached me or even want to date me. I found that most white men are attracted to man and asked me out most of the time. and they seemed to treat me with lots of respect. So, I don’t care what ethnic group you belong to, as long as I am being treated with respect and dignity..
Comment by queenbee40 on 27 May 2008:
Too much already. What’s wrong with this picture? I am a black woman with all the qualities. I am Smart, great career, independent, attractive and friendly among all others. Since I’ve been single, not even once have I had a black man approached me or even wanted to date me. I found that most white men are attracted to man and asked me out most of the time. and they seemed to treat me with lots of respect. So, I don’t care what ethnic group you belong to, as long as I am being treated with respect and dignity..
Comment by helloitsme83 on 2 June 2008:
Love has nothing to do with color. It has been stated and stated and stated over and over again and it is the truth. Truth be told, it’s only a minority of Black Women that truly despise BM/WF relationships. In my experience and research, they are upset because they went after the ‘roughneck’ and thought they could change him. And now, usually 2 kids later, they want a ‘good’ man. They see such man with a white woman or a woman of any other race for that matter and all of a sudden he was stolen. 9/10 it was some kat she didn’t want in the beginning. She threw him away in other words. How in the world is something stolen from you if you threw it away? This can work both ways as well. I’ve seen kats act this way over a BF/WM relationship. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Some people have waaaay too many racial hangups.
Comment by ginuwine_ty on 2 June 2008:
Helloitsme is right on the money. I couldn’t agree with you more. I had to start laughing out loud because I’ve seen it too. Queenbee40 has a good point too. I wish peeps would just let other folks be. Like I tell my sisters out here, stop settling for almosts and wanna be’s, thugs, and criminals. Break the stereo types that’s placed upon you and stop waiting for that “good man” to come to you. Go get him,life’s a competition and if don’t get him someone else will…
Comment by e-dub on 20 June 2008:
This question can be broken down into a couple of parts: 1) Black Women who opposed to “race” mixing. I’m not sure how realistic this is in the good ole USA but to each their own. 2) As perceived snub of black women. Then it becomes a matter of intent was it just one of those things that happened in which case a-okay. However, if it was I won’t date black women or any women who has to straighten her hair that comes under the head line of just asking for it.
Comment by poetlove on 22 June 2008:
I have certainly undergone some new things since the last time I was on here. I recently became friends with lots of hippies and their concept of peace and love is kinda breathtaking. I’m not into the whole psychedelic drug thing, but there’s commune’s where the only time race is mentioned is who can make it from apple tree to apple tree fastest. With that being said it takes more than one trip or community to erase the years of pain and affliction caused due to race, but we can only take one step at a time
Comment by comeready on 28 June 2008:
okay first things first, several of the ladies talked about how smart, talent, beautiful ( I assume they mean physically that they are) and other positive charcateristic when pondering why they are overlooked by black men,do we really think that the problems lie with ourselves (as so many would like to believe)? What is the black man standards when choosing a women to date,look at the white women black men are dating and that should and your question, fat, greasy, toothless and just plain nasty looking so it not about black men standard of beauty, cleanliness or smarts they are apparently quite low. Second point, black women keep saying “I really don’t care” well you just ought to, look at the stats, quickest rising population of prisoners black women, fastest rising population of drug users black women, aids black women and so on, a sistah can only take so much before she loses her mind, no king no kindgom things crumble. It not just about us a individual women it about the profound, devastating impact that black men abandonment is having on the race as a whole, we are a disappearing people, it not about sex, companionship, it about black men racing their own black children by the way in the US what race of children are being adopted most outside of their race more than any other BLACK CHILDREN. So we are literally losing our culture, its value, not much is being put back into the race as a whole to revitalize it. It not about anger, hatred, jealous as some many would like to reduce it to it’S about a lost people. How can you say it doesn’t matter, when black men are raising and providing for white women and their children and our own are without. It amazing when black men especially those that has 900 children, get with a white women and all of a sudden they are the guy from father no best, he it a the library, the y, riding bike, throwing balls no 40 ounce in site ( ya’ll not trying to hear me) so you can continue to play all open minded and politically correct if you want to, but a black man that dates anything other than black is WORTHLESS!
Comment by poetlove on 28 June 2008:
Comeready I whole heartedly disagree with the last line, A black man that dates anything other than black is not worthless. I spent about 24 years of my life only dating black and don’t get it twisted it was great. I’m a traveling Spoken Word artist and the one time I went to my home venue, and took a Claire Danes lookalike, no toothless or fat and greasy, maybe a little artsy. The sisters were in an uproar, but I noticed the only sisters with a problem was the ones who wouldn’t give me the time of day before. Now it’s an issue and they’re saying what’s wrong with me, “nothing besides they didn’t pay me any mind until I brought Bethany around”. That’s the flip side to white girls taking all the good black men. Did you want or value them when they were trying to talk to you. I was established before dating a white, Educated, Own business + touring Poet, decent credit, so a white women doesn’t make you a man if you were already one before meeting her