Asian men have been the topic of the day when it comes to multicultural relationships. The image of the Asian men is constantly changing and unlike before, Asian men - movie stars especially (Jet Li, Rick Yune, and Chow Yun-Fat) are also being depicted as objects of lust. And suddenly, there is an increase in the numbers of Asian men marrying outside their culture.
About 10 years ago, an Asian man dating a white, Hispanic, or black woman was almost unheard of but according to a study of California marriage licenses, 18.9 percent of Asian-American men born in the United States are far more likely to marry women who are l white, 22.7 percent marry other Asian ethnicity, and 6 percent marry another racial minority.
One interviewee once joked that Asian men are the next ‘trophy boyfriends.’ Funny enough, his Caucasian wife also joked about this saying: “It’s almost like Asian boyfriends are the fashion accessory of the moment.” Well how true is this? What is the reason behind the new popularity of Asian men?
Articles have been circulating over the internet about this. I remember an article in the Sunday Seattle Times where a writer Sharon Pian Chan, says that Asian men “are the hottest things since sizzling rice.”This article incited quite a number of responses and letters to readers who talked about how wonderful and sexy Asian men are.
Wait one minute – have the tables suddenly turned? If my mind isn’t playing tricks on me, Asian women have always been accused of whoring themselves to white men and suddenly people a throwing a bash coz Asian men are sleeping with white women? Why is it that when Asian women marry a different culture, its betrayal, and when an Asian man does it, its seen as social progress?
Are Asian men also being subjected to sexual stereotypes? One white woman married to an Asian man writes, “Asian men make love even better than they make television sets.” Should this popularity amongst white women be interpreted as a validation of their appeal?
In Full Metal Jacket (1987) most Asian-American guys were repulsed by a Vietnamese woman saying “Me so horny” and now they are being portrayed in a similar degrading manner. “The fact that Asian-American men are seen as nerds hasn’t changed, only the appeal of nerds has,” says Tommy Kim a graduate student at the University of Minnesota who teaches a class on the sexualization of race. “Nerds are now rich in this dot-com world, and money has always been sexy.”
So why is it that when it comes to multicultural dating, sexual remarks always come into play? Can’t people just acknowledge other cultures for their personality?
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Comment by hiimsteph on 10 July 2007:
I agree with you whole heartedly
Comment by hiimsteph on 21 July 2007:
However I am dating an asian, he is so sweet I love him so much.
Comment by Tess on 11 August 2007:
I don’t think any race appreciates being fetishized in a racist way, however, is there anything wrong with finding Asian men sexy? Would you rather be de-sexualized? Just a thought. I’m a white female, btw, if it matters. I just appreciate Asian men, not exclusively, I like a variety of men, but I just am able to recognize that some individual Asian men are very attractive, and desirable, to me anyway. So, yes, it’s about respect. I don’t want to objectify anyone, of any race, even my own. But being attracted to someone is not a thought crime. Not yet anyway.
Comment by EvenSteven on 22 March 2008:
Google is calling asian men gay, and if you ever search and reference the words “asian men” and any type of masculinity term, you will come up with mad gay sites. If you google asian men you will find Gay websites, if you google asian men and add sex or sexy guess what? more gay websites. or and the asian female white male thing is insane…. enough said kill google.
Comment by Penis Health on 16 May 2008:
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Comment by Blue eyed bella on 27 July 2008:
My husband is Korean American,tall,6′2″,athletic build,handsome chiseled face and funny as hell. Yeah,he doesn’t mind being sexualized.
Comment by rachel on 23 August 2008:
I have the luck and pleasure of dating two asian men in my life - one korean and the other filipino. Though their cultures are ultimately different, I can say that they both made the best boyfriends/lovers EVER. What’s the saying… “Once You Go Asian You Never Go Caucasian,” well, I’m a firm believer. They are interesting, funny, considerate, quiet yet assertive, loving and make the best listeners. Not to mention, they are also extremely sensual and make the most passionate lovers. I have never enjoyed sex so much in my whole life. Gay? Maybe some, but in my opinion, they are 100x more masculine than any white male I’ve ever dated. They are also very comfortable in their sexuality - such a turn on!
Comment by CrazyAzn420 on 28 August 2008:
I’m an asian male and I will tell you that growing up my father has always wanted me to marry a vietnamese woman. to the point where he tells me to go back to Nam and meet one. Cultural differences would set us apart. I don’t speak fluent Vietnamese. I grew up here in the states and went to a primarily white school. So yeah I like women who are not asain and i find them more attractive then asain women. and as for the sexualized thing. It doesn’t bother me at all. some comments such as oh your asian so you have a small penis blah blah blah. if size were so important than why is my ex still dating asian men. and why would your (the dudes in question) ex gf be telling me that im better in bed. in all honesty i think color means nothing. if anything i believe that if there is an attraction if you believe that there is something there go for it. you never know.