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Dating sites never seize to amaze me. Just before you think it, some dating site will have done it.

Match making … that is what dating sites do. But remember when mommy dearest used to tell you “See Doris next door? That is the girl you should marry.� Seems those days are back with matchmakingmoms.com. Mommy chooses your online dates for you – from creating a profile, to sorting through thousands of potential suitors, to the inevitable anonymous rejections.

On this site, the members are mothers. Apparently, after years of dating and marriage, parents know the deal-breaking nitty gritties that are often overlooked until too late in the dating game … like refusing to eat your vegetables

According to Dawn Miller, the coiner of the site, “An ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend may not always give an unbiased evaluation of you …Your mom, on the other hand, has seen you in many different relationships and knows what has worked and what hasn’t about each … She knows what makes you tick, and certainly, knows what living with you on a daily basis is like.�

I must say that I find the idea of letting my mom – mine especially – run my love life downright creepy. But is it really practical? I think moms will exaggerate a lot (except mine of course). Picture this – you have been accused of murder. What does mommy say when the cops come knocking? “That sweet child of mine can’t even kill a fly!�

Would you let mom do your dirty work for you?

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We always ask this question. But doesn’t asking this question mean we still have a long way to go?

Take Grey’s Anatomy for instance. This is one television show that portrays a multitude of interracial relationships without even making a big deal out of it. In fact race is one thing that is never discussed on the show. And when asked, the creator and executive producer of Grey’s Anatomy Shonda Rhimes had this to say : “I think that issues of race are a larger conversation that people project on a relationship, but for the two people in it, that’s not the primary thing on their minds.�

And one thing that inspired me was when she said: “Part of a truly diverse world is not needing to make a statement about the fact that it’s a diverse world. When we get to that point, we’ve gotten somewhere.�

So do you think we will ever get there?

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If a someone is a former racist and was dating interracially, and later got married, would it be alright if he or she confessed to his partner of another race that he or used to have racial tendencies in the past or is this one of those things that are better left n the closet? Would this have an impact on your relationship if you suddenly realized the person you are in an interracial relationship with was once racist?

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Biologists say we should not be too surprised by spouses who have affairs

Monogamy could be the rule for the flatworm that lives in the gills of freshwater fish … but is this the case for humans and every other living creature? Apparently not. Biologists believe nature prefers that man and beast have numerous sexual partners. It’s no wonder even public figures like New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer and others get caught cheating on their mates.

But are we really wired that way?

TIME magazine’s science editor Jeffrey Kluger told TODAY’s Meredith Vieira that “Nature wants one thing, and what it wants are babies … It also wants lots of them and it wants variety, because the greater the genetic variety, the greater the likelihood that the babies are going to survive to adulthood and do well. So even when we’ve had children, we have some very primal software that keeps telling us, ‘Look around.’ â€?

Apparently, those animals – like eagles, geese and beavers – that we thought remained monogamous throughout their lives get out at night for a little extra on the side according to some DNA testing. Only the freshwater flatworm that physically attaches itself to a mate for life is officially the monogamous creatures.

Most cultures are polygamous and men screwing around is perfectly acceptable. But have we evolved beyond our biological impulses? Yes! Men and women agreed that humans do have the ability to override their genetic and biological programming, with 65 percent of men and 75 percent of women ‘claiming’ that they have never cheated on their spouses.

University of Texas psychologist, David Buss however attributes this to the reputational damages that accompany straying. “When people get caught straying, they incur reputational damage, and we are very concerned about our social reputations.�

Much as people shy away from admitting such stuff, we need to remember that that both men and women experience lust in their hearts … it is normal to feel attracted to other people besides your spouse. And as much as both men and women cheat, scientifically, men are more likely to. “First of all, men simply can breed more. Men biologically can conceive a child every day if they wanted to. So we’re trip-wired for that kind of thing,� says Kluger. And personality does matter too.

However, next time you are caught with your pants down, don’t say “Biology made me do this.� I believe there is no excuse for infidelity. We have inhibitions and ability to choose whether we want to or not.

Do you believe we are wired to cheat on our mates? Who comes up with this stuff anyway coz people

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How does she decode your celebrity fantasies?

Women look at a lot of things to gauge a man’s personality before she decides to take the next step. Some analyze clothes, his character and the way he treats other people. One thing however is that the things a woman finds desirable or undesirable may not always be obvious to the man.

Women tend to get very innovative when trying to decode a man. And one of the tools they use to take mental inventory of men is to assess whether they’re worth keeping based on who they’re attracted to – what type of girls. Its no wonder there usually is the innocently posed question: “Which of my friends do you find hot?”

You may wonder why she cares with her being the focal being. Well, for one, she wants to compare herself with every woman she sees - especially those you find attractive – so as to see how she stacks up. Second reason is that she sees the women you are into as a reflection of the kind of guy you are.

The latter is taken to be true in case of celebrities because these are the only women most guys will reveal their true feelings about. Much of someone’s sexual appetite can be predicted by one’s preference for super-controlling types, or sweet, girl-next-door babysitter babes. Here are some of the common celebrity hotties, what they represent, and how women judge you based on which type you’re into.

The Jolie: The rebellious/bad girl So what does this say about you? Apparently, men into Angelina Jolie are secure in themselves – I mean, any relationship with a smokin’ hot actress will definitely involve a to the intellect. HOWEVER, since this crush is too forward and obviously inhibited, men who lust for Jolie may also be decoded as those who have trouble expressing their own desires sexually, and enjoy it when a woman is in control.

Kirsten Dunst effortlessly oozes a controlled, pragmatic and intelligent temptress vibe like Jolie. She can also be a bit intimidating to men. On the other hand, Demi Moore takes the bad girl role to a whole new level, upping the stake for men who like powerful, naughty women.

So when you tell a chick you are into these intense celebrities, you’re also sending an intense message about your sexual desires. Much as women entertain the idea of playing this powerful (and steamy) sex kitten role in a sexual relationship, trust me, no woman wants to be your security prop, so make sure she also knows you can take control sometimes.

The Aniston : The good girl Jennifer Aniston – since being Rachel on Friends - shakes up images of the high school sweetheart … the naïve, sweet and often seems helpless, but with a naughty side just waiting to be explored.

Jessica Alba is sweet and sexy at the same time. She’s got the aura of a little girl who needs care and support and will later reward you heavily for it. Your girlfriend will definitely appreciate your crush on the good girls because they don’t come off as having an empty image, rather they give off an air of a sweet, girl next door type.

Men with such crushes are decoded as the type that like to take care of women … be strong yet gentle, and women love those qualities in men.

The Lohan : The party girl Linday Lohan is the kind of gal that likes to par-tay. She is all up in your face … arrogant and busy showing off her external assets in a most blatant way. Now most men would find this kind of package attractive. Problem is her age and her all-night kegger reputation can make those men who lust for her come off as shallow and noncommittal.

If the man you are eying isn’t scared off by Lohan’s rep of bouncing from guy to guy and starting catfights, then he can be decoded as the type of man who is okay with the idea of being used up. This is not the image you want to give to your new catch.

Other Lohan varieties are are Paris Hilton and Tara Reid. Both have Lohan’s propensity to catfight and the love for partying. In fact, Hilton and Lohan actually share catfights, as well as the spoiled wealthy-youngster attitude. This means doing it in bathroom stalls and never saying: “’til death do us part”. This isnt the message you want to send to women who wanna settle down.

The Barrymore : Eccentric and unusual Much as Drew Barrymore is very accomplished actress, she comes off as somewhat different – I mean not anyone can marry Tom Green, after all. Now if you can be attracted to such a quirky girl, then your girlfriend will feel like she can be herself around you.

Other strangies are Winona Ryder and Christina Ricci. Ryder, with a known penchant for stealing, clearly lets her inner-strange out, and Ricci picks roles as diverse and unconventional as she is.

A crush on such is decoded as a love for spontaneity, and an anything-goes attitude, which is fun for women. But let her know that there are some limits to this attitude of yours lest you start coming off as irresponsible.

The Simpson : The blonde bombshell Very little is known about Jessica Simpson but her, well, “outer attributes,” a crush on her will tell your woman that all you are after is just that … the beauty and booty. Jessica however is quite whiny and spoiled.

Most men wont have a vacuous, whiny girl on their wish lists. Therefore, a crush on Jess means you are only hooked to looks making you appear quite shallow. Other blondes whose looks might have caught you: Sienna Miller or Kate Bosworth. This type of shallow lust is not a particularly desirable trait in a man.

While most of these women can be seen as good or bad to your girlfriend, there are a bunch of celebrity crushes that could lead you straight to the single life. Good thing is, it’s unlikely she will run off based on this alone. Much as celebrity crushes are not always the truest test of a man’s tastes; if you’re trying to impress a girl who’s new on your horizon, be careful who you cite as your optimal fantasy fling lest she will fling you right out the window.

Are celebrity fantasies a true indication of people’s tastes in partners? Would someone’s celebrity taste deter you from taking the relationship to the next level?

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You probably are the type that would say arranged marriages aren’t your thing but from what I have heard from other cultures, they seem to work.

According to some CNN article, a young Indian woman explains that her parents are open to her dating and bringing home anyone she sees fit. But you know what? She “appreciated her parents doing the tough work of screening potential suitors.�

Well, may be it’s not such a bad thing … having your parents hooking you up. But would you consider it? Is it something we could incorporate in our Western culture?

Tell me what you think.

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