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Is porn the third person in your relationship? Are you enjoying the threesome?

Experimenting with your ‘mistress’ porn can land you into some deep shit. As much as we men think porn is harmless fun … women on the other hand find porn degrading and disgusting. Many couples have encountered this third party. Women catching their men busy browsing, ogling and even getting off on porn. Porn is like the other woman especially when ‘she’ is kept secret. “I can’t compete with those bimbos� is a statement most women use to express their disgust.

As much as some are adamant about it, other women do enjoy porn and have accepted it as part of their relationship in a bid to add some spice into the relationship. A friend of mine once confided in me about her and the husband watching porn together before sex. But apparently after a while, the boyfriend couldn’t get it up without the porn. And just like a threesome, suddenly porn became the better party and she got jealous.

The once harmless fun suddenly turns into an issue in the relationship. So is it ok to introduce porn into your love life? And how much porn is acceptable? Would you do it or do you feel its pervasion taken to the level?

Well if you choose to have the threesome, then make sure both of you enjoy it.

Tags: multicultural dating, cross-cultural dating, porn

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Do you believe that sex is natural? Do you think sex is as breathing and therefore you don’t need to discuss it? Well think again. I think men should make a point of eavesdropping on the so called ‘girl talk’ and hear the gory details of sexual encounters and disappointments being discussed.

I was in the company of my cousins once and I almost swore myself to celibacy… “I don’t know if to call it incompatibility, ignorance or mis-performance. Believe me some sexual encounters leave you screaming WHY THE FUCK DID I LET THEM PANTS DROP!!!â€? she went.

Discussing sex with men is one thing that most women fear. And most women end up sentencing themselves to years and eons of bad sex and phrases like “I Love my husband; we just not sexually compatible” become an everyday song.

Do you believe in the phrase ‘sexual incompatibility’? Unless your partner excels in mind reading, there is no way he or she can just know what you like and want. Notions like ‘if he doesn’t know by now, he never will’ will drive you to an 18 year old and wreck whatever good relationship you have tried to build over the years.

So people, much as we think sex is natural, it aint. And women, it’s never too late to stop using them dildos as a substitute. Talk to us men… not with your girlfriends! Let your men know what makes you tick

Tags: bad sex, interracial dating, multiethnic dating

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Dating can be quit tricky. Have you ever found yourself in the dilemma of ‘To tell or not to tell’? Does your spouse have a tendency to say things that would be better left unsaid?

Honesty in a relationship is very important. But so is being wise. We may fill the urge to lay everything on the table for the sake of building a relationship based on trust. But then again, don’t you think it’s wiser to leave some things unsaid for the sake of the relationship.

The video speaks for itself. Some things are better left unsaid. And sometimes, being a little selfish and lying for the sake of the relationship is necessary. Just don’t get caught

The truth can make or break a relationship. I was watching this TV programme “Desperate Housewives” (I AINT GAY GUYS JUST LOVE THE HUMOUR) when some dude named Ian revealed to the girlfriend just before their first humping that he has only been with one woman all his life. When the lady Susan said she had been with 9 men, it brought up issues and he man almost never got some… of course he did later on. Anyway at some point Ian told Susan that he is capable of having meaningless sex too which set Susan off to calling the man VIRGIN+1. That killed me with laughter.

Anyway the thing is this brought a problem at that moment and the mood that had been set vanished!! Kapoot. I think intimate details about previous relationships should be buried with the past coz they will make the other feel like a whore or inadequate for that matter.

As much as we may want the truth, don’t you think revealing too much or the unnecessary may impart insecurities, serious questions or comparisons to an otherwise secure and trusting partner. And then there is the dilemma of keeping things only for your spouse to find out later and flip. So what do you do then? How do you explain that one?

My motto is… Better to be in the dark. So what if you banged 1000 men or cheated on your former boyfriend? It’s none of my goddamn business. I don’t need to know. Problem is we men usually go fishing… STOP IT!!! Not that I don’t get tempted once in a while.

Tags: interracial dating, honesty, dating

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Most multicultural relationships experience pressure. Internal pressure within the relationship itself is something a couple can deal with eventually but a lot of the tension comes from family and friends. Then there is the negative input from the society at large… people you don’t even know or care about having an opinion about the relationship… mostly negative… simply because you fell in love with a ‘different kind.’

Am sure we all know a little about American history. We have all heard about the widespread violence between blacks and whites before. With slavery having created a huge divide, its no wonder multicultural relationships made the headlines, sparked tension riots and violence, and even laws were made forbidding them. Thank God those days are gone

Pressure is not only on blacks dating whites, even Muslims who have come to America have also had their share of the pressure when they get involved with the white Americans. So does this mean that it’s beyond the comprehension of other cultures when one has a multicultural relationship? We preach self liberation, we preach democracy, we preach globalization. So why is it that when all these things are translated into a romantic relationship, tension and pressure spark? Double standards on our part? Style up!

Wouldn’t it be better to be able to find love in all the right places, irrespective of culture? If I meet a Hispanic woman who turns me on, respects me and I her, then I have nothing to fear. And so should everyone else around me. I think what most ‘haters’ lack is respect for other people’s privacy. Let the pressure come from me and whoever I choose to date - if there should be any pressure at all.

Since we have come a long way – history being my witness,- hopefully, we can evolve more someday to a place where relationships between any two people can be treated without the distraction of culture, skin color, religious background or any other irrelevant factors. Coz trust me, all that is just BULL!!!

Can I get an Amen up in here?

Tags: cross-cultural dating, multicultural dating, ethnicity

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Ever heard one of your pals saying they don’t have time for a full time relationship? This is our world. People are so absorbed by working to an extent of not having time to feed the soul. But funny enough many career-minded individuals still want physical relationships… you know, those steamy sexual encounters that have no drama and frustrations that come with relationships. It has become a syndrome now. Most young men and women alike don’t want commitment.

The problem is some of us get into these CFAs (Convenient Fucking Arrangements) only to get attached to someone who made it clear from the did ‘sex’ that that is all they want. So what are you supposed to do then? Sit and pray to the gods that he will fall in love eventually?

Nothing against the ladies but it so happens that most women, after months of having a CFA with a dude end up getting attached. And when the dude refuses to commit, then they feel betrayed. These CFAs aren’t healthy coz when the dude doesn’t feel that connection, then you end up seeing yourself as just a ‘sperm pit’.

The best advice is that if its sex you want, then better have it once and ruuuuuuuunnnnnnnn!!!!!!! When hunger strikes again, go hunting for a different dude. That way, you will be assured of no attachment forming. Am I encouraging promiscuity? It all depends on how we look at it. But hey am just trying to be realistic here.

Wonder what name we can come up with for it besides commitmentphobia. Amuse me people.

Tags: sex, dating, interracial dating

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Have you ever been in situations where you had to initiate some sexual activity, and failed to recognize the signs? Most will agree with me that when such opportunities pass, they hardly ever return… I have just done that and you lost the moment ;). Your loss…

Invading someone’s ‘personal space’ can be somewhat tricky or even demeaning when it the concerned are in a multicultural relationship. And when it comes to sexual intimacy, its even trickier. This is the kind of ‘personal space’ to which each one of us does not invade unless invited to. Invading it uninvited may be interpreted as rape by some cultures, while for other cultures, closeness is permitted, but very conditionally… only when the knot has been tied.

Now that the two of you have been going out for coffee for quite a while, being the sexually liberal American you are, you feel like ITS TIME!!! So how do you go about this when the woman has stated clearly that in her culture people have to be married to get down?

Cultural values or not, there is some non-linguistic communication… body language… that drops a few hints to initiate sexual activity. And these are the hints we always fail to see. Someone once said ‘Do not ever underestimate the power of private meeting with someone… intimacy is a possibility’. Canny? Don’t be amused. It ceme from a man. Well this could be your only chance to score… or almost Analyze the environment… romantically arranged? If you are a woman and have been invited by a man, you can be 99% sure that the dude has entertained that thougth severally and gotten his goggle stiff a number of times. Seize the moment!!!

Or try the usual touching someone’s arm, brushing near them… they may just respond. But kindly watch for signs of whether your invasion is invited or not. If you are planning to spend the rest of your lives together then some of these cultural values need to be taken into consideration. How far can your sexual activities go? What is acceptable? What is demeaning?

Or do you wanna get married to a woman who thinks your first sexual encounter was rape? Mmmm…. Didn’t think so either

Tags: interracial dating, ethnicity, dating

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