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Have you ever had dating amnesia? Well let me be your doctor and give you the symptoms. Ever been on a date only to realize later that you don’t remember the name of the person you went on a date with? And no matter how much you dig in that skull of yours, no name pops up. All you remember is how sloppy the kisses were, how good she was in bed… You know you have it

Now that’s a man’s world for you. And men don’t just forget names, they forget even the unforgettable moments… that moment before the first kiss, birthdays, anniversaries… I wish I had a woman here so I could give you the complete list.

I was watching some comedy where this dude forgot the girl’s birthday. And when the chic lashed out, he said “Happy Birthday… that’s for next year�

I agree how demeaning it is but who can blame dude on a date with sexy mama for sitting there and drooling over the sexy cleavage, luscious lips to the point of having selective amnesia? Thing is, no harm is usually meant.

Ladies, can you please find it in you to forgive us for the partial amnesia? And speaking my fellow men who have it, we are not in denial. We admit we have it. That’s the first step…

Dudes I think its time to do some damage control. We need reminders on our phones for all the anniversaries (first kiss anniversary, first month dating anniversary…) and pray hard that the phone don’t comatose on you. We also need the name tags on the cleavages maybe to refresh our minds better… just kidding

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I was once in an intercultural relationship. Me and my lady had so much in common. Never did I ever foresee that one day… tone time… culture will be an issue. Well eventually, it was. In an intercultural relationship, we must acknowledge the fact that different assumptions may surface over time.

Opinions and judgments made are usually based on our world views. And this view is mostly shaped by culture. Problems usually surface depending on how engrossed we are in our cultural beliefs and values. Truth be told… who in their right mind would think her/his culture is inferior. Can anyone here admit that their culture is totally screwed up?

All of our life experiences through family and cultural background shape our opinions and teach us how to deal with life’s challenges. Often, this is how we begin to formulate prejudices against other cultures. The ego… “The way we did it in my country was better.â€? Does this statement sound familiar? Well me being THE MAN with THE PAIR of you know what, I eventually screwed up the whole relationship with my cultural ego.

The funny thing about all these cultural differences is that with time, we end up fussing about the tiniest things… the way the house is decorated, unfamiliar types of entertainment, different understandings of extended family relationships, the celebration of unfamiliar holidays, differing views of romanticism… Well you know what you fussed about this morning. Like it or not, we all have and would need to face such assumptions in the event of an intercultural marriage.

Someone once said that “marrying someone from an underdeveloped country and then bringing that person to the States may be shocking! The prosperity of North America can be incomprehensible. Likewise, the lack of what others may view as essentials can be equally shocking.� With our parents - who may have once rejected such a union - keeping a close watch over the relationship, what is one supposed to do? What will your priority be? Love or the way the clothes are being washed?

The lesson I learnt from my previous relationship is - Try knowing each other’s culture! Know what both cultures value. Keep your pair of balls in check. That way you can reach a comprise. Forget about how the clothes were cleaned. Focus on the end result and respect your spouse’s weird holidays.

So what if the assumptions are based on religion? You tell me.

Tags: multiethnic dating, interracial dating, dating

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Multicultural children are spread all-over America, you can’t fail to spot one on the streets and even on TV. They are evidence that two individuals from different cultures actually had relations… (Don’t want to go into details of the kind of relations) Once-upon-a-time, there was a multicultural relationship which gave rise to Barrack Obama, Halle Berry, Tiger Woods… you feel me?

So what do multicultural off-springs signify? Love, beginning of racial integration, hope?

Well according to a post from a dissertation on black/white relationships, Professor Rachel Sullivan interviewed black/white couples and family members to gauge their attitudes toward interracial relationships. And the main worry voiced by families over black/white relationships was about the children. Will the children be accepted by the black community? What culture will they belong to? Are they destined to lead a life of sorrow because of their social ambiguity?

Halle Berry remembers her own experience, “First we lived in an all-black neighborhood and my mom felt an outsider. Then she moved us to an all -white neighborhood to afford us a better education, where my sister and I were the odd ones.â€? When faced with such realities of life, a couple in a multicultural relationship may be uncomfortable with the idea of having children with their partners, for reasons of race. They may reach a point of… To have or not to have kids.

In a world filled with race and ethnic issues, will it be selfish to bring a kid into this world only for him to be treated as an outcast by both cultures he belongs to? Will you sacrifice multicultural love for sake of having children who won’t suffer prejudice? Well that’s reality. How would you handle it?

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Family alienation is one of many challenges facing multicultural couples. Societal discrimination also poses a challenge. Adding on to cultural differences that the couple may experience, such alienations may cause a strain in the couple’s relationship.

Society has a history of frowning upon cross-cultural marriage. Stereotypes further complicate matters. However some multicultural couples actually have stronger relationships as a result of the painful realities as racism and conflict with extended family members they endure. This may make them have an easier time negotiating the day-to-day struggles of their marriage.

Psychologist Maria Root, clinician and researcher at the University of Washington, says that multicultural couples are ‘attracted to each other for the same reasons that individuals in same-race couples are…They consistently state that they get married because they like and love each other.’

On to our poll results, majority (89%) said they were not afraid to date someone from a different race. (No, it’s my life and the hell with anyone that says otherwise!:89% -168 Votes). 21% said ‘Yes I was afraid of what my family and friends would say: 21 votes.

Based on these results, it means that if you really love someone and are dating for the right reasons, then screw society. Together you can overcome all the prejudice and cultural differences. And for those still afraid of dating someone from a different culture afraid what others would say, here is some advice. It’s your world the two of you will be creating and sharing from the union.

‘Differences exist and what needs to be looked at is how couples negotiate them,’ Root said. Those outside of your world don’t really matter. What matters is that the two of you are comfortable with each other.

Tags: cross-cultural dating, multicultural dating, dating

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Most people of the present generation have the freedom not to fret over color and ethnicity in friendship and relationship choices. The older generation however, disapprove of it… feeling defensive that they may be losing their cultural traditions, value and identity. Some people view it as turning against one’s own culture. Some think that mixed race relationships will eventually cause their cultures to shrink or die out.

I’ve never understood the problem with multicultural dating. As far as I’m concerned, ethnicity should be no reason for people not to date. And whether we view such unions as positive multiculturalism or not, the truth is that mixed culture relationships are a fact of life. This is due to the fact that the younger generations have had the chance to grow up in multicultural communities, allowing them to interact with individuals from a variety of cultural backgrounds.

So why is it still so hard to find a suitable term to describe mixed culture people? Why is it so hard for the older generation to accept such relationships as any other kind of relationship? Do people of mixed culture feel caught between two stools or are they nestling in the best of both worlds?

It’s the modern mix… your opinion counts!!!

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