My ethnicity is | Black/Pacific Islander/Mixed/Native American |
Height | 5'7" (170 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Long-term |
Body type | Average build |
Have children | Children at home |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Drink socially |
Nickname | Hotgirlshel, Woman, 55 |
Location | Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, USA |
Looking for a | Man, aged 30 - 50, Any Ethnicity |
My ethnicity is | Black/Pacific Islander/Mixed/Native American |
Height | 5'7" (170 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Long-term |
Body type | Average build |
Have children | Children at home |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Drink socially |
How would you describe yourself?
I'm a mother, a grandmother, a entrepreneur, a beautiful person inside and out, I'm calm, I'm happy, I'm a life long learner. Here is something to think about; Trust and respect have been so long lost that you spend more time testing one another, making each other prove yourselves, finding reasons to doubt each other, and vying for control than you do creating and enjoying your love relationships. And these things you call love relationships are often little more than addictive pain patterns being acted out. Love does not need to possess, control, degrade, withhold, prove anything, distrust, or conquer. Love simply loves. It flows. It is uninhibited, uncontrived, natural, innocent, and spontaneous. And while discernment is needed in the selection of a partner, it need not prohibit you from loving everyone. Did you know that humans are terrified of feeling the totality of unconditional love? You have been taught to restrain yourselves lest you make a fool of yourselves. You have been taught that it is impossible to love fully without hurting if the other person does not return your love and promise to stay forever. Without 100 percent guarantee that you will not "lose," you hold back a little or a lot. It does not really matter how much. The point is that the flow has been dammed and therefore controlled.
What if love were only possible by forfeiting all guarantees? What if love could only exist in the presence of surrender? What if there were no such thing as loss, only change? What if you had to let go before the other person did without knowing whether he or she will ever let go or not? You would risk disappointment; but that is all. If you have healthy self-esteem and self-love the person you love cannot devastate or humiliate you. He or she cannot make you feel unworthy; only you can! The object of love is not to win someone over, break through their barriers, make them need or desire you, or make sure you don't lose. The object of love is to love, to cherish, to honor, to adore, to respect, to never harm, to appreciate and never depreciate another. You can even love without objectification. This is the nature of your true being, your soul, your spirit. To experience love for no apparent reason and for no ulterior motive is a great sign that you are nearing completion of your trials and karmic pain. It is the way home to your true self. In the meantime, allowing yourself to objectify love is a step in the right direction. To fill your life with friends and/or a partner who naturally inspire you to love is a wonderful thing.
I am looking for
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