My ethnicity is | White |
Height | 5'11" (180 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Friends/Penpal/Long-term |
Body type | Average build |
Have children | Children at home |
Smoking | Do not smoke, but OK if you do |
Drinking | Drink socially |
Nickname | Greentoblue, Man, 43 |
Location | Beaumont, Texas, USA |
Looking for a | Woman, aged 18 - 99, Black/Mixed |
My ethnicity is | White |
Height | 5'11" (180 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Friends/Penpal/Long-term |
Body type | Average build |
Have children | Children at home |
Smoking | Do not smoke, but OK if you do |
Drinking | Drink socially |
How would you describe yourself?
If you're interested, please read my profile. If you're not willing to at least take the time to do that, please pass me by.
I had originally decided to delete my profile, leave the land of internet dating, and return to the "real world". This decision was brought about by my inability to find anyone local that I could really catch on with and my unwitting penchant for attracting those interested in long-distance relationships. However, instead of admitting defeating and retreating to my place of solitude, I've decided to alter my approach. I had tried the whole "let's be open-minded and not narrow the playing field" and the whole "lets keep my profile short so we have something to talk about" thing, but it didn't work. So here goes...
I consider myself a southern gentleman. I believe in treating women like ladies, whether they act like ladies or not. I prefer my woman to be a lady, however. I believe manners go a long way, and I believe in saying please, thank you, yes/no ma'am, and yes/no sir. I'm raising my kids the same way.
Yes, I have kids. Two of them to be exact. A girl and a boy. They live with me full time and I don't have any "baby mama drama". She is in their lives and it works. It's a complicated story that I'll eventually share. You have to be okay with that. My lady needs to understand that my children are my priority right now, and for the indefinite future (as in, until they move out). They get my attention and my time above all else when they need it, and I'm willing to drop any and everything for them. They're the reason I'm here and I'm devoting my life to raising them. That will more than likely require patience on your part.
I have a great full time job which also keeps me busy (again, patience). I work Monday - Friday, 8-5, and normally dome overtime in there as well.
As for personality, I'm not the "alpha-male" type. I'm not a testosterone-fueled go-getter who wants to run everything and be in charge all the time. I consider myself a hybrid. In the absence of the "alpha" or in a situation where nobody wants to be the "alpha" I have no issues going forth and conquering. It's not my preference though. I'm very laid back, easy going, and quiet. Because of that, sometimes I can be shy. I look at it another way though. There are so many people in this world who just want to run their mouth and chat chat chat, I have no problems kicking back and listening. You learn a lot that way. I learn from other people, both their mistakes and their successes.
As for character (yes, there's a difference between personality and character), I believe in honor and integrity. Along those line, I believe in monogamy. If you've ever cheated, pass me by. Once one, always one. I also think humility and modesty goes a long way. I detest arrogance and self-righteousness.
If you've made it to this point I'm impressed. Seriously.
I am looking for
They say opposites attract. In my case, that's not true at all. I'm looking for someone who is a lot like me.
I'm looking for a lady. Simply put.
Character: A lady is modest and humble. I think it's great that you think you're awesome, beautiful, and God's gift to mankind. I admire your confidence. But if you're constantly talking about how cool you are, we're not going to get along. Your level of coolness depends on how the other person perceives you, so I'll decide if I think you're cool to me. If your profile includes something to the effect of "do you think you can handle all of this chocolate lovelyness" we'll probably not mesh well. That is generally an indication of arrogance. Not always, I understand there are exceptions, but generally speaking that's been my experience. I'm not willing to take that risk in an online setting. Integrity is also a must. Don't pretend to be something you're not.
Personality: I'm also more attracted to the quiet type. I don't have any problems with chatterboxes, really I don't. But I get along better with the quieter types. When I come out of my shell they're easier to communicate with and I'm not always waiting for an opportunity to talk. I value intelligence. With that comes proper grammar and spelling. Use a spell-checker if you need to. You don't have to be a wordsmith or a walking dictionary, but get the basics right. Education. Ifn u snd me a msg lik dis then I prbly wont rspnd to u. I can handle an occasional lol or :).
Looks: I'm not looking for a model. Actually, I'm avoiding the model type. Not for me. I don't want a hard body. I appreciate soft, gentle curves. You could describe my preferred body type as "slim/slender or average" with curves strategically located. As long as I can comfortably get my arms around you and pick you up if need be, it's all good. I like longer hair, soft skin. I'm easy to please here.
Communication: I like to communicate every day in some way. I'm not a control freak; you're free to live your life of course. But a "good morning" or "how was your day" or "have a good night" are not too much to ask for if you're having a very busy day. I enjoy texting and emails, they're much more convenient than phone conversations. But phone conversations are irreplaceable. If you can't see someone every day, hearing their voice is the next best thing.
Sex: Frankly, I don't take sex lightly. I believe two people need to be in a serious, long-term relationship with a potential for marriage (ie, in love) before sex enters the picture. Sex is very important to me. You're essentially giving the most intimate parts of your body to a person, and that should be special. In this day and age I don't expect a virgin of course, and I'm not going to ask you about your numbers, but if you got out of a relationship and you went through a "phase" where you "got it all out of your system and you're ready to settle down", then I won't be comfortable with that. I don't want to have the thought in the back of my mind that those intimate parts I'm going to explore and enjoy aren't treated as special by you as they will be by me. Is that cold and heartless to say? Maybe. But I'm not pulling any punches. It's a serious subject for me and that's how I feel. Finally, if our first few conversations (phone, text, or email) lead to sexually-related topics then we won't be a fit.
I suspect that absolutely nobody will make it to this point in my profile. If you have, and you're going to email me, let me know you read to this point. I suspect people will either have gotten bored, thought it was ridiculous, or looked at the length and decided to forego the reading. That's okay. I'm not expecting any responses really. I've come to think my standards and demands are too high for today's society. But you know what? I'm okay with that. I'm happy. I'm not "needing" anyone to fill a void in my life. I'd like a partner, but if that person doesn't exist I'll make it on my own :)