My ethnicity is | Black |
Height | 5'1" (155 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Long-term |
Body type | Average build |
Have children | Children at home |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Never drink |
Nickname | Dvinepurpose, Woman, 43 |
Location | San Antonio, Texas, USA |
Looking for a | Man, aged 35 - 44, Black/White |
My ethnicity is | Black |
Height | 5'1" (155 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Long-term |
Body type | Average build |
Have children | Children at home |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Never drink |
How would you describe yourself?
Hi there! My name is Mary (see, now you don’t have to be afraid to ask my name 😉). I truly hope that I get the pleasure of learning yours.
Before we proceed, I humbly ask that you read my entire profile before messaging or flirting with me. Thanks in advance for adhering to this one request. Also, please know that I am not looking to relocate or date outside of Texas at this time. However, if Holy Spirit ever tells me otherwise, I’ll have no problem eating those words. From past experience, I’ve concluded that long distance relationships just aren’t quite my thing. Call me spoiled but I want you close and accessible. I want to gaze into your eyes while we talk, interlock my fingers with yours, become familiar with your mannerisms, know your touch and smell, and truly bond and build.
About me...I was born and raised on the south side of Chicago but find myself residing in Texas due to my career. I know exactly who I am and what I want in this life. Truth is, when it comes to my better half, I haven't had the best of luck crossing paths with him. Regardless of my experiences, I remain optimistic that true love exists and is attainable. In terms of describing myself, I am many things. All of which I’m hoping you’ll message me and discover for yourself (smile).
Seriously, above anything else, I am God-fearing and He is the head of my life. It is because of Him and his grace that I have made it to where I am in life. I am professional, yet I know exactly when and how to let my hair down. While most regard me as independent, I wholeheartedly value a man who solidifies his place in my life and has my back when I need him. My career calls for me to tend to the needs of others but I seldom get the opportunity to have that favor returned. That's where your tender love and care comes into play (smile).
There is a lot more to me and I would love the opportunity to share those things with you. Online dating is certainly awkward at best but we’re on this site so let’s attempt to make the best of it. I’m not shy at all so send me a message rather than hiding behind a flirt (I’m not a fan of the options they give you to choose from when replying to a flirt but I try to respond so you’ll know I got it and where I stand). Please remember, some of us women still appreciate chivalry and the process of truly getting to know their potential mate. I want it no other way!
I am looking for
Speak now or forever hold my peace huh? I want everything the Lord has promised me. There is no such thing as the "perfect" mate but I do sincerely believe that there is a man that is perfect for me. I am interested in connecting with a man who knows the Lord (this is not negotiable) and is true to himself. He wouldn’t be seeking to find himself through the woman he dates but would come to the table with his affairs in order and ready to establish an empire. He would be confident, goal-oriented, and consistent. He’s not looking to experiment with a particular type of woman but knows what he wants and would be playing for keeps because he recognizes a true jewel when he sees one. He would beyond a doubt be a family man, as I am a proud mother of the world’s BEST 5-year-old son and I desire more children with my future husband.
In all honesty, I truly miss the comfort and security of a monogamous relationship (intimate conversations, laughing at inside jokes, cuddling, vacationing together, finishing each other's sentences etc). I am more than ready to give the right man my heart and submit to a man who is worth following. And trust me when I say, I won’t follow just anybody. Maybe, the man I speak of is you?? And if not, there are no hard feelings. I will respectfully wish you good luck in your continued search. After all, I refuse to settle and I won’t knowingly allow you to do so either.
I would not be true to myself if I did not add that I am not looking for sex on this site. That’s actually the furthest thing from my mind. Mature adults do not have to prey on the internet to get their intimate needs met. I am here for a sincere, long lasting relationship. A real man knows that if he stimulates a woman's mind, makes an effort to build a strong foundation, and works to maintain her interest, he has already engaged in the best foreplay ever (I’m putting you up on game-don’t miss it!) I know he’s out there and I truly hope to talk to you soon. God Bless!
******************************************************************Recent Observations:
Kings, I have to give it to you, there are a lot of noteworthy options on this site! Unfortunately, there’s not a lot going on in San Antonio, which saddens me but God makes no mistakes. I’m also noticing a lot of profiles that at first glance appear to be promising then I see “agnostic,” “rarely attends religious services,” “does not want children” or “here for fun/sex” and the disappointment settles in. Not knocking your preferences or worldview, but wow, times have really changed! I remember when being an adult meant you not only had a stable career, a car, and your own residence but you also had a promising love interest. Dating didn’t refer to having a different warm body next to you each weekend but it suggested that you desired a genuine relationship and was courting with the intent to eventually marry. More importantly, every man of substance wanted a woman of faith rather than fearing/avoiding her, especially if he professed that his preference is dating a Black woman (hint hint...God is a huge part of our identity and culture!!!!) I digress 🤦🏾♀️...
On a more positive note, I’m certainly seeing the interest coming from out of state and it is so very tempting. But the way my parental and career obligations are set up, I know that I can’t fully commit to anything of that nature...it would definitely be one-sided (you traveling here) and that’s so unfair and just not where my heart is. I refuse to treat anyone in a manner that I wouldn’t want to be treated.
Just a few helpful pointers for anyone attempting to pursue me: sagging pants, excessive profanity, and any involvement with drugs or illegal activity is not attractive to me. I also don’t desire or need a “sugar daddy” so please don’t insult me with those type of proposals. Know the type of woman you’re approaching. My mother and father raised me right and set a great example. There are no daddy issues here. There are plenty of women out here who would love the opportunity to take advantage of you and drain your bank account. But there is nothing about that type of arrangement that I would find remotely interesting or ideal. If anything, I will go so far to say that I find it sad. To my older Kings, in another life whereas I was also 50 years old or older, I promise things would be different. However, I’m 38 and while I’m flattered by your interest, I’m going to hang out in this 33-44 age range where I’m wholeheartedly comfortable and most compatible. Please respect it! Lastly, White and Latino men...I truly have a soft spot and sincere attraction to you. I’ve dated interracially (but not exclusively) most of my life, which is why I’m on an interracial dating site. However, don’t ever take that to mean that I despise Black men (I actually love them) and will allow you to disrespect them in any way. That’s not happening! You will get blocked quickly. Let’s keep it respectful. That’s the only way I conduct business, friendship, or courtship.