My ethnicity is | White |
Height | 6'0" or above |
Status | Divorced |
Seeking | Long-term |
Body type | Athletic build |
Have children | Children not at home |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Nickname | Dsageman, Man, 61 |
Location | Eugene, Oregon, USA |
Looking for a | Woman, aged 35 - 53, Any Ethnicity |
My ethnicity is | White |
Height | 6'0" or above |
Status | Divorced |
Seeking | Long-term |
Body type | Athletic build |
Have children | Children not at home |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
How would you describe yourself?
Country Mystic, I enjoy the simple pleasures of life, quiet gardens, the smell of pinion burning, Buddhist philosophy, dancing with the one I love.
My spirituality:
My spirituality is a bit complex, although it seems to be simplified to me at this point. It's not a hobby for me. It is what I live and breathe for, because I have come to see that I cannot separate myself from the search for my true self, it is always calling me home. I am not a Buddhist, yet am attracted to the path because of its emphasis on directly experiencing God. For me it is a must that I have a direct conversation with the intelligence of the universe and I have delightfully found that it is eager and willing to communicate directly, in fact it is always communicating with me, and I hear it when I turn down my own thinking long enough to listen, another Buddhist concept, and a Christian concept as well..."Be still and know that I am God" Jesus was my first love, he came into my life in a direct way when I was in my early twenties and introduced me to mystical Christianity through A Course in Miracles and its teaching on true forgiveness. Introduced me to the Holy Spirit within me and taught me how to listen to it. I follow all of these teachings on a daily basis yet today I am primarily focused on waking up to the awareness of myself as consciousness, I have had glimmerings of this awareness but have yet to free myself from the illusion that I am a body/mind separate from everyone else. So the heart of it is my practice is to speak to the Holy Spirit directly through the practice of being present centered, sitting in the fire of fear thoughts that arise and try to get me to act as though they are real and need my attention, and chose to inquire into what is true and real and to honor that. Teachings that come from the Indian saint Ramana Maharishi. I believe this is the atonement Jesus spoke of, the return to the awareness of our loving eternal nature and of our loving eternal creator. I hope for my primary relationship to be a catalyst for this, an environment of mutual support for the return to each other's completely healed relationship to Self and God.
I am looking for
Spirit centered relationship based in the depth of basic goodness philosophy, tolerance for imperfection and unconditional love. I enjoy being in nature, Japanese gardens, traveling with no itinerary, simple and complex shows of affection. I need someone who will not shy away from true intimacy; knowing each other honestly and can hang even when the imperfections we all have show up occasionally.
A recent comment from one helpful person on this site sparked some ideas that I think are important to share here. The idea was that successful relationships take work, and I agree with this whole heartedly, there is a lot of work involved in discovering a partners needs and desire and learning where we can meet them and where we can't and dealing with the results of that.
Yet I also feel that there should be a large percentage of the relationship that is just easy and fun. A foundation that holds it together through those tougher moments. I think my partner should share my core beliefs and personality traits in order to allow for an ease in relationship. Sooo here are the core values and traits I desire to find in a partner;
Introversion; I enjoy finding quiet places like Japanese gardens, nature, peaceful places to eat out, off times at the movies etc. There are always times I enjoy the city or crowds but that is the exception rather than the rule. When I travel I like to spend most of my time in offbeat places with short visits to the spectacles.
Shared sense of humor; this one is hard to know unless in each other presence, but does not revolve around sarcasm, or the constant belittlement of the other.
Little to no competition; who gives a shit who walks in front.
Affectionate; enjoys and will initiate non sexual touch.
Sex; for me... Sex is the icing on the cake of friendship and true intimacy, not the cornerstone of the relationship. I like sex a lot and am pretty good at it if I do say so myself... But I don't want it to be the focus of my relationship. Too be enjoyed when it feels right for both parties, but not all of the time. This is a bigger topic than I want to cover here but thought you should know I prefer sex to be an occasional thing rather than an everyday thing.
Spirituality; My partner is aware we are not going to complete each other, we are already complete and able to share that with each other and work at transcending the parts of us that are still caught up in the idea that the world or our partner needs to be a certain way in order for us to be happy. Therefore an understanding of the importance of intimate nonviolent communication is imperative.
I don't believe in a God up there in the sky, I do believe in God as everything Omnipresent and intelligent and have had the courage to find and talk with it directly in my life and I know, not believe, but know that I am a manifestation of this intelligence and so is everyone else, as far away from it as they may be. I also know I have a lot of programming that is out of harmony with this truth and it is my work to let that thinking go and return to the loving eternal being that I am, and to support my partner in doing the same thing. I don't think Jesus was the only son of God, he made it very clear we would do as great or greater things that he did. I do see Jesus as my elder brother who deserves my respect and love... Same as Buddha, Krishna, Mohammad and multiple other saints that found god directly.
I don't believe in a hell after this life, if there was such a god that would cast one into everlasting hell for not professing his son as lord and savior I would choose hell rather than bow to that idiocy.
Living environment; I desire to live where there is nature, water, quiet, and beauty near a progressive city that is not too large but has enough diversity and culture to be experienced and enjoyed.
I doubt I would ever live in LA, NYC, even Portland Oregon is too large for me. Too many people in a tight space. Traffic jams and constant noise that is out of harmony with nature is no way to spend most of our waking lives, for me; I'm not trying to start another religion here.
That seems enough to get a drift of who I am, I wish you exactly what you are looking for and hope to match well with one very lucky woman who will make me a very lucky Man.