My ethnicity is | White |
Height | 5'4" (163 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Friends/Long-term |
Body type | Large build |
Have children | No children |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Drink socially |
Nickname | Dalifan61, Woman, 62 |
Location | Gilbert, Arizona, USA |
Looking for a | Man, aged 43 - 65, Black/Mixed/Native American |
My ethnicity is | White |
Height | 5'4" (163 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Friends/Long-term |
Body type | Large build |
Have children | No children |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Drink socially |
How would you describe yourself?
I have a strong artistic background and appreciate watching, viewing, and participating in artistic endeavors. I do have a serious side, but can be off the wall under the right circumstances. I care immensely about humanity, the earth, and the world we live in. I moved out west for the second time in my life because of my love of the mountains and palm trees. I am a LMSW and work in behavioral health. I have been with the same employer for 8 years, but in a different position.**I have been working towards my independent license and am overjoyed that it appears within my grasp at last. I will take my LCSW exam on June 12, 2014. My daily affirmation right now is "I Will Pass My LCSW Exam on the First Try." Any and all positive vibes or words of encouragement are welcome as I approach the most important exam of my life next week.** June 29, 2014. On my 53rd birthday I am happy to report that I passed my exam and have paid for the license. My application was approved by the credentialing committee but now I have to wait for it to be approved by the Board of Behavioral Health on July 25th. It finally looks like it will happen! My life remains busy but I'd like someone to connect and share with. I did my bachelor's in philosophy and enjoy intellectual discussions.
I am looking for
I'm looking for someone who is first and foremost capable of being honest. I do my best to be upfront with others and appreciate the same courtesy. I value lifelong learning and personal exploration and welcome others who feel the same. I am not religious but value the connection of all beings on this earth. I am liberal and independent, and appreciate free thinkers.
Update: Along this journey to find a caring and compatible mate, I have had my share of men who seem incapable of follow-through, or quite honestly men in their late 30's, 40's, and even 50's who still play games. At the risk of sounding bitter, because truly I'm not, I just want to put it out there that I'm really not interested in players or men who choose to continue acting like boys. Yes boys are fun, but I am a 52 year old experienced, yet vibrant woman with qualities that I feel the right man will notice and value.
A friend asked this on another website: ladies - what tips do you have for guys trying to connect with you? Here is my response.
Be honest and true to your word. Don't act like you like us, suggest plans and that you want to be with us, and then never follow through or suddenly disappear without a word. If you've been having personal, connected conversations, even if for a short period of time and for some reason you change your mind, be a grown up and communicate this. If you're worried you'll hurt her feelings by saying this, first of all, it's much more hurtful to experience sudden silence. So at least say something, even if you just feel more comfortable saying, "I've met someone else" or "I've decided I'm too busy to date." Just be real and show common consideration.
**Please note: I have viewed several profiles where men indicate they do not want flirts, only messages. I certainly can appreciate that, however, I sometimes send a flirt to show my interest or appreciation for what is written in a man's profile. That does not mean he will find me interesting and reciprocate, but it allows me to let you know you have caught my attention. Thanks.
I've read this, been told this, too many times not to say something about it. I truly do not understand why some men find it annoying or offensive for a woman to ask them to tell her something about themselves. How else do you expect us to get to know each other? When a man has nothing written or barely anything written about himself and he reaches out to me I'm going to ask them to tell me about themselves. And no I'm not going to just give you my phone number first. I have boundaries and I don't give my telephone number out to men I know nothing about.