My ethnicity is | Black/Other |
Height | 5'11" (180 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Friends/Long-term/Dating |
Body type | Athletic build |
Have children | No children |
Smoking | Do not smoke, but OK if you do |
Drinking | Drink socially |
Nickname | 1ShadeOfGray, Man, 38 |
Location | Chicago, Illinois, USA |
Looking for a | Woman, aged 22 - 45, Asian/East Indian (Exclusive) |
My ethnicity is | Black/Other |
Height | 5'11" (180 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Friends/Long-term/Dating |
Body type | Athletic build |
Have children | No children |
Smoking | Do not smoke, but OK if you do |
Drinking | Drink socially |
How would you describe yourself?
Hello everyone. I am 31, completely single with no kids, and no criminal record/gang affiliations ("Thug Life" is one of my non-negotiables so if you live/pretend to live that life: About Face, Forward March and don't stop until you reach the mine field). I AM an Army was veteran, though. I spent a lot of time soaking up information, reading, writing randomly and intentionally and gaining as many life experiences as I can as my Bucket List is so large it has it's own table of contents. I kind of keep to myself and stay engaged with my own devices when alone or around strangers, but I open up with the right people. I'll focus more on what I am looking for so we have something to talk about later. I'm aware this will be long however, do you want to know if I'm real or not? If I'm genuine or not? If I only want to get in your pants? If I'm psychotic? Finish this and see if your preconceived notion of me matches my words, and then decide for yourself.
I'm attracted to nerdiness, efficiency, culture, loyalty, and curves. I'm also into all races, but LOVE Asian and Hispanics (I've never dated a Middle Eastern women before, but I'm open to it-Racism is beneath me.) Your mind must be open and mature; sharpened and tempered to a fine edge through Life’s many whetstones; evolved beyond the confines of one-dimensional, linear thinking and able to perceive matters from multiple angles. A lot of how I operate as a man is accredited to my ever developing sagacity and eyes that pierce through the veils of unreality to see truth; a formidable intellect in my prospective significant other will go a long way in being able comprehend and identify with one another. Also, as I have made abundantly clear thus far, I articulate quite well and it would have been a pleasant and welcome change of nature if a woman didn’t constantly ask “huh?” or run to fetch a thesaurus after everything I said as I feel less inclined to lower my own standards and more inclined to help raise another‘s.
Steadfast resiliency; unwavering patience; the mindset of a leader (not a follower), both the experience and knowledge to grow from (instead of negatively react to) Life’s trials and tribulations; all wrapped up in a gown of bold, unbreakable confidence is such an attractive formula. In a relationship, a fragile woman is soon a lonely one or even worse, they become prey to the predators that lurk about. An ideal woman should also be able to openly communicate her feelings and not be in the habit of defaulting to a nonchalant sense of pseudo well-being, and/or when questioned about her current emotional state says that "she is fine" and "everything is ok" when even a blind-folded Stevie Wonder can clearly see that something is ripping her apart inside. Let’s be honest about something: How can a man truly be expected to resolve an issue of which he is made unaware because of a woman’s reticence? Or his own, for that matter.
It is often said that one’s personality triggers the initial attraction of the opposite sex and I agree fondly; You see, I have this theory that when someone comes across one that they find attractive, they begin to make mental notes while imagining scenarios that simulate a romantic future with said individual and I believe this is where the persona of the potential love interest comes into play. I mean, we’ve all done it: Came across someone who caught our eye and then imagined actually being with that person; their personality helps to paint the mental picture, does it not? It kind of flavors the daydream in a way. As far as WHO I wanted, I could have just stuck to the basics by saying “I like a good sense of humor, someone who is smart, someone who is spontaneous and fun to be around, blah…blah…blah”, but that bit is old.
I am very much attracted to nerds-always have been, always will be. However, I prefer the sarcastic, devil-may-carish, slight "ball busters" to the timid/submissive types. I like unconventional intelligence with an edge; A vivacious nocturne; my deadly nightshade; beautiful like a thorn-covered rose bathing in moonlight, with just enough Sugar to be introduced to Mom yet, Spice at her heart’s core; less like a classic bitch and more like a classy villain with a soft spot only for her beloved. A woman that, whether the liquor made us sicker or the greener made us keener, could still hang with me even after the rest of the party had passed out. My exceedingly loyal partner in crime when things got serious but, my rival and competitor when things got fun; ultimately, my best friend regardless of the outcome. She would be all these things because she wanted to be and not because she felt obligated to in any way; because she knew that no matter the situation, she was mine and I was her's; because she loved me out of passion and not out of paradigm. There are many philosophies on love that all say different things yet, seem to orbit around a single belief: If you are truly meant to be with someone, you will be, but personally, I don't even believe you exist anymore and I would rather be alone than settle. So, with that being said I will continue to go on with my single life as if this piece were never written and if you really are out there then I guess you will be the contradiction to my lone-wolf lifestyle (in theory) and I will gladly devote myself to you, but for now my life goes on as shall I.
I am looking for
Right now, I am just seeing what is out here. I currently have no expectations-it all kind of depends on you and who you are...